what happens when Dad abandons the family and Mom is left to handle everything, but doesn't want it either?

[Anonymous]

Why should Mom (or her Mom) be forced/guilted into/expected, etc to raise the kids.
Why not the Dad? Can court force dad to stick around? to be a 50% parent?
Dad likes to "pretend" he's a good dad to his out of town family and co-workers, but he's not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She isn’t forced. She can give custody to dad and pay child support or send them to live with a relative.

No, no. Remember Dad DOES NOT WANT CUSTODY. That's the whole reason he left. He's in midlife crisis and wants to be a swinging bachelor again with no responsibility.
And no "relatives" want to take the 3+ kids.

Want and will do are two different things. Look you choose to have 4-6+ kids so deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kids become wards of the state and enter into Foster Care

It would be better to get some help (mental, emotional, financial) rather than further messing up the lives of children.

This, give them to foster care and let someone adopt them who wants them.

[Anonymous]

When dad was making his choice, mom was the option on the table. If she does not want the kids, then he can re-evaluate his decision knowing that relatives/foster care is the consequence.

But god what a sad situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Welp, mom needs to raise them then. Foster care not an option. Those are the breaks. Kids will be f’d up with no one wanting them.

You know, there are decent kids that come out of foster care and from single moms. In fact one of them recently was president of the US and had a dad that abandoned them. Maybe no one wants your kids because their mom is too judgmental.

Obama was not in foster care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Foster care is not going to take these kids.

They will but parents will need to agree to adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She isn’t forced. She can give custody to dad and pay child support or send them to live with a relative.

No, no. Remember Dad DOES NOT WANT CUSTODY. That's the whole reason he left. He's in midlife crisis and wants to be a swinging bachelor again with no responsibility.
And no "relatives" want to take the 3+ kids.

Foster care. Don't do this to your kids. You had them don't be selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG.. poor kids. Like I keep saying, most men should not have kids. They can't handle the responsibility.

In this case mom should not have had kids either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody forced this woman to have three kids with a loser.

Dad did a complete 180 in midlife crisis. He was the model dad before the he bolted. Honestly, ladies, he could be any one of your husbands.

Please stop the internalized misogynistic, guilty posts on how bad the mom is and focus on the dad and what can be done to keep him from abandoning his kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Welp, mom needs to raise them then. Foster care not an option. Those are the breaks. Kids will be f’d up with no one wanting them.

You know, there are decent kids that come out of foster care and from single moms. In fact one of them recently was president of the US and had a dad that abandoned them. Maybe no one wants your kids because their mom is too judgmental.

Obama was not in foster care.

Obama had a dad that abandoned him and a single mom for a time followed by a time he lived with grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Foster care is not going to take these kids.

Actually, there are boarding schools like the Milton Hershey school where parents sign over custody and kids live at the school for free, get college endowment, healthcare, live like kings basically. So the option exists. Infants- 16 admissions.

That being said, if neither parent wants them - look into Milton Hershey school or similar. It’s an option, and they encourage kids to visit parents frequently and maintain close relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody forced this woman to have three kids with a loser.

Dad did a complete 180 in midlife crisis. He was the model dad before the he bolted. Honestly, ladies, he could be any one of your husbands.

Please stop the internalized misogynistic, guilty posts on how bad the mom is and focus on the dad and what can be done to keep him from abandoning his kids

Accept it for what it is and do the best for the kids. Make him pay so that you can get the closest thing to another parent: a good nanny. And some therapists for everyone because this sounds rough. Not all of us are cut out to be parents alone, but if you can mitigate that...

[Anonymous]

Every time married women are having kids, they should only have the number of kids that they can raise if they have no husband.

So, one or two is the limit for most. Why are these women breeding like sows?

[Anonymous]

You accept that as the mom you are now the primary parent and always will be. You enjoy the break you will get every other weekend.
You raise the kids you chose to have knowing you are the better person. You make your children feel loved, wanted, cared for. They didn’t choose this.
You do your best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kids become wards of the state and enter into Foster Care

It would be better to get some help (mental, emotional, financial) rather than further messing up the lives of children.

This, give them to foster care and let someone adopt them who wants them.

oh because there are a dearth of kids in the foster system. Those 3 kids can surely be adopted very quickly. /s

https://adoptuskids.org/meet-the-children/children-in-foster-care/about-the-children