Wedding with kids question...

[Anonymous]

So tacky to not include family kids. OP, my cousin (only cousin - we’re a small family) is getting married next month and my teenagers aren’t invited. Teenagers! It’s a black tie deal, rich bride, signature wedding cocktail situation. I give it 5 yrs.

[Anonymous]

It’s extremely clear your kids are not invited. They told you who is. Don’t be that entitled prick that tries to guilt people into inviting your spawn to their event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got a save the date for my cousin's wedding and it was addressed to only my husband and I, not the ___ family. Should I assume my kids (age 7 and 13) are definitely not invited? I am a bit surprised they wouldn't include them. I understand when people don't want babies/toddlers there. Trying not to take it personally as I know they tried to save money on the wedding by having it on a Monday. It's on the West coast, so if they really aren't invited, not sure my husband can go as we would need childcare from a Fri to Tues and his family is 6 hours away and they work. We would both want to go, and my 13 year old was looking forward to it, but I had to tell him they maybe aren't invited.
Anyway, is it worth asking them to confirm (in a polite way of course) or just leave it alone and assume from the envelope they aren't invited?
We were very close over the last year or so as they moved near us for work and we spent a good amount of time with them. They came to my kids games, etc. I had an engagement party for them.
Thanks!

Ask your aunt or have your parent who is the sibling of cousin’s parent ask.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't think cousins children would be invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So tacky to not include family kids. OP, my cousin (only cousin - we’re a small family) is getting married next month and my teenagers aren’t invited. Teenagers! It’s a black tie deal, rich bride, signature wedding cocktail situation. I give it 5 yrs.

Most black tie weddings don't include non adults. It's not a money thing usually.

[Anonymous]

Call and ask, it’s their own fault for not being clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So tacky to not include family kids. OP, my cousin (only cousin - we’re a small family) is getting married next month and my teenagers aren’t invited. Teenagers! It’s a black tie deal, rich bride, signature wedding cocktail situation. I give it 5 yrs.

I don't think that's what tacky means. And it's crappy of you to doom the wedding just because your kids weren't invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call and ask, it’s their own fault for not being clear.

In what way was the Save the Date NOT clear? It listed WHO should save the date. It's 100% clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call and ask, it’s their own fault for not being clear.

They were quite clear. The invitation was addressed to OP and her DH, not OP’s family. People continually make this more difficult than necessary. The names of the invited guests are on the save the date, invitation, announcement, etc. It’s that simple.

Asking family members creates awkwardness and in some cases guilts the person into including people who were not intended to be invited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We got a save the date for my cousin's wedding and it was addressed to only my husband and I, not the ___ family. Should I assume my kids (age 7 and 13) are definitely not invited? I am a bit surprised they wouldn't include them. I understand when people don't want babies/toddlers there. Trying not to take it personally as I know they tried to save money on the wedding by having it on a Monday. It's on the West coast, so if they really aren't invited, not sure my husband can go as we would need childcare from a Fri to Tues and his family is 6 hours away and they work. We would both want to go, and my 13 year old was looking forward to it, but I had to tell him they maybe aren't invited.
Anyway, is it worth asking them to confirm (in a polite way of course) or just leave it alone and assume from the envelope they aren't invited?
We were very close over the last year or so as they moved near us for work and we spent a good amount of time with them. They came to my kids games, etc. I had an engagement party for them.
Thanks!

Ask your aunt or have your parent who is the sibling of cousin’s parent ask.

Don’t do this. It puts the aunt and your parent in such an uncomfortable place.

[Anonymous]

I would absolutely not ask, and would assume that the kids are not invited until and unless the actual invitation specifies otherwise.

[Anonymous]

OP here.. I posted again that on their wedding website, they said it was an adult only wedding (except the kids of the wedding party).
So no need to ask them or my aunt/uncle about it. They made it clear.

[Anonymous]

They are not invited. Accept or decline accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it's not invited to the Larla family, then it means no kids. Do not call and ask them.

This

[Anonymous]

No the kids are not invited.