Hotness Pass and special treatment?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your partner physically hot? And I don't mean to you, I mean by societal standards? Does their hotness impact the way you treat them in the relationship? Do they get away with more, because they are hot?

My husband is extremely hot. 6' 4", in better shape than most 25 year olds, super strong with big hands, stamina, blue eyes that are soul melting, and a smile to match. I am still mesmerized by what an amazing human specimen he is.

I feel like he gets passes all the time on things that in previous relationships would have irritated me, or I notice myself going along with him on things, just because, verses in other relationships I was probably too opinionated. It is an observation that I am much more relaxed in this relationship, and I am starting to boil it down to hotness.

It boils down to your attraction, not his hotness. I've seen hot, handsome, beautiful specimens getting treated as invisible and mediocre.

+1 I find my husband very hot and most people would not. (Very skinny, average height, with sharp features.) I give him passes on so many irritating things because he's just my type. He loves to sit on the couch on a beautiful day and I would never have accepted that from a lesser being.
Then I see the little league coach with a swarm of women around him swooning and I'm incredulous because I find that man to be such a nothing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your partner physically hot? And I don't mean to you, I mean by societal standards? Does their hotness impact the way you treat them in the relationship? Do they get away with more, because they are hot?

My husband is extremely hot. 6' 4", in better shape than most 25 year olds, super strong with big hands, stamina, blue eyes that are soul melting, and a smile to match. I am still mesmerized by what an amazing human specimen he is.

I feel like he gets passes all the time on things that in previous relationships would have irritated me, or I notice myself going along with him on things, just because, verses in other relationships I was probably too opinionated. It is an observation that I am much more relaxed in this relationship, and I am starting to boil it down to hotness.

What is the opposite of pu$$y whipped? D1ck whipped? You're that, and it's stupid.

Either that, or you were neurotic af in previous relationships, and you've calmed down. But I highly doubt it's your spouse's extraordinary hotness that did it. There's no amount of pretty that makes up for shite behavior or stupidity or just plain incompatibility, IMO.

Congrats on pairing off with someone you're not bored with (yet). Hope that lasts for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your partner physically hot? And I don't mean to you, I mean by societal standards? Does their hotness impact the way you treat them in the relationship? Do they get away with more, because they are hot?

My husband is extremely hot. 6' 4", in better shape than most 25 year olds, super strong with big hands, stamina, blue eyes that are soul melting, and a smile to match. I am still mesmerized by what an amazing human specimen he is.

I feel like he gets passes all the time on things that in previous relationships would have irritated me, or I notice myself going along with him on things, just because, verses in other relationships I was probably too opinionated. It is an observation that I am much more relaxed in this relationship, and I am starting to boil it down to hotness.

Wut.

[Anonymous]

Well I am sure it goes the other way. My BF tells me I’m so hot I can do no wrong and it’s the only explanation for why he is so patient with me.

As for him, he’s too short (5’8”) to be considered unbearably universally hot but he is otherwise extremely hot in every way. He is the guy that if I knew him at work I’d be a fool around him and thinking, damn, he is so hot AND kind, of course he’s taken dammit. Women go nuts for him but he doesn’t know it. I definitely look at him and think “lucky me” every single day, and I’m much more agreeable bc he looks like exactly who I want; inside & outside.

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Anonymous wrote:Your post is basically a self-congratulatory brag. It's annoying. I feel the prior "ew" although I am a DP.

I've been with model-looking guys, meaning underwear model types that you see in magazines. The novelty of looks wears off after a few months. And when you spend more time with them, you find that they have bad breath in the mornings, ain't so great before they get done up, burp and fart just like the rest of us. So, no, their looks don't given them a pass. If there is a worse looking guy but has more swagger, more ambition/achievements, and more sexual prowess in bed, I'd be all over the ugly one.

How am I bragging? This is an anonymous form. Also, there are lots of hot people on the planet, some of us are married to them.

But anyway, sweetheart he has all the other things you mention outside of hotness too...ambition, achievements, sexual prowess, he loves me, takes care of me, etc. I am not that shallow, I know hot men poop and fart like anyone else! I would never marry unless it was the whole package.

I am more fascinated by the psychology behind looks being correlated to bad behavior passes in relationship dynamics. I just know I was never this chill in other relationships, and the guys were less hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is hott. He doesn’t get any passes from me. But I do take joy in knowing I will be with the most attractive man at 99% of the events or gatherings we attend. It also hilarious to watch woman try and flirt with him when he arrives before I do or I step away for a few minutes.

OP here. Yes, I take the same joy in knowing this too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your partner physically hot? And I don't mean to you, I mean by societal standards? Does their hotness impact the way you treat them in the relationship? Do they get away with more, because they are hot?

My husband is extremely hot. 6' 4", in better shape than most 25 year olds, super strong with big hands, stamina, blue eyes that are soul melting, and a smile to match. I am still mesmerized by what an amazing human specimen he is.

I feel like he gets passes all the time on things that in previous relationships would have irritated me, or I notice myself going along with him on things, just because, verses in other relationships I was probably too opinionated. It is an observation that I am much more relaxed in this relationship, and I am starting to boil it down to hotness.

It boils down to your attraction, not his hotness. I've seen hot, handsome, beautiful specimens getting treated as invisible and mediocre.

+1 I find my husband very hot and most people would not. (Very skinny, average height, with sharp features.) I give him passes on so many irritating things because he's just my type. He loves to sit on the couch on a beautiful day and I would never have accepted that from a lesser being.
Then I see the little league coach with a swarm of women around him swooning and I'm incredulous because I find that man to be such a nothing!

OP here. This is a perfect example of what I mean. I would NEVER sit on the couch on a sunny day and would normally be annoyed if my partner did the same. Not with this man...go ahead and lounge on the couch. I will be here taking you all in, and smiling to myself that I am lucky! He is a good man outside of his looks too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You don't even realize how shallow you are. LOL. And I bet not nearly as good looking enough for the standards you have.

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OP, I read your post as you being too insecure to actually be yourself because you are worried he has other options if you upset him. Also, your post sounds incredibly shallow.

[Anonymous]

This is the weirdest thread with some of the strangest people.

[Anonymous]

I don’t bother with men I’m not attracted to so I don’t get this post at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is basically a self-congratulatory brag. It's annoying. I feel the prior "ew" although I am a DP.

I've been with model-looking guys, meaning underwear model types that you see in magazines. The novelty of looks wears off after a few months. And when you spend more time with them, you find that they have bad breath in the mornings, ain't so great before they get done up, burp and fart just like the rest of us. So, no, their looks don't given them a pass. If there is a worse looking guy but has more swagger, more ambition/achievements, and more sexual prowess in bed, I'd be all over the ugly one.

How am I bragging? This is an anonymous form. Also, there are lots of hot people on the planet, some of us are married to them.

But anyway, sweetheart he has all the other things you mention outside of hotness too...ambition, achievements, sexual prowess, he loves me, takes care of me, etc. I am not that shallow, I know hot men poop and fart like anyone else! I would never marry unless it was the whole package.

I am more fascinated by the psychology behind looks being correlated to bad behavior passes in relationship dynamics. I just know I was never this chill in other relationships, and the guys were less hot.

In my twenties I dated someone who was objectively super hot -- this might reveal him, but when he was a hill staffer, January Jones came to his office and then pursued him and they dated for a while.

He certainly expected lots of "passes" and everyone bent over backwards to make him happy.

Now Im in a marriage where my husband finds my hot and he lets me get away with a lot of bratty behavior (that this twenties guy wouldn't have).

Definitely something to it. There was a 30rock episode with Jon Hamm about being "in the bubble" of hotness. It's hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You don't even realize how shallow you are. LOL. And I bet not nearly as good looking enough for the standards you have.

This is PP. You might think so, but I always am able to date and sleep with attractive women and know have learned not to lower my standards. (And I concur with the PPs. It is really fun being somewhere with the most attractive date in the room)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your partner physically hot? And I don't mean to you, I mean by societal standards? Does their hotness impact the way you treat them in the relationship? Do they get away with more, because they are hot?

My husband is extremely hot. 6' 4", in better shape than most 25 year olds, super strong with big hands, stamina, blue eyes that are soul melting, and a smile to match. I am still mesmerized by what an amazing human specimen he is.

I feel like he gets passes all the time on things that in previous relationships would have irritated me, or I notice myself going along with him on things, just because, verses in other relationships I was probably too opinionated. It is an observation that I am much more relaxed in this relationship, and I am starting to boil it down to hotness.

So he makes you feel like you can't have an opinion? Or you just cower to his hotness and bow at his godly feet?

Either way, I agree with pp - ew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I read your post as you being too insecure to actually be yourself because you are worried he has other options if you upset him. Also, your post sounds incredibly shallow.

+1, the insecurity. She doesn't want him to leave her for someone younger/hotter so she will become a shell of herself to please him.