Jewish boyfriend says I hate him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People only get crazier as they age. So this is only get worst.
What he is doing is a form of abuse. Move on now and be thankful.

It’s not abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People only get crazier as they age. So this is only get worst.
What he is doing is a form of abuse. Move on now and be thankful.

It’s not abuse.

NP.

Going on about she "hates him"? Yes it is abuse. It's histrionic and accusatory and based on nothing that she did.

OP, get rid of him.

[Anonymous]

This isn't about religion, it's about the person and he seems too complicated. We all know Jews and Palestinians, some are complicated and others aren't, even with similar burdens and experiences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well two years, age 25, in love, lots of great memories, trips, trials and tribulations. I said I’d convert, went on a long business trip and have some of the craziest emails ever from him.

He says we are great but he can’t date a non Jew. He accuses me of not being supportive enough when he or his family suffer antisemitism. Not sure where that’s coming from, he tells some stories from once in awhile, I listen and agree. He tells me I must have “milked antisemitism from my upbringing but don’t realize it.” He said his father says my last name was nasty to Jews back in Poland.

He’s really going out with a bang and rewriting the narrative.

Is this a defense mechanism to make me give up or dislike him? Before I thought this was going to work out or be some tragic Romeo& Juliet breakup. He’s not an a-hole at all but seems to be trying that angle.

I guess it’s working because now I don’t want to raise children with the same hate and assumptions that he has about others.

Agree that that sounds crazy. Which is why you need to talk, ideally in person, rather than trade emails.

[Anonymous]

End the relationship and good riddance. He is off

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t want to marry someone who isn’t Jewish. He didn’t think the relationship would get this far. Or, he has met the Jewish woman of his dreams.

He is trying to get you to break up with him. Do yourself a solid and do that.

[Anonymous]

He needs to stop dating women who aren't Jewish. He is just wasting their time.

[Anonymous]

Thanks all. Yeah I can’t deal with whatever chip is on his shoulder and is applying it to me. Am in Japan right now so email is not suffice.

No trials and tribulations other than finding a job and things like that.

My last name is typical of Catholics from Chicago. So I must be evil!

I already ran his email past my Jewish friends from college and back home. Something is off and his father, playing bad cop, is making him choose between love and his family.

We have a lot of other things in common, just not our secular-like religious practices. No matter how I understand his is more important to him than vice versa.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Yeah, he sucks. He wanted to use you for sex and for fun but doesn't want to marry you, so to feel less guilty he is calling you anti-semitic. WTF.

Dont answer crazy with crazy. Calmly deny his accusations and then say obviously you cannot continue dating someone who feels this way about you. End it. And don't go back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. Yeah I can’t deal with whatever chip is on his shoulder and is applying it to me. Am in Japan right now so email is not suffice.

No trials and tribulations other than finding a job and things like that.

My last name is typical of Catholics from Chicago. So I must be evil!

I already ran his email past my Jewish friends from college and back home. Something is off and his father, playing bad cop, is making him choose between love and his family.

We have a lot of other things in common, just not our secular-like religious practices. No matter how I understand his is more important to him than vice versa.

-OP

There are plenty of Catholic guys in this country. Start going to mass at different places, seek them out online, maybe see if your mom or aunts know anyone.

It's pretty common for Jewish guys to waste Christian girls' time by dating them for a while and then dumping them because they aren't Jewish. Be wary of that and don't waste too much time with someone who is Jewish (meaning make sure you get engaged within 18 months or move on) or don't date them at all.

[Anonymous]

To accuse you of being antisemitic is beyond the pale, and terribly disrespectful. He needs to have the ba**s to tell you he wants to break up and end it civilly. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. Yeah I can’t deal with whatever chip is on his shoulder and is applying it to me. Am in Japan right now so email is not suffice.

No trials and tribulations other than finding a job and things like that.

My last name is typical of Catholics from Chicago. So I must be evil!

I already ran his email past my Jewish friends from college and back home. Something is off and his father, playing bad cop, is making him choose between love and his family.

We have a lot of other things in common, just not our secular-like religious practices. No matter how I understand his is more important to him than vice versa.

-OP

There are plenty of Catholic guys in this country. Start going to mass at different places, seek them out online, maybe see if your mom or aunts know anyone.

It's pretty common for Jewish guys to waste Christian girls' time by dating them for a while and then dumping them because they aren't Jewish. Be wary of that and don't waste too much time with someone who is Jewish (meaning make sure you get engaged within 18 months or move on) or don't date them at all.

Over 60% of Jewish marriages since 2010 are to non-Jews, so can’t blame OP for thinking this would work, but these are unusual times and the guy sounds neurotic and immature (easily manipulated by his pushy parents). Dump him and move on. You do not want these people for in-laws in any event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. Yeah I can’t deal with whatever chip is on his shoulder and is applying it to me. Am in Japan right now so email is not suffice.

No trials and tribulations other than finding a job and things like that.

My last name is typical of Catholics from Chicago. So I must be evil!

I already ran his email past my Jewish friends from college and back home. Something is off and his father, playing bad cop, is making him choose between love and his family.

We have a lot of other things in common, just not our secular-like religious practices. No matter how I understand his is more important to him than vice versa.

-OP

There are plenty of Catholic guys in this country. Start going to mass at different places, seek them out online, maybe see if your mom or aunts know anyone.

It's pretty common for Jewish guys to waste Christian girls' time by dating them for a while and then dumping them because they aren't Jewish. Be wary of that and don't waste too much time with someone who is Jewish (meaning make sure you get engaged within 18 months or move on) or don't date them at all.

Jealous Jewish woman ^^.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well two years, age 25, in love, lots of great memories, trips, trials and tribulations. I said I’d convert, went on a long business trip and have some of the craziest emails ever from him.

He says we are great but he can’t date a non Jew. He accuses me of not being supportive enough when he or his family suffer antisemitism. Not sure where that’s coming from, he tells some stories from once in awhile, I listen and agree. He tells me I must have “milked antisemitism from my upbringing but don’t realize it.” He said his father says my last name was nasty to Jews back in Poland.

He’s really going out with a bang and rewriting the narrative.

Is this a defense mechanism to make me give up or dislike him? Before I thought this was going to work out or be some tragic Romeo& Juliet breakup. He’s not an a-hole at all but seems to be trying that angle.

I guess it’s working because now I don’t want to raise children with the same hate and assumptions that he has about others.

He sure does sound like an a**hole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh sweetie, you are 25. This situation will never have a happy ending. Cut him loose. This doesn’t make anyone a bad person, just different.

Oh look, it's the "sweetie" poster. Every time I read "sweetie" I ignore whatever is said.

Not op and I agree. It's so sexist and condescending.