Jewish boyfriend says I hate him

[Anonymous]

Well two years, age 25, in love, lots of great memories, trips, trials and tribulations. I said I’d convert, went on a long business trip and have some of the craziest emails ever from him.

He says we are great but he can’t date a non Jew. He accuses me of not being supportive enough when he or his family suffer antisemitism. Not sure where that’s coming from, he tells some stories from once in awhile, I listen and agree. He tells me I must have “milked antisemitism from my upbringing but don’t realize it.” He said his father says my last name was nasty to Jews back in Poland.

He’s really going out with a bang and rewriting the narrative.

Is this a defense mechanism to make me give up or dislike him? Before I thought this was going to work out or be some tragic Romeo& Juliet breakup. He’s not an a-hole at all but seems to be trying that angle.

I guess it’s working because now I don’t want to raise children with the same hate and assumptions that he has about others.

[Anonymous]

Oh sweetie, you are 25. This situation will never have a happy ending. Cut him loose. This doesn’t make anyone a bad person, just different.

[Anonymous]

It’s tough times, and hard to understand what other people go through. Sounds like you are bearing the brunt of a larger issue, it is likely not even about you personally. People are rolling up their welcome mats all over the place and feeling threatened and protective. (Hurricane victims won’t even let FEMA workers help them apply for aid, and that is just one tiny example.)
No advice. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't like you much. The reasons don't matter. Break up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn't like you much. The reasons don't matter. Break up.

This is exactly it. Move on and don't give him another thought.

[Anonymous]

Red flag! Abort mission!

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't be having trials and tribulations with the person you are in a serious relationship with. Wait until you meet the right guy; it will seem natural and easy.

[Anonymous]

What is your last name?

[Anonymous]

Ditch him ASAP. He's not worth a second of your valuable time.

[Anonymous]

People only get crazier as they age. So this is only get worst.
What he is doing is a form of abuse. Move on now and be thankful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh sweetie, you are 25. This situation will never have a happy ending. Cut him loose. This doesn’t make anyone a bad person, just different.

Oh look, it's the "sweetie" poster. Every time I read "sweetie" I ignore whatever is said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh sweetie, you are 25. This situation will never have a happy ending. Cut him loose. This doesn’t make anyone a bad person, just different.

Oh look, it's the "sweetie" poster. Every time I read "sweetie" I ignore whatever is said.

Are you OP?

[Anonymous]

He sounds extremely insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your last name?

Woodcock

[Anonymous]

Hugs op. Breakups are never easy.