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I am sad for DD--this past weekend
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Anonymous
| You won’t be invited to every thing. Grow a backbone. They could have went with each other and had a good time. Don’t sit around waiting for an invitation. |
Anonymous
OP said her kids reached out to friends but never heard back. They weren't waiting around for an invitation. And my 15 yo DS would rather die than go to VV with his 13 year old sister and possibly see his friends there.... |
Anonymous
You sound like your Grandmom Girls wear bikinis on the beach and they can wear Daisy dukes and tub tops like your generation did too. Go clutch your pearls and judge and demean girls somewhere else |
Anonymous
That's unfortunate |
Anonymous
That is exactly what waiting around for an invitation is. They texted, and waited… |
Anonymous
| The siblings should have gone together. It’s not that serious. They’d see their friends there, meet up and hang out. Or not. |
Anonymous
No it isn't. "Waiting around for an invitation" implies they were not proactive at all and waited, hoping someone would reach out and invite them. It sounds like OP's kids reached out to make a plan but no one responded back. |
Anonymous
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It’s not always better to be invited, just because.
The summer after 8th grade my friends invited me to a carnival, only when I got there, they completely ditched me. It’s a horrible memory. My mom had given me something like $30 to buy a wristband and a snack. After they ditched me I just wandered around waiting for the time my mom would pick me up. I remember buying a popcorn and soda or something and then being too humiliated to give the rest of the money back to my mom because I was embarrassed. It felt just horrible to be so excited only to be rejected. |
Anonymous
| This is why kids shouldn't have social media. You sound very immature if you are sad about this. |
Anonymous
You wouldn't feel sad if your kids were sad about something? |
Anonymous
| We don't know that many people that stayed in town, I would bet that most of your kids' friends were on vacation. Most people that go to VV are from surrounding areas. |
Anonymous
No, I don't let their emotions impact mine. |
Anonymous
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“Be more inclusive” - what exactly does that mean OP?
Next time you go to dinner or for drinks with your friends, will you call or text a mom you know from your kids’ school or activity to join your group? When you go for a walk with your neighbor, do you text any neighbors whose homes you might pass just in case they feel left out? When was the last time a new person joined your book club? When you have a holiday cook out do you post it on NextDoor or your neighborhood Facebook group? When you go out to lunch with a coworker, do you invite everyone who may want to come? Think about what you are saying in terms of adult relationships. It is not preschool where everyone includes the whole class. People should respond definitively to an invite and should not lie or make up excuses that are easily disproven on social media, but no one owes anyone an invite to a public event. I think what you are looking for is direct communication, not necessarily inclusion. Sure it would have been nice if your kids had a group to hang out with. But at the minimum it would have been helpful if the friends responded “sorry I already agreed to meet up with Susie and Laura, but I’m not the organizer, so I don’t feel comfortable extending the invite.” Or “I’m going with these 2 people but we don’t have any more room in the car” - basically anything that would have allowed your kids to move on and call someone else. |
Anonymous
It’s understandable to feel upset. They reached out to friends, and friends couldn’t be bothered to respond back. |
Anonymous
I think you are right. In the days of texting, kids have no sense of polite communication. |