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Moms who complain they have no time but clearly do
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Anonymous
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Why is everyone whining?! Is it guilt or something? Sounds like the only whiner here is you. So what about it, are you having time managment problems? |
Anonymous
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Isn't this also such a D.C. thing---I'm soooo busy; I never sleep?
Cultural kvetching that's usually kinda braggy. |
Anonymous
| It's not unique to this area. My mother (who worked outside of the home), always said, "If you want something done, ask a busy person." She was the Den Mother for my brother's Cub Scout troop, and she was shocked at how often the stay at home moms "didn't have time" to help. I thought of this the other day after I agreed to undertake a fairly time-consuming role with my dc's school's pto, and a stay at home mom (with one child who is in school 7 hours a day), explained that she'd been asked, but just didn't have time to agree to a lesser commitment. Even my husband said "Did you hear that?" I understand, because I find that when work is slow, or I am not working, I get almost nothing done. I really don't know where my time goes. However, when my job is busy, I am hyper-organized and I make every minute count. Once you get into that mode, it's easy to stay there. One more thing on the list is not that big a deal. You also get a very firm grasp of what activities are optional (and, yes, sometimes that includes sleep). |
Anonymous
Alert Mariah and Enrique...We have a hero on our hands, people! |
Anonymous
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I think the PP's are right. Some people, whether they are parents or not, are just natural born whiners and/or want to appear busy and important. All of your women friends and acquaintances may happen to be parents, so the only pool from which you make your observations are mothers.
My best friend and her husband have no children and she is constantly telling me that she has no time to tackle projects like yard work or a thorough cleaning of her house. It's all I can do to keep from asking her if she is f#$-ing kidding me. Meanwhile, whenever she comes over in her skinny jeans and perfectly colored hair, I am running around trying not to look like the frazzled, home hair-colored, working mom of two kids under 3 that I am! |
Anonymous
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Sometimes people are just making small talk, OP.
"How are you?" "Oh, I'm running around like crazy! You know how it is! There's never enough time!" I find myself saying stuff like this. It's meaningless. I might say it when I plan to go home and take a nap. |
Anonymous
OMG this is my sister! Single, no kids, a 40hr a week job and she is always declaring how overwhelmed and stressed out she is...saying that she is "running a mile a minute" and can't seem to "catch her breath". She still sleeps in until 10AM on the weekends. I sometimes cannot help myself and tell her she has no idea what busy IS. She is now taking a drawing class once a week at Mason and you would think her world has collapsed. |
Anonymous
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Well, I think it's pretty obnoxious to even worry about this. I work with a young woman in her mid 20s who is single, no kids, lives in the city and doesn't have a mortgage to worry about, a house to clean, etc. Is she not allowed to be tired or have a bad day or complain?
Everybody is different. You adapt when you have kids. You adapt when you work and have kids. When you stay home I assume you have a different set of responsibilities that keep you busy. Or not. Whatever. Who cares??? Everybody whines and complains OP, and in case it's not clear, your post was whiny and complainy too. That's fine, but you are not immune! |
Anonymous
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I work FT and am able to work, clean, do laundry, put food on the table every night and I still get 4 quality hours a day with my DS.
It kills me when I hear from my MIL that my SIL never has time, can't make baby food like me, can't cook like me, bla bla bla. But then tells me she watched the kids for her a few times that week so SIL could go running. Really? It is all about time management and priorities. Everyone has time. It's just how you spend it. |
Anonymous
LOL |
Anonymous
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"Honestly, I think that mothers corner the market on busy, but it still seems that lots of people want to be sure that everyone knows how busy/important they are. "
Just like they did in high school. |
Anonymous
This. I have a hard time believing anyone on this board is that terribly busy. |
Anonymous
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"Alert Mariah and Enrique...We have a hero on our hands, people"
Sounds more liek a nitwit looking for attention. |
Anonymous
Correction: Sounds more like a nitwit looking for attention. |
Anonymous
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"I have one friend who stays home and sends her youngest to daycare all day and still complains about money and time."
Why do these cows look like hell at pickup? What do they do all day? |