How do I find a partner to have kids with? (Male 48)

[Anonymous]

I’m divorced. I have two kids. I’m wealthy, good health (physical, mental), post grad education, have a good to great drama free coparenting relationship with the mom. I’d say I would be a decent catch for most 40+ women who are done with or not interested in more kids. Except that I do want more kids.

I do not want to get married again but I am not closed to the idea.

Yep. I do want to have a couple more kids. I’m very involved with my current kids (50/50 coparent 100% involved) and feel a lot of pride and joy in being a father.

What is the best way to go about finding a partner to have kids with? Ideally we live together as a loving couple and raise the kids as a family (preferably not married, but I’m open to the idea ) but I am also completely open to an arrangement of sorts where we split custody and raise them 50/50.

Obviously barriers are my own age and the fact that I already have kids. How do I overcome the rejections and find potential women who may be interested in someone like me and something like this.

[Anonymous]

Become a sugar daddy.

[Anonymous]

You're too old. Focus on the kids you already have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced. I have two kids. I’m wealthy, good health (physical, mental), post grad education, have a good to great drama free coparenting relationship with the mom. I’d say I would be a decent catch for most 40+ women who are done with or not interested in more kids. Except that I do want more kids.

I do not want to get married again but I am not closed to the idea.

Yep. I do want to have a couple more kids. I’m very involved with my current kids (50/50 coparent 100% involved) and feel a lot of pride and joy in being a father.

What is the best way to go about finding a partner to have kids with? Ideally we live together as a loving couple and raise the kids as a family (preferably not married, but I’m open to the idea ) but I am also completely open to an arrangement of sorts where we split custody and raise them 50/50.

Obviously barriers are my own age and the fact that I already have kids. How do I overcome the rejections and find potential women who may be interested in someone like me and something like this.

I find that most men who are in their 40’s, or older, and have kids only claim they want more kids to get with a younger woman.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't open with "you might be able to talk to me into getting married." But a lot of women in their mid/late 30s very much want to meet someone to have kids with, and your profile doesn't seem like it would be a dealbreaker for all of them. But you find them the way you find anyone -- dating apps and IRL. Have you tried this yet? What's the issue?

[Anonymous]

Divorced late thirties women who want kids would love you

[Anonymous]

Hahaha hellllll nooooo OP.

48 and you want no strings attached parenting? For a maybe max 35 year old?

Completely unattractive, turn off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced. I have two kids. I’m wealthy, good health (physical, mental), post grad education, have a good to great drama free coparenting relationship with the mom. I’d say I would be a decent catch for most 40+ women who are done with or not interested in more kids. Except that I do want more kids.

I do not want to get married again but I am not closed to the idea.

Yep. I do want to have a couple more kids. I’m very involved with my current kids (50/50 coparent 100% involved) and feel a lot of pride and joy in being a father.

What is the best way to go about finding a partner to have kids with? Ideally we live together as a loving couple and raise the kids as a family (preferably not married, but I’m open to the idea ) but I am also completely open to an arrangement of sorts where we split custody and raise them 50/50.

Obviously barriers are my own age and the fact that I already have kids. How do I overcome the rejections and find potential women who may be interested in someone like me and something like this.

Who on earth is signing up for this up front with a 48 year old man? Who has other kids already?

Who engineers a trashy baby daddy-style set up ON PURPOSE?

[Anonymous]

If you are rich, you are too old.

But if you are “crazy rich,” like in the movie Crazy Rich Asians, then have at it.

I suggest moving to Hollywood. Lots of weirdo-women and gold-diggers who’d be down for whatever tonight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced. I have two kids. I’m wealthy, good health (physical, mental), post grad education, have a good to great drama free coparenting relationship with the mom. I’d say I would be a decent catch for most 40+ women who are done with or not interested in more kids. Except that I do want more kids.

I do not want to get married again but I am not closed to the idea.

Yep. I do want to have a couple more kids. I’m very involved with my current kids (50/50 coparent 100% involved) and feel a lot of pride and joy in being a father.

What is the best way to go about finding a partner to have kids with? Ideally we live together as a loving couple and raise the kids as a family (preferably not married, but I’m open to the idea ) but I am also completely open to an arrangement of sorts where we split custody and raise them 50/50.

Obviously barriers are my own age and the fact that I already have kids. How do I overcome the rejections and find potential women who may be interested in someone like me and something like this.

Lame troll attempt, troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced. I have two kids. I’m wealthy, good health (physical, mental), post grad education, have a good to great drama free coparenting relationship with the mom. I’d say I would be a decent catch for most 40+ women who are done with or not interested in more kids. Except that I do want more kids.

I do not want to get married again but I am not closed to the idea.

Yep. I do want to have a couple more kids. I’m very involved with my current kids (50/50 coparent 100% involved) and feel a lot of pride and joy in being a father.

What is the best way to go about finding a partner to have kids with? Ideally we live together as a loving couple and raise the kids as a family (preferably not married, but I’m open to the idea ) but I am also completely open to an arrangement of sorts where we split custody and raise them 50/50.

Obviously barriers are my own age and the fact that I already have kids. How do I overcome the rejections and find potential women who may be interested in someone like me and something like this.

I know I know!

Write a long long anonymous post on DCUM. That’s the smart thing to do.

[Anonymous]

What’s wrong with the kids you already have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced. I have two kids. I’m wealthy, good health (physical, mental), post grad education, have a good to great drama free coparenting relationship with the mom. I’d say I would be a decent catch for most 40+ women who are done with or not interested in more kids. Except that I do want more kids.

I do not want to get married again but I am not closed to the idea.

Yep. I do want to have a couple more kids. I’m very involved with my current kids (50/50 coparent 100% involved) and feel a lot of pride and joy in being a father.

What is the best way to go about finding a partner to have kids with? Ideally we live together as a loving couple and raise the kids as a family (preferably not married, but I’m open to the idea ) but I am also completely open to an arrangement of sorts where we split custody and raise them 50/50.

Obviously barriers are my own age and the fact that I already have kids. How do I overcome the rejections and find potential women who may be interested in someone like me and something like this.

Who on earth is signing up for this up front with a 48 year old man? Who has other kids already?

Who engineers a trashy baby daddy-style set up ON PURPOSE?

And who would be interested in being involved in co-parenting with two different mothers? Do you work? What a weird mindset

[Anonymous]

Become a foster parent?

[Anonymous]

Ugh that’s enough internet for today.