Husband wants to take a week long trip when I’m 32 weeks pregnant

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Anonymous wrote:You’re about to be a mom. You should be able to stay home alone.

Yeah, how can you expect to care for another human being if simply being away from your husband for a week is this big of an issue?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd say no. At that stage bad things can happen very quickly - I developed severe pre-eclampsia within a 48 hour time period, and could not have handled a hospital stay by myself.

Also, I've always believed if the pregnant woman can't do it, the father shouldn't be doing it, either. Not a great start to parenthood and equal divisions.

I’m a mom of three and I have the exact opposite attitude. If we both use the least common denominator for when we can have fun, we each will have much less fun. People should have fun when they can, together or separately. In a few months, OP might be ready to go off for a week and want him to step up with the baby.
Especially considering your family is close by, I’d say definitely yes. But make sure you get credit for being an amazing wife!

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Unless you are having a high-risk pregnancy or a complication develops this really should not be a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd say no. At that stage bad things can happen very quickly - I developed severe pre-eclampsia within a 48 hour time period, and could not have handled a hospital stay by myself.

Also, I've always believed if the pregnant woman can't do it, the father shouldn't be doing it, either. Not a great start to parenthood and equal divisions.

Oh please

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted to start off by saying that DH is amazing and has been incredibly supportive of me throughout this entire pregnancy (and before).

His friends have this week long fishing trip about 18 hours away from home planned that he has always wanted to go to and that he never had the opportunity to do so until two months from now- when I’ll be about 32 weeks pregnant with our first child. He asked me if I’m ok with it as I’ll be alone in our place but I do have family that will be within very short distance from me. He told me that he’s ok with skipping it if I didn’t want him to go but that this trip probably won’t happen again with the same group of people.

I’m conflicted in what to do in this situation. I honestly don’t like to be alone and I’ll feel lonely and bored in the week that he’ll be away and of course I’m worried that it is possible to give birth anytime even though it’s not a high risk pregnancy so far. At the same time I really want DH to go and enjoy this experience and I’ll feel so bad and guilty if I say no (which he’ll listen to me if I do).

What would you do in this situation?

Are you for real? Grow up. I had twins, which were a high-risk pregnancy, and I wouldn't have stopped my husband from going on a trip at 32 weeks. You have 8 weeks to go. Let him have fun. The fact that you will be BORED if he's gone for a week is pretty pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:First of all, I love that he expressed that he wants to go but is leaving the decision up to you. Secondly, I love that you are being honest about your feelings. Personally, at 32 weeks, I would encourage him to go, knowing that it will probably be his only opportunity for a long time! Having him home when you have a young child in the house (while not a necessity....) is wonderful and truthfully, he will probably not have a chance to take a trip like this again for a long time. Could you ask a family member to come spend a night with you? Or do one final weekend get together before kids with a close friend...invite them to your home. You don't realize this now, but it will be lovely to have a few quiet days to yourself where you can sleep and eat when you want to. Good luck with your delivery and congratulations on expanding your family. I wish you the best!

Why not? She's having one baby. She won't be able to take care of it by herself for a long time? How do you people function in the real world?

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Anonymous wrote:Can a family member come stay over with you? How close are they?

Yes my parents are super close by - It’s easier for me to stay over with them.

How old are you?

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I went on business trips myself when I was that pregnant. It is fine. Enjoy time to yurself and see some girlfriends.

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Anonymous wrote:Not a big deal at 32 weeks. Very rare to go into labor at that stage especially if you’ve had a risk free pregnancy thus far. I went on a business trip (flight) at 34 weeks and everything was fine. And it will be the last time he can do something like that kid-free and much easier for you now than any trip in the future.

This. I was still traveling for work at 32 weeks.

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Anonymous wrote:I would let him go

I did when my first one was about same 32 weeks and I was high risk pregnancies

As long as you know he’s there for you and this isn’t a guys BS trip that will happen every year etc I wouldn’t want him to miss it.

Who cares if it is an annual thing? My husband does annual trips with different groups of friends (one from college, one current neighborhood friends), and I wouldn't stop him from doing either of those even though they do it every year.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can a family member come stay over with you? How close are they?

Yes my parents are super close by - It’s easier for me to stay over with them.

I'm so tired of the 12 year olds posting here.

+1000

Either the people posting have become more obnoxious or the trolls are trying to drum up traffic but the posts the last few months have been so annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd say no. At that stage bad things can happen very quickly - I developed severe pre-eclampsia within a 48 hour time period, and could not have handled a hospital stay by myself.

Also, I've always believed if the pregnant woman can't do it, the father shouldn't be doing it, either. Not a great start to parenthood and equal divisions.

Well OP could go somewhere now if she wanted to so what's your point? Some of you people are extra fragile.

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely tell him to go in the trip. You will NOT want him to do this trip while you have a baby/toddler. Let him have fun!

Are you serious? You wouldn't let your husband go on a trip when you have a toddler at home? Even a baby isn't a big deal, assuming you're past the first few weeks of craziness.

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Anonymous wrote:Let him go, just make sure you have friends or family on call. And just accept that he is what he is, you can’t change him.

And she shouldn't want to. What her husband wants to do is totally normal. If OP wants to control that she should be alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not a big deal at 32 weeks. Very rare to go into labor at that stage especially if you’ve had a risk free pregnancy thus far. I went on a business trip (flight) at 34 weeks and everything was fine. And it will be the last time he can do something like that kid-free and much easier for you now than any trip in the future.

This. I was still traveling for work at 32 weeks.

+1
32 weeks is 2 months to go