How do I find a partner to have kids with? (Male 48)

[Anonymous]

You are way too old to have more kids.
Just find a permanent girlfriend.

-divorced woman with kids age 46

[Anonymous]

You’re not too old for more kids.

But.

A woman would have to be a certifiable moron to willingly enter this arrangement where she has kids without marrying the father.

Try Germany, or Scandinavia—they do this there—or a very,very low class woman who’d fall for a babydaddy setup.

[Anonymous]

If you're wealthy and really committed to being a parent, I would suggest hiring a surrogate and parenting on your own. But given that you are 48, and will likely be 50+ when a baby is born, solo parenting might not be great because the kid will grow up worrying about something bad happening to you and having no one else to rely on.

I think you should look at your social circle for single women in their 40s who are successful and may have frozen their eggs years ago. Some might be up for co-parenting without marriage just to share the workload and finances involved in raising kids. Some may want marriage.

[Anonymous]

Me! I’m interested.

NOT! Who’d be crazy enough to do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me! I’m interested.

NOT! Who’d be crazy enough to do this?

People like this: https://people.com/van-jones-welcomes-fourth-baby-his-second-with-friend-noemi-exclusive-8572319

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're too old. Focus on the kids you already have.

True. At 48, the risk of autism to high. Look it up. And that’s just one of the risks associated with advanced paternal age. You can always look forward to becoming a grandpa.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend like this - he’s now 57 with 5 and 7 YOs in addition to his 3 college kids (I suspect his much younger 2nd wife talked him into kids - not sure it was his beginning intention). He is now panicking about the fact that he will be over 70 when they graduate college, and if he lives to a decent age like 85 he still might not see them get married.

[Anonymous]

Np, and I'm not sure if it's already been said, but is there any chance your ex would take you up on the offer? There are already benefits in place with her as the option of choice: a) she likely does not want to marry you again either, b) you have a decent relationship, c) you know what to expect from her as a mother/co-parent, and d) all of your kids will have the same parents.

I have four kids with my ex, and I would never consider remarrying him because he was a bad husband. However, he's a good dad, he makes cute kids, and I know I can trust him with my kids' lives. For the record, I don't want more kids, but if I did I would look to him and would surprised if he said no.

[Anonymous]

Look online. There are plenty of women who want kids and their clock is ticking.

[Anonymous]

It’s easy. Women have a biological clock. There are many single women with no kids in their mid 30’s that are desperate to have kids before it’s too late. They would do a kid with any decent man even if he doesn’t want to get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re not too old for more kids.

But.

A woman would have to be a certifiable moron to willingly enter this arrangement where she has kids without marrying the father.

Try Germany, or Scandinavia—they do this there—or a very,very low class woman who’d fall for a babydaddy setup.

This. I don't find the age offsetting. But the fact that a (divorced) man wants more kids but is unwilling to marry? I'd run far away.
Sorry, OP. If you want children, most women will want a commitment (i.e, marriage). If you want a long term relationship with no kids, you'll have more luck

[Anonymous]

How old is your ex? Ask her or knock her up accidentally and leave the rest of us alone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced. I have two kids. I’m wealthy, good health (physical, mental), post grad education, have a good to great drama free coparenting relationship with the mom. I’d say I would be a decent catch for most 40+ women who are done with or not interested in more kids. Except that I do want more kids.

I do not want to get married again but I am not closed to the idea.

Yep. I do want to have a couple more kids. I’m very involved with my current kids (50/50 coparent 100% involved) and feel a lot of pride and joy in being a father.

What is the best way to go about finding a partner to have kids with? Ideally we live together as a loving couple and raise the kids as a family (preferably not married, but I’m open to the idea ) but I am also completely open to an arrangement of sorts where we split custody and raise them 50/50.

Obviously barriers are my own age and the fact that I already have kids. How do I overcome the rejections and find potential women who may be interested in someone like me and something like this.

A "very involved" father would give stronger consideration to how his current children would feel about this arrangement and becoming half-siblings to babies at this point in their lives.

What's your aversion to being remarried if you have all the other trappings of a domestic partnership?

- A divorced 52 yo man with college-age children who absolutely does NOT want more children but looks forward to becoming a grandpa some day in the next decade or so.

[Anonymous]

If you want kids, get an egg donor and a surrogate.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with a brady bunch setup. You get more kids