Are sleepovers really not a thing anymore?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 young adults. If I had it to do over again, I would not have suppprted the sleepover culture. “Almost” sleepovers are great on the other hand. Have the kids stay til 9pm, and then return at 9am for breakfast. This way everyone sleeps and activities scheduled that next day aren’t a bust.

Can you elaborate?
My kids are young still but I know this is coming.

[Anonymous]

Only one of my daughter's friends is allowed to sleepover and we only do it when the boys are away. She has lots of immigrant friends and their parents do not allow it.

[Anonymous]

I like them in theory but the next day is really rough. E had one last night and fortunately soccer was cancelled today but otherwise i dont think we would do it. I think it would be really hard to do if we did travel sports.

[Anonymous]

My kids are in HS and late ES, and I can’t remember either one ever being invited to a sleepover, or asking to have one. They have friends, socialize, etc, but sleepovers haven’t come up. Older one is a boy, so maybe that’s part of it?

[Anonymous]

My 12 year old has been invited to one sleepover. She had a 9am soccer game, so we wanted her to get some rest and picked her up at 9pm. Everyone was fine with it.

[Anonymous]

I think the hardest part about sleepovers, and one reason that my family doesn't do them, is that kids are a wreck the next day and in this day and age, kids have a ton of activities on weekends. If my kid has a sports game or another party the next day, I won't let them do a sleepover, because I'd like them to be well rested.

[Anonymous]

Sleepovers are fine and fun. But, I can't believe ppl have such busy weeks that kids need to be picked up early or not... my childhood weekends were never this busy.

[Anonymous]

My kids have been on sleepovers but it’s just a few times a year. They’re exhausted the next day, but I loved them so much growing up we allow it. I also think it’s good opportunities to practice resilience by sleeping away from their comfort zone.l

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sleepovers are fine and fun. But, I can't believe ppl have such busy weeks that kids need to be picked up early or not... my childhood weekends were never this busy.

Well say you do rec soccer in the fall and spring like I did as a kid. There's usually a game on Saturdays so that's 50% of sleepover nights out already for a decent part of the year. If you go to church on Sunday like I did as a kid that's Sunday out too. I think you could have a tired kid at soccer or church but it just depends how cranky they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 young adults. If I had it to do over again, I would not have suppprted the sleepover culture. “Almost” sleepovers are great on the other hand. Have the kids stay til 9pm, and then return at 9am for breakfast. This way everyone sleeps and activities scheduled that next day aren’t a bust.

We’re not coming back in the morning. Just end it at 8 or 9. 8 is plenty late for 8 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 young adults. If I had it to do over again, I would not have suppprted the sleepover culture. “Almost” sleepovers are great on the other hand. Have the kids stay til 9pm, and then return at 9am for breakfast. This way everyone sleeps and activities scheduled that next day aren’t a bust.

PP, have you yet realized that you have been annoying the crap out of your kids’ parents for years with this ridiculous idea? There is a zero percent chance I’d waste an entire weekend on this. I’d pick them up in the evening and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter wants to have a sleepover with 5 friends for her birthday coming up (turning 9, friends are 8-9). I’ve already talked with the mom of her best friend and that mom said no to sleeping over. I’ll offer to do a sleep under I guess but are sleepovers really not a thing? I remember doing them much earlier growing up.

Should we scrap the sleepover plan and do something else?

Wtf is a sleep under?

[Anonymous]

No idea who all you people are - our kid has a sleepover most weekends, the parents insist the kids go to bed by 10 or so, and the kids are fine the next day.

[Anonymous]

Some families will do sleepovers. Our family does not do them at all.

[Anonymous]

We don’t do them. H is law enforcement and has seen too many horror stories.

Also, I remember going to a sleepover in third grade and watching the sex channel. DD is in third grade now and I’m really shocked I saw that stuff at such a young age. Not risking exposing her to that.