Wedding with kids question...
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Anonymous
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We got a save the date for my cousin's wedding and it was addressed to only my husband and I, not the ___ family. Should I assume my kids (age 7 and 13) are definitely not invited? I am a bit surprised they wouldn't include them. I understand when people don't want babies/toddlers there. Trying not to take it personally as I know they tried to save money on the wedding by having it on a Monday. It's on the West coast, so if they really aren't invited, not sure my husband can go as we would need childcare from a Fri to Tues and his family is 6 hours away and they work. We would both want to go, and my 13 year old was looking forward to it, but I had to tell him they maybe aren't invited.
Anyway, is it worth asking them to confirm (in a polite way of course) or just leave it alone and assume from the envelope they aren't invited? We were very close over the last year or so as they moved near us for work and we spent a good amount of time with them. They came to my kids games, etc. I had an engagement party for them. Thanks! |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t ask. They’re not invited. Sorry, I know it’s a bummer for your family. |
Anonymous
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I think it's totally fine to reach out to a cousin, if you're close, or to whoever you are close to (e.g. your aunt) and say "We're looking at flights, and just wanted to confirm that we shouldn't be bringing the kids. Is that right? We're fine either way, we just want to know."
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Anonymous
| Oh wait, I just saw that it’s a save the date, not the invitation. Hmmm, that’s less clear. |
Anonymous
| Don't ask. Just see what happens when the invite comes. Then follow that only. |
Anonymous
| Can you ask your mom? Would she know? Or your Aunt? I'd probably try to ask around to other family members first, before reaching out directly to your cousin. |
Anonymous
| If it's not invited to the Larla family, then it means no kids. Do not call and ask them. |
Anonymous
| Addressed not invited. |
Anonymous
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Ok, I decided to check their wedding website and found the answer!!! So maybe we will bring the kids after all and they can just skip the wedding. My oldest will be 14 so can babysit my youngest. Phew! Glad I read this before stressing any further.... thanks for all your responses!
While we love your little ones, please note this is an adults-only celebration. The only exceptions are the children of bridesmaids and groomsmen. We recognize that some of you will be traveling with your kids, so please know they are welcome to the weekend events leading up to the ceremony. If you need help finding babysitters in the area for Monday we are happy to help connect you with someone. Thank you for your understanding. Please reach out if you have questions! |
Anonymous
This is a good choice. And if that was the case, whichever parent is related to the cousin should go and the other stay home with the kids so you don’t have to fuss with childcare unless you have a really solid childcare option |
Anonymous
| No, your children are not invited to a cousin's wedding. |
Anonymous
I think they worded that very graciously. |
Anonymous
Honestly, that’s so selfish of them. |
Anonymous
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The kids are not invited. Leave it alone. Yay, don't take it personally. Certainly the couple realize there is a chance neither of you will come. You should go, if you want to. No reason you and DH have to go as a couple. Send your rsvp in right away. That way, if the couple thinks about it and wonders "why" it could prompt a discussion (unlikely though)
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Anonymous
No, it's not. |