Have you been propositioned?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am out on the social scene ie. dancing or at a bar, men hit on me but as soon as I mention that I am married they respectfully back away.

I think most strange men, even outside of church, respect marriage. I imagine propositions only happen long after some form of intimacy is already there. Coworkers, exes, someone who has some level of familiarity with you and thinks they can get away with it. Or isn’t thinking at all, even.

Do you wear a wedding ring?

[Anonymous]

Yes. And no, my wedding ring does not deter them at all. For some, it's a specific thing to go after married women.
35f

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. And no, my wedding ring does not deter them at all. For some, it's a specific thing to go after married women.
35f

I also have a pretty good RBF, so it always feels extra crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean if you would have flirted back then you have been directly propositioned. Most men aren’t going to pursue a woman who is giving go away vibes.

So you don't even need to be propositioned for it to count as a proposition. Flirting is sufficient?

The women who say they are frequently propositioned are just more flirtatious (or even simply friendly) than the OP.

Not sure how OP doesn’t understand this.

[Anonymous]

Being propositioned does not mean you found the guy to be desirable.

When I was young and attractive, many married men propositioned me. They had status and money but seemed very old and unattractive to me (in part because I thought they were sleazy for cheating in their wives!)

[Anonymous]

Married 18 years. Neither of us has ever been propositioned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am out on the social scene ie. dancing or at a bar, men hit on me but as soon as I mention that I am married they respectfully back away.

I think most strange men, even outside of church, respect marriage. I imagine propositions only happen long after some form of intimacy is already there. Coworkers, exes, someone who has some level of familiarity with you and thinks they can get away with it. Or isn’t thinking at all, even.

Women do not back away....I have had 2 women pursue me. One knew I was married and the other I told her. I was shocked on both cases.

[Anonymous]

Get propositioned while traveling for work all the time. I am also a very friendly extrovert so men feel comfortable talking to me and approaching me.

[Anonymous]

Churches have all kinds of freaks at them, you can definitely get propositioned there.

Man, married for 16 years, can't think of any propositions. Lots of flirting, so maybe I'm just dense, but never been aware if there was a proposition.

[Anonymous]

45F, married 16 years. Dated a long time before that. Once in our late 20s / early 30s (forget if we were married) a female friend of a friend asked my husband if we were into threesomes. We declined. Otherwise I have not been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of married women in this forum claim that they had many offers or opportunities to sleep with other men.

I have not.

In 16 years of marriage, I have had a few unappealing men hit on me, and I've had a few flirtatious conversations, but I would never go so far as to say I've had an opportunity to sleep with a man that I would sleep with if I weren't married. It simply has never happened.

I don't know if this is a looks thing or an opportunity thing. I am a homebody who mostly socializes around church events, so that could be it. But I think I'm pretty attractive or at least cute. You would think in 16 years something would have happened!

I used to be a meeting and event planner for an association, and when on scouting trips at hotels, men, married and not, would always hit on me. I never took them up on it, but had many opportunities

[Anonymous]

95% of the women posting on these forums are likely undatable by looks. Don't believe what you read.

[Anonymous]

While married? No. I was not in positions for that to happen. Divorced? Yes. Constantly.

[Anonymous]

I mean.. how do you think extra marital affairs happen? People proposition each other - they usually start by dropping hints and what happens next depends on how the other person responds to them.

[Anonymous]

Male
yes, it was a friends wife at a holiday summer party. I immediately left and went home.
When I was unmarried out at a bar. a couple asked me to go home with them, I told them I had plans