Hotness Pass and special treatment?

[Anonymous]

My husband is only 6'2" and has green eyes but otherwise yes, hot like yours. Do *I* give him special treatment because he's hot? No. I treat him well because I love him but if he, say, leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor, I don't think to myself, well his dimple when he smiles is so amazing so it doesn't matter!

Do others give him special treatment because he's hot? Yes, absolutely our society is kinder to good looking people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well duh. All of my good looking friends are treated super well by their husbands. The men feel lucky to be with them. My less good looking friends struggle more and their spouses are honestly kind of jerks to them. Obvious to be that good looking women get special treatment. And yeah I assume they hat includes forgiving their slights more readily

Really? In our large friend group of about 20 families, the two that got divorced had one not good looking wife and one bikini model wife - both women were cheated on. The two best marriages of the group I would say the wives are about 7s? The two worst marriages of the group I would say the wives are 9s. My sample size may not be big enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is only 6'2" and has green eyes but otherwise yes, hot like yours. Do *I* give him special treatment because he's hot? No. I treat him well because I love him but if he, say, leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor, I don't think to myself, well his dimple when he smiles is so amazing so it doesn't matter!

Do others give him special treatment because he's hot? Yes, absolutely our society is kinder to good looking people.

OP here. For the record, I am not the one who asked what your husband looked like. He sounds hot too I love my husband for many reasons, other than his looks...but I would be lying if I said his looks have nothing to do with the way I treat him. It definitely plays into some dynamic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I experienced the opposite recently. After a string of incredibly hot girlfriends, I tried to make a recent relationship work because we shared several hobbies and a life outlook. The first time she got upset about something little I thought to myself, “I often up with this, but she’s not hot enough to tolerate it,” and broke up shortly after.

You have issues.

Like what? He doesn't want to put up with some girls BS unless she is hot. That seems reasonable.

That means his relationships would keep being shallow and insincere.

He might have phrased it as the women being hot enough but it could have been about attraction instead, which is fine - you should be attracted to the person you're with, regardless of how hot society would dictate they are. Or maybe the guy is just an AH.