| Men have big egos and will go anywhere for stroking. |
Women are women's worst enemies. What a horribly petty mean girl way to make the other woman responsible for your philandering excuse for a man while insulting her in the process. Absolutely pathetic. |
The woman who wrote that post needs to find another narrative for why she's staying with the man who cheated on her. The other woman didn't owe her anything. He vowed fidelity. By staying with him, regardless of the stories she tells herself, she's permitting him to break that vow repeatedly. At what point does his cheating become his fault instead of the other woman's fault? |
You call the betrayed spouse a "petty mean girl", but not the woman who willingly slept with a married man? A woman who does that is exactly as described, and women who turn down married men are also exactly as described. There is no excuse for a married man (or person) to go outside their marriage, but it takes two to cheat, and that does not absolve the other party from their portion. |
Okay, but you have to let your anger toward the other woman go. She is not your problem; you have a husband problem. |
I have neither, just an interested poster who clicked and read the link. Anger can be helpful, but I agree it should be towards the wayward spouse, not the AP. Reframing the anger as per the link could be helpful to some. |
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“ Low self esteem and entitlement midlife liked feeling like a hero and king to someone who was way below their league “
This. |
| I wonder what A. Schwarzenegger was thinking. |
Why are we feeding this narrative? Sometimes, the other woman is at or above their league. It doesn't matter because their cheating is rarely a reflection of your value. It's a reflection of their integrity. Instead of telling ourselves these stories, why not start by considering that you might be happier and better off without your cheating spouse? |
| How many of these women were attractive, but have low sex drives? |
Lots of women have posted on forums like this that their spouse cheated down on them even though they were having sex 3x a week. Sometimes, men cheat on wives who have gained 100 lbs and aren't interested in sex anymore. The reasons don't matter. Decide you're worth more and move on. |
| Every woman on DCUM is a dime piece. Confirmed. |
DP, calling him “wayward” is pathetic and not putting nearly enough blame on his active choice to break his marriage vows. |
I would replace "wayward" with "deceitful" and be honest with yourself that he is no longer worthy of your trust. His cheating is not a reflection of your value. Neither are the comments on here by the crazy, misogynistic poster. |