Would you tell your child if they were ugly?

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve only met 2 ugly people in my whole life. Truthfully.

Yeah, part of being ugly is that often we’re invisible to people. I don’t hide away in seclusion- people just look right past me.

[Anonymous]

I was adopted from Korea and within 30 minutes of meeting my birth mother for the first time, she asked me if I wanted to make an appointment with a plastic surgeon to have my facial moles removed. I should’ve told her I got them from her.

Despite some pressuring, I did not get my moles removed.

[Anonymous]

I don't really consider mole removal as plastic surgery. The moles I've had removed were for skin cancer suspicion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't really consider mole removal as plastic surgery. The moles I've had removed were for skin cancer suspicion.

PP here. Trust me, it wasn’t over health concerns. It was because she felt they marred my appearance.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve only met 2 ugly people in my whole life. Truthfully.

Yeah, part of being ugly is that often we’re invisible to people. I don’t hide away in seclusion- people just look right past me.

I disagree, I work, i have customer, I know my kids friends, I meet neighbors, etc.

There are very few truly ugly people in the world, forgetful maybe but ugly nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come from a MENA background and moms “out of love” and looking after the best interest of their children (particularly girls) would tell their child if they were unattractive or ugly and strongly encourage plastic surgery. After speaking to a friend who is of South Korean descent she basically said the same thing. Korean mothers would push plastic surgery or be very controlling about weight. Obviously this is also highly toxic behavior and has become increasingly unacceptable in today’s social climate. So would you tell your child if they were ugly? Would you push your child towards plastic surgery if it would benefit them? Why or why not?

No! Why would a parent tell their children they are ugly?

Now, if my child asked me if s/he was ugly, I'd probably wouldn't say yes or no but remind them that beauty is superficial and confidence and the way we carry ourselves make a much bigger difference as to how "beautiful" we really are.

[Anonymous]

Being not-ugly is a combination of being happy, healthy, and confident in your personal style. Being noticeably attractive requires a conventional set of features and/or styling. I don’t aspire to have my children be the latter so no I can’t imagine telling them (or thinking) that they’re ugly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That news story in China where man sues wife for having too much surgery to appear pretty but their kids born with her old looks come to mind

I don’t know and kind of doubt it happens in real life but it’s certainly a regular convention in the Chinese murder mystery and soap operas I watch.

[Anonymous]

Where did the ugly child get their genetics? Maybe someone needs to tell you that you are ugly.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't tell them they are ugly. However, if they were unhappy with their looks and it was over something that is objectively a problem that can be fixed (e.g. a nose) I would support it.

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with people, of course I would never tell my kids they are ugly. What a horribly damaging thing to say! This just breaks my heart for all those sweet children thinking they are not good enough because of their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with people, of course I would never tell my kids they are ugly. What a horribly damaging thing to say! This just breaks my heart for all those sweet children thinking they are not good enough because of their parents.

They feel they are doing the right thing out of tough love. While it isn’t right being harsh is good parenting to them. Like instead of congratulating their child on getting a 90% on a test they ask where the other 10% is. These parents strongly feel their children, essentially girls, will not succeed if flaws can be found. They will not be loved, get married or find good jobs if they are not attractive so by telling them they are ugly and pushing plastic surgery they feel they are helping them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only met 2 ugly people in my whole life. Truthfully.

Yeah, part of being ugly is that often we’re invisible to people. I don’t hide away in seclusion- people just look right past me.

I disagree, I work, i have customer, I know my kids friends, I meet neighbors, etc.

There are very few truly ugly people in the world, forgetful maybe but ugly nope.

Agree with this. And there are some unattractive people that as you get to know them they become better looking, and some beautiful people who as you get to know them start looking uglier.

[Anonymous]

I was kind of an ugly kid, and I never knew it until I saw photos of myself as an adult. I had no trouble dating and boys generally liked me, which now is puzzling because I don’t think I was very pretty. But I was a cheerful child and pretty friendly, so maybe that makes a difference. My parents always told me I looked pretty so maybe it’s their fault I had a false sense of beauty.

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I have to agree that I’ve met very few truly ugly people.

To answer the question, no. I would encourage my child to be as well-groomed as possible. A haircut (they are both male), good skin, manicured hands, and well fitting clothes will take you very far.