Hotness Pass and special treatment?

[Anonymous]

Is your partner physically hot? And I don't mean to you, I mean by societal standards? Does their hotness impact the way you treat them in the relationship? Do they get away with more, because they are hot?

My husband is extremely hot. 6' 4", in better shape than most 25 year olds, super strong with big hands, stamina, blue eyes that are soul melting, and a smile to match. I am still mesmerized by what an amazing human specimen he is.

I feel like he gets passes all the time on things that in previous relationships would have irritated me, or I notice myself going along with him on things, just because, verses in other relationships I was probably too opinionated. It is an observation that I am much more relaxed in this relationship, and I am starting to boil it down to hotness.

[Anonymous]

Ew

[Anonymous]

I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ew

Being hot is "Ew"? I mean can you elaborate if you're going to bother posting a response. It means nothing.

[Anonymous]

I am objectively hotter than my spouse but receive no hotness passes. Darn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You have issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You have issues.

Like what? He doesn't want to put up with some girls BS unless she is hot. That seems reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Well duh. All of my good looking friends are treated super well by their husbands. The men feel lucky to be with them. My less good looking friends struggle more and their spouses are honestly kind of jerks to them. Obvious to be that good looking women get special treatment. And yeah I assume they hat includes forgiving their slights more readily

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your partner physically hot? And I don't mean to you, I mean by societal standards? Does their hotness impact the way you treat them in the relationship? Do they get away with more, because they are hot?

My husband is extremely hot. 6' 4", in better shape than most 25 year olds, super strong with big hands, stamina, blue eyes that are soul melting, and a smile to match. I am still mesmerized by what an amazing human specimen he is.

I feel like he gets passes all the time on things that in previous relationships would have irritated me, or I notice myself going along with him on things, just because, verses in other relationships I was probably too opinionated. It is an observation that I am much more relaxed in this relationship, and I am starting to boil it down to hotness.

It boils down to your attraction, not his hotness. I've seen hot, handsome, beautiful specimens getting treated as invisible and mediocre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You have issues.

Like what? He doesn't want to put up with some girls BS unless she is hot. That seems reasonable.

That means his relationships would keep being shallow and insincere.

[Anonymous]

Your post is basically a self-congratulatory brag. It's annoying. I feel the prior "ew" although I am a DP.

I've been with model-looking guys, meaning underwear model types that you see in magazines. The novelty of looks wears off after a few months. And when you spend more time with them, you find that they have bad breath in the mornings, ain't so great before they get done up, burp and fart just like the rest of us. So, no, their looks don't given them a pass. If there is a worse looking guy but has more swagger, more ambition/achievements, and more sexual prowess in bed, I'd be all over the ugly one.

[Anonymous]

It’s not just looks. Most people are willing to put up with more if the person is hot, has money, gives them lots of sex, etc.

[Anonymous]

The infatuation phase maybe lasts a little longer, but if there's no other substance besides hotness, it'll get old.

[Anonymous]

My DH is hott. He doesn’t get any passes from me. But I do take joy in knowing I will be with the most attractive man at 99% of the events or gatherings we attend. It also hilarious to watch woman try and flirt with him when he arrives before I do or I step away for a few minutes.

[Anonymous]

It is 1 of 2 things.

1. You seriously love him and put up with those small annoyances because of it. You probably would put up with them if he was less hot just because of your love for him.

2. You deep down are insecure that he will find someone else if you voice your opinion or share things that annoy you.

One of these is healthy, the other is not. I'd probably look into which it is