Jiffy Lube didn't put oil in the car. DW blames me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't have "been cheap" and gone to Jiffy Lube, even though she's taken her car there many times.

Our regular mechanic insists on keeping the car for days for any type of service, including a simple oil change, and I didn't want to be without the car for days. Oil changes are what Jiffy Lube does, so one would think they would know how to do it right...

The car is possibly out of commission for a couple of weeks while they figure out the extent of the damage, and DW and I disagree about how to proceed (that's a bit of an understatement).

Someone give me some hope.

This is the real issue here. What do you disagree on?

Just a hunch that he probably expects DW to drive him around for a few weeks and he won’t get on Jiffy Lube’s ass to get the car fixed.

He needs to man up and get Jiffy Lube to get this done promptly AND pay for a rental car. He’s probably being passive and hoping things will just work out.

I feel like OP is framing this as “DW is mad at me for Jiffy Lube messing up” when the reality is DW is mad because OP isn’t doing anything about it and expects DW to deal with it.

Yup.

He can’t or won’t advocate for himself nor his family. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude, you must be a beta. What dude takes his ride to Jiffy Lube? Man up bro.

Real men change their own oil. It isn’t hard.

Ludicrous notion. This is far from the truth. Few people change their own oil.

Even less know how to dispose of it

[Anonymous]

How can it be YOUR fault that Jiffy Lube didn’t put oil in your car??!

The fault is most definitely on their shop for this mistake!!

Sometimes people love to find a scapegoat in situations like these - sounds like that is what your wife is doing here.

You did nothing wrong at all here.
Simply believe this in yourself when ignoring her statements of blame. 🤨

[Anonymous]

Actual OP here -- Couple things.

1. I'm a woman. It's 2024.
2. The oil light never went on until the car died.
3. The disagreement over what to do next is about whether to let Jiffy Lube fix the car or take to another mechanic.
4. I am doing everything I can do right now, which is wait for Jiffy Lube to get the results of their oil test and tell me what they think is wrong with the car. I'm taking the car to another mechanic on Monday for a second opinion (they're closed on weekends).
5. DW has come around a bit since last night. She admits she reacted out of frustration because we can't do anything over the weekend and she feels powerless to fix the problem. She was "mad at the situation, not at me." Although it didn't feel that way.

Thanks to those who agreed DW's reaction was unfounded. To those of you who still think all wives have husbands and all men are emotionless babies: Wow.

[Anonymous]

Whatever Op.
Not much of a reveal exact that you seem think everyone’s MO should be to assume others are married homosexuals.
Not gonna happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actual OP here -- Couple things.

1. I'm a woman. It's 2024.
2. The oil light never went on until the car died.
3. The disagreement over what to do next is about whether to let Jiffy Lube fix the car or take to another mechanic.
4. I am doing everything I can do right now, which is wait for Jiffy Lube to get the results of their oil test and tell me what they think is wrong with the car. I'm taking the car to another mechanic on Monday for a second opinion (they're closed on weekends).
5. DW has come around a bit since last night. She admits she reacted out of frustration because we can't do anything over the weekend and she feels powerless to fix the problem. She was "mad at the situation, not at me." Although it didn't feel that way.

Thanks to those who agreed DW's reaction was unfounded. To those of you who still think all wives have husbands and all men are emotionless babies: Wow.

Don’t be penny wise and pound foolish next time. Take your car to a proper shop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do y’all pay upwards of $40,000 for your cars and then cheap out by going to Jiffy Lube?

DP. Where do YOU go, then? The car dealership? Takes forever (and at the dealerships we've tried, I do mean forever, and they're not giving out loaner cars to oil change customers for the day). A local garage? OK that's great, but it's half a day if there's any other work being done in the garage that day. And the garages near us don't do oil changes on weekends at all. Using places like Jiffy Lube isn't about "cheaping out," it's about not having the time to use a garage and especially not a dealership. If you have an actually helpful alternative to the above--and "do it yourself" is not an alternative--please do give it. I get it, Jiffy Lubes can suck, so what do you recommend that isn't going to eat hours out of the day?

[Anonymous]

What about Valvoline?

[Anonymous]

You will have a much better marriage if you both focus on solving the problem instead of establishing whose fault something is.

Teamwork, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't have "been cheap" and gone to Jiffy Lube, even though she's taken her car there many times.

Our regular mechanic insists on keeping the car for days for any type of service, including a simple oil change, and I didn't want to be without the car for days. Oil changes are what Jiffy Lube does, so one would think they would know how to do it right...

The car is possibly out of commission for a couple of weeks while they figure out the extent of the damage, and DW and I disagree about how to proceed (that's a bit of an understatement).

Someone give me some hope.

Please. You need to take your car to a real certified mechanic not some "shade tree" idiot down the street. No legit mechanic shop could stay in business unless they were able to turn around oil changes same day (perhaps with an appointment in advance but those are easy enough to get).

Everyone has heard stories of catastrophic engine failures as a result of someone they know taking the car to a "quick lube" place and a mistake of this kind being made by a brain dead imbecile.

It IS your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't have "been cheap" and gone to Jiffy Lube, even though she's taken her car there many times.

Our regular mechanic insists on keeping the car for days for any type of service, including a simple oil change, and I didn't want to be without the car for days. Oil changes are what Jiffy Lube does, so one would think they would know how to do it right...

The car is possibly out of commission for a couple of weeks while they figure out the extent of the damage, and DW and I disagree about how to proceed (that's a bit of an understatement).

Someone give me some hope.

Same problem at Wiygul in Burke.
Plus they wrote up "repairs" that the Honda dealership determined were not problems.

[Anonymous]

She has anxiety. Nothing can just be, they have to be able to assign blame to someone they personal connected to. That way they can harp on it or use it against you. That is their defensive mechanism. They are so afraid of messing something up that all of the mistakes are yours, that way nothing can ever be their fault or screw up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't have "been cheap" and gone to Jiffy Lube, even though she's taken her car there many times.

Our regular mechanic insists on keeping the car for days for any type of service, including a simple oil change, and I didn't want to be without the car for days. Oil changes are what Jiffy Lube does, so one would think they would know how to do it right...

The car is possibly out of commission for a couple of weeks while they figure out the extent of the damage, and DW and I disagree about how to proceed (that's a bit of an understatement).

Someone give me some hope.

Please. You need to take your car to a real certified mechanic not some "shade tree" idiot down the street. No legit mechanic shop could stay in business unless they were able to turn around oil changes same day (perhaps with an appointment in advance but those are easy enough to get).

Everyone has heard stories of catastrophic engine failures as a result of someone they know taking the car to a "quick lube" place and a mistake of this kind being made by a brain dead imbecile.

It IS your fault.

Not "everyone" has heard "those stories." I''d never heard any until I opened this thread. I'm sure you'll get all worked up at that notion, since you seem plenty angry about something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has anxiety. Nothing can just be, they have to be able to assign blame to someone they personal connected to. That way they can harp on it or use it against you. That is their defensive mechanism. They are so afraid of messing something up that all of the mistakes are yours, that way nothing can ever be their fault or screw up.

Maybe read OP's update. The DW has cooled off and recognized she was pi$$ed at the situation and not at OP. They need to learn not to let this become a pattern, sure, but your knee-jerk, armchair diagnosis doesn't seem to be needed, doc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I shouldn't have "been cheap" and gone to Jiffy Lube, even though she's taken her car there many times.

Our regular mechanic insists on keeping the car for days for any type of service, including a simple oil change, and I didn't want to be without the car for days. Oil changes are what Jiffy Lube does, so one would think they would know how to do it right...

The car is possibly out of commission for a couple of weeks while they figure out the extent of the damage, and DW and I disagree about how to proceed (that's a bit of an understatement).

Someone give me some hope.

Please. You need to take your car to a real certified mechanic not some "shade tree" idiot down the street. No legit mechanic shop could stay in business unless they were able to turn around oil changes same day (perhaps with an appointment in advance but those are easy enough to get).

Everyone has heard stories of catastrophic engine failures as a result of someone they know taking the car to a "quick lube" place and a mistake of this kind being made by a brain dead imbecile.

It IS your fault.

You failed to see where the DW herself has taken the car to this place herself, more than once. Reading is fundamental. It IS as much the DW's fault if she has used this place herself, which signals she was fine with OP using it.