Are sleepovers really not a thing anymore?

[Anonymous]

My daughter wants to have a sleepover with 5 friends for her birthday coming up (turning 9, friends are 8-9). I’ve already talked with the mom of her best friend and that mom said no to sleeping over. I’ll offer to do a sleep under I guess but are sleepovers really not a thing? I remember doing them much earlier growing up.

Should we scrap the sleepover plan and do something else?

[Anonymous]

Plenty of people do sleepovers. Invite her other friends.

[Anonymous]

Invite with a “sleepover or ‘everything-but-the-sleepover’” option. Pizza, movies, popcorn, candy bar for dessert, face masks/eye patches, painting nails, and those who want to be picked up at 8 or 9 p.m., that’s fine, if anyone wants to sleep over, that’s fine, too.

[Anonymous]

Mom of 4 young adults. If I had it to do over again, I would not have suppprted the sleepover culture. “Almost” sleepovers are great on the other hand. Have the kids stay til 9pm, and then return at 9am for breakfast. This way everyone sleeps and activities scheduled that next day aren’t a bust.

[Anonymous]

IME very few people want their kids sleeping over. It isn't worth the risks. One of my kids has been invited to a sleepover birthday party twice. Both times none of the kids ended up sleeping over. I was worried I would be the only parent making their kid go home. All parents picked up their kids by 9pm.

[Anonymous]

Invite everyone. Offer an earlier pickup time for those that cannot sleepover. Maybe 10pm?

My child is older now, but I did find many parents who were “no sleepover” parents. This was in close in MoCo. This was also pre Covid. Not sure if that changed anything.

[Anonymous]

My DD has sleepovers all the time. We've known her friends' families since kindergarten, are totally comfortable with them. Some of the moms preferred sleepunders until late elementary, which was fine.

I'd check with other parents for the sleepover and see if the BF's parents would be okay with joining for part of it.

[Anonymous]

I hope so. I think we know now how easily things can go awry at a sleepover. I wouldn’t have one or let my kids go to one now.

[Anonymous]

I have a child this age and she’s only been invited to one sleepover. Two out of like 10 parents picked up at bedtime (including me). I know other kids have done 1:1 sleepovers. I think they happen, my kid just doesn’t sleep away from home so they don’t participate. But I don’t think they happen that much, possibly because the parties seem to be big (like 10-5 kids) which would be a lot for a sleepover).

[Anonymous]

My oldest is 13 now, and really only started doing sleepovers last year (and even then, only a handful). Covid put a damper on them for a few years, and then I think people were out of the habit. She invariably comes home cranky and out of sorts for the next day, so I don't love them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 young adults. If I had it to do over again, I would not have suppprted the sleepover culture. “Almost” sleepovers are great on the other hand. Have the kids stay til 9pm, and then return at 9am for breakfast. This way everyone sleeps and activities scheduled that next day aren’t a bust.

Having a fun evening 4-9 or whatever is great. Returning for breakfast at 9 a.m. is beyond ridiculous. Don’t disrupt someone’s entire weekend like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom of 4 young adults. If I had it to do over again, I would not have suppprted the sleepover culture. “Almost” sleepovers are great on the other hand. Have the kids stay til 9pm, and then return at 9am for breakfast. This way everyone sleeps and activities scheduled that next day aren’t a bust.

Having a fun evening 4-9 or whatever is great. Returning for breakfast at 9 a.m. is beyond ridiculous. Don’t disrupt someone’s entire weekend like that.

+1 unless the kids live right next door this would be a huge pain.

[Anonymous]

Totally a thing - mine has them almost every weekend. 3rd grade.

[Anonymous]

Mine always change their mind and ask to come home at bedtime. I have picked them up in my pajamas at midnight 🙃

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter wants to have a sleepover with 5 friends for her birthday coming up (turning 9, friends are 8-9). I’ve already talked with the mom of her best friend and that mom said no to sleeping over. I’ll offer to do a sleep under I guess but are sleepovers really not a thing? I remember doing them much earlier growing up.

Should we scrap the sleepover plan and do something else?

Yes my kid is not sleeping at your house.
The next day sucks. Plus I don’t really know you etc.,