What is the purpose of "negging" someone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really understand how to works. If someone insults me I assume they don’t like me and/or are ruse and I stay away. Why would I want that person’s approval?

I did see it work once it real life but it was a mix of rudeness with over the top flirting. I was very surprised by it all.

I can see someone being sarcastic and intending to joke and it falls flat, but I don’t understand intentionally insulting someone as a tactic. If I think someone is rude or insulting, I’m out.

[Anonymous]

Rude can be a way of pushing boundaries.
It’s a sexual thing. I wish I had time to expand/explain.

When you are not afraid “to go there…” prim people have dull intimacy (Ask me how I know this!!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rude can be a way of pushing boundaries.
It’s a sexual thing. I wish I had time to expand/explain.

When you are not afraid “to go there…” prim people have dull intimacy (Ask me how I know this!!)

OP here. I guess this is why it does absolutely nothing for me. I don't enjoy having my boundaries pushed, especially in a negative or demeaning way. I prefer having them respected, so I feel safe to expand them on my own terms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rude can be a way of pushing boundaries.
It’s a sexual thing. I wish I had time to expand/explain.

When you are not afraid “to go there…” prim people have dull intimacy (Ask me how I know this!!)

OP here. I guess this is why it does absolutely nothing for me. I don't enjoy having my boundaries pushed, especially in a negative or demeaning way. I prefer having them respected, so I feel safe to expand them on my own terms.

DP - someone who has no standing with you to push boundaries too

[Anonymous]

Negging isn't new. I remember it being around when I was in college and I'm 38. It's a low grade insult meant to take a woman down a peg so she's feeling insecure and more welcome to the guy hitting on her. The purpose is to do it in a way that she doesn't realize it's insulting. The one I will always remember is a guy telling my friend "wow. I really like you're dress. You're a little over dressed for this place but you look great". It's a subtle little dig that she didn't even pick up on. I wish I could say it didn't work. But looking back it worked on us all the time. Maybe the definition has changed in the last 15+ years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot with these new, made up, dumb words.

It's not new. I heard this term 20 years ago.

[Anonymous]

I met Mystery at The Reef in Adams Morgan once! He was very tall and his coat was furry. It was fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rude can be a way of pushing boundaries.
It’s a sexual thing. I wish I had time to expand/explain.

When you are not afraid “to go there…” prim people have dull intimacy (Ask me how I know this!!)

OP here. I guess this is why it does absolutely nothing for me. I don't enjoy having my boundaries pushed, especially in a negative or demeaning way. I prefer having them respected, so I feel safe to expand them on my own terms.

DP - someone who has no standing with you to push boundaries too

I know. I was this way for a little over 4o years. Then I loosened up and learned to laugh at myself and have more fun. Don’t get me wrong, I backslide more than I’d like! (For those of you would think I had the perfect life— I didn’t.)

[Anonymous]

So watch (or read) Shakespeare. Same thing

Some people are talented at well timed banter. Some people are jerks. Lady gets to decide what she likes !

[Anonymous]

The correct response is to blink slowly, then burst into uncontrollable laughter. When you can catch your breath you gasp “oh my gosh are you negging???!??” Then leave while he stews. Never take his calls again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So watch (or read) Shakespeare. Same thing

Some people are talented at well timed banter. Some people are jerks. Lady gets to decide what she likes !

Omg - which play is the best for this? I have just figured out what I am doing with the rest of this hot Sunday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The correct response is to blink slowly, then burst into uncontrollable laughter. When you can catch your breath you gasp “oh my gosh are you negging???!??” Then leave while he stews. Never take his calls again.

Beautiful! I love it

[Anonymous]

“Negging” is not insulting someone, although a lot of foolish guys interpret it that way. It’s a comment that is ambiguous and is the opening move in an attempt to start some banter. Walking up to a woman in a bar and saying “you’re fat” is not negging, it’s abusive and insulting. Walking up to a woman and saying “that outfit is….um….daring”. Might be. Or whatever. Negging is playful, not insulting, and if you are doing it any other way you are doing it wrong. Yes, one might say that just sounds like ordinary flirting, and they would be mostly correct in doing so, explicit concepts like “negging” are basically remedial education for those who missed the memo the first time and need some explicit instruction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met Mystery at The Reef in Adams Morgan once! He was very tall and his coat was furry. It was fun.

I love the random misplaced posts. We should guess where they really belong.
Thread on waking up to find your parents having sex? (Kidding, sounds cosplay).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So watch (or read) Shakespeare. Same thing

Some people are talented at well timed banter. Some people are jerks. Lady gets to decide what she likes !

Omg - which play is the best for this? I have just figured out what I am doing with the rest of this hot Sunday.

I think you are kidding. I would say all of the comedies