Jiffy Lube didn't put oil in the car. DW blames me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't have "been cheap" and gone to Jiffy Lube, even though she's taken her car there many times.

Our regular mechanic insists on keeping the car for days for any type of service, including a simple oil change, and I didn't want to be without the car for days. Oil changes are what Jiffy Lube does, so one would think they would know how to do it right...

The car is possibly out of commission for a couple of weeks while they figure out the extent of the damage, and DW and I disagree about how to proceed (that's a bit of an understatement).

Someone give me some hope.

Do you have Seinfeld’s mechanic? Here, I thought he was a fictional character.

[Anonymous]

You know there are other mechanics, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't have "been cheap" and gone to Jiffy Lube, even though she's taken her car there many times.

Our regular mechanic insists on keeping the car for days for any type of service, including a simple oil change, and I didn't want to be without the car for days. Oil changes are what Jiffy Lube does, so one would think they would know how to do it right...

The car is possibly out of commission for a couple of weeks while they figure out the extent of the damage, and DW and I disagree about how to proceed (that's a bit of an understatement).

Someone give me some hope.

Never heard of this- not putting the oil back. Okusnthey checj with the dipstick so they know whether to charge you 4 or 5+ bottles.

Nor your mechanic keeping a car for days for a 1-2 hour drip pan oil change. No one does that either.s

Your car should have been alarming big time driving off and the handling would have been poor.

Is insurance involved now? You ran the engine dry. For how many miles or days OP?

Actually I think you are a stupid troll. Stay away from technical or mechanical fake troll posts OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can your wife blame you? I would expect Jiffy Lube to do what they charge you for doing. Not your fault.

I do t operate like that or work or home.

If you can’t I’d a problem you are part of the problem.

My absent minded, workaholic spouse hates advocating or talking with people. He got the rental car on vacation in the Caribbean and “didn’t notice” it could barely drive, turn, brake, respond. All three other families asked why he didn’t immediately return it for another one. He has no response. Another day booked us a rental elsewhere, near the hotel and sent my spouse to return the junker and get his money back. Took him all day but he did.

Don’t be that guy Op. wake up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hope you contacted the oil shop you had do the work. I have heard similar tales but have used those single service places (Jiffy Lube, Meineke, tire king) and not had a problem. Sounds like Wife is lashing out. How to proceed though is to ask lube shop to handle repair costs.

This is a pITa. Good luck hitting your auto deductible for repairs and out of commission car.

No one has time for this during back to school, work, sports Aug/sept.

This is a sad setback. Telling your wife it isn’t is just rude. Go handle it correctly Op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Right. She’s not responding to the mistake. She’s responding to your likely underreaction and absence of a plan. The shop likely destroyed your engine. Match your wife’s concern because it’s warranted. Then make a plan and follow through so you’re made whole. That’s all you need to do.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:Does she really blame you, or is she complaining/venting about the situation and you're the only one around to hear? Obviously this is not your fault.

DH spends a decent amount of time ranting in my presence about things that have nothing to do with me, but it's just his way of venting. It's not like I'm to blame for whatever bee is in his bonnet.

A grown adult should be able to vent in a manner that leaves zero thought in the others persons mind that the grown adult is not blaming the other person.

My wife is one of those people that vents in a manner that completely implicates me in everything or ties what she is venting about to something I have done or should have done. It’s exhausting and frankly ridiculous.

R u “accident prone”??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did she expect you to go back there and watch them pour the oil in?? She’s frustrated and taking it out on you. It’s a crappy situation, hugely inconvenient and probably expensive. Just apologize even though you didn’t do anything wrong and promise to never take the car there again.

Are you serious?
Rule 1: Never apologize when you did nothing wrong. Never. It sends the wrong message and only encourages bullies to bully you more.

[Anonymous]

Dude, you must be a beta. What dude takes his ride to Jiffy Lube? Man up bro.

[Anonymous]

Pp is wrong.

You apologize and vow to not go there again to save the relationship, respond appropriately. and MOVE ON.

If OP continues to invalidate her feelings and questions plus not apologize (for going there and not long-standing mechanic or checking or immediately returning the car when oil light no doubt went on), then everyone’s talking about it in and in. And here.

Apologize and move on.

Or don’t apologize and b11tch on here and elsewhere all week.
Either way your car is very damaged. Sounds like a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Just get it fixed. She has no right to complain unless you aren’t now dealing with jiffy lube, and getting a loaner and a fix for it. If you put that on her in any way, you are the AH, and she needs both a new car and a new husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did she expect you to go back there and watch them pour the oil in?? She’s frustrated and taking it out on you. It’s a crappy situation, hugely inconvenient and probably expensive. Just apologize even though you didn’t do anything wrong and promise to never take the car there again.

Are you serious?
Rule 1: Never apologize when you did nothing wrong. Never. It sends the wrong message and only encourages bullies to bully you more.

Wrong.

This is a repeat game with a loved one. You behave to preserve the relationship.

At work you can blow up and the find a new job. Maybe less ramifications

[Anonymous]

Are you the same OP that didn’t make lunch for your 15 year old?

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to figure out how you didn’t notice right away. Didn’t your car’s idiot lights come on? Didn’t it handle badly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't have "been cheap" and gone to Jiffy Lube, even though she's taken her car there many times.

Our regular mechanic insists on keeping the car for days for any type of service, including a simple oil change, and I didn't want to be without the car for days. Oil changes are what Jiffy Lube does, so one would think they would know how to do it right...

The car is possibly out of commission for a couple of weeks while they figure out the extent of the damage, and DW and I disagree about how to proceed (that's a bit of an understatement).

Someone give me some hope.

I would proceed with a demand letter to Jiffy Lube to cover the cost of repairs as well as a rental.

Your wife seems to be acting like a jerk.