Hotness Pass and special treatment?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You have issues.

Like what? He doesn't want to put up with some girls BS unless she is hot. That seems reasonable.

I reached the same conclusion many years ago. If I’m going to get treated poorly, why not at least get the benefit of a hottie while it lasts?

So you acknowledge you aren't looking for marriage material with these women. You just want to f*** and dump but at least they're attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You have issues.

Like what? He doesn't want to put up with some girls BS unless she is hot. That seems reasonable.

I reached the same conclusion many years ago. If I’m going to get treated poorly, why not at least get the benefit of a hottie while it lasts?

So you acknowledge you aren't looking for marriage material with these women. You just want to f*** and dump but at least they're attractive?

Ugly, in between, and hot girls get f***** and dumped all the time. I personally would pick a hot person to f*** and dump!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know from a man's perspective, but as a woman, if my DH were really hot I think our relationship would be better. I would want to have sex way more and when we have sex our relationship is much better. We are kinder to each other and find more ways to connect during the day. I'll settle for him losing weight.

Have you told him that you might put out more if he slimmed down?

Nope. I know men are less sensitive about this stuff in general, but I don’t think it would go over well. It’s not like he initiates much and I reject him. He would feel it’s conditional. Which it is. But I also wouldn’t take that criticism well (though I am as fit and slender as the day we married).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You have issues.

Like what? He doesn't want to put up with some girls BS unless she is hot. That seems reasonable.

I reached the same conclusion many years ago. If I’m going to get treated poorly, why not at least get the benefit of a hottie while it lasts?

So you acknowledge you aren't looking for marriage material with these women. You just want to f*** and dump but at least they're attractive?

Nope. Married the first hottie that didn’t want to monkey-branch to another guy.

[Anonymous]

Quite the opposite for me. Dh fell for me because I’m attractive but then after marriage proceeded to tear down my self confidence. I was young and it worked.

Older now and on our way to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is very good looking and no, I don’t give him a pass because of it. We’ve been together for 25 years and I treat him as a whole person.

I know a dad who is as OP describes. I have no idea how his wife treats him, but he is so annoying in casual conversation it has killed any “hot” that might be there. I actively avoid him.

Describe your husband for us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I read your post as you being too insecure to actually be yourself because you are worried he has other options if you upset him. Also, your post sounds incredibly shallow.

+1, the insecurity. She doesn't want him to leave her for someone younger/hotter so she will become a shell of herself to please him.

Ya this. This is what happened to me with the January Jones guy.

[Anonymous]

All I know is the “hot husbands” hit on me a lot- their wives don’t know, as far as I know. The hot guys know they are hot and also know they get away with more because of it. I’m married too. Lucky for the wives, I have never taken these men up on any of their offers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well duh. All of my good looking friends are treated super well by their husbands. The men feel lucky to be with them. My less good looking friends struggle more and their spouses are honestly kind of jerks to them. Obvious to be that good looking women get special treatment. And yeah I assume they hat includes forgiving their slights more readily

At a certain age, being “good looking” just means being in shape and doing the necessary things to maintain hair, teeth, skin etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All I know is the “hot husbands” hit on me a lot- their wives don’t know, as far as I know. The hot guys know they are hot and also know they get away with more because of it. I’m married too. Lucky for the wives, I have never taken these men up on any of their offers.

Yeah I’ve been hit on by hot husband and he’s no longer hot because if it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is hott. He doesn’t get any passes from me. But I do take joy in knowing I will be with the most attractive man at 99% of the events or gatherings we attend. It also hilarious to watch woman try and flirt with him when he arrives before I do or I step away for a few minutes.

I bet this actually causes you a great deal of stress that you’re trying to mask as pride.

[Anonymous]

Dating a hot man right now and it’s wild seeing women pander and acquiesce like the Red Sea around him. The other day we were looking for a table in a crowded place and he asked if a spot was taken and the (married moms) ladies sitting there looked up at him like puppies before immediately making space. I was at an angle so the couldn’t see I was with him then I turned around, they rapidly adjusted then checked me out from head to toe. Women’s eyes bulge when the see him. He is oblivious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quite the opposite for me. Dh fell for me because I’m attractive but then after marriage proceeded to tear down my self confidence. I was young and it worked.

Older now and on our way to divorce.

Ah that’s because he’s insecure and tore you down so you wouldn’t think you could do better and leave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating a hot man right now and it’s wild seeing women pander and acquiesce like the Red Sea around him. The other day we were looking for a table in a crowded place and he asked if a spot was taken and the (married moms) ladies sitting there looked up at him like puppies before immediately making space. I was at an angle so the couldn’t see I was with him then I turned around, they rapidly adjusted then checked me out from head to toe. Women’s eyes bulge when the see him. He is oblivious.

OP here. YES! This is a great of example. It's wild!

[Anonymous]

There's a lot of privilege in being hot. People gravitate towards you and you do get special treatment.