Would you tell your child if they were ugly?
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Anonymous
| I come from a MENA background and moms “out of love” and looking after the best interest of their children (particularly girls) would tell their child if they were unattractive or ugly and strongly encourage plastic surgery. After speaking to a friend who is of South Korean descent she basically said the same thing. Korean mothers would push plastic surgery or be very controlling about weight. Obviously this is also highly toxic behavior and has become increasingly unacceptable in today’s social climate. So would you tell your child if they were ugly? Would you push your child towards plastic surgery if it would benefit them? Why or why not? |
Anonymous
| I dated someone from another culture where her mom bullied her for her looks and weight. People are nasty. |
Anonymous
| No way. |
Anonymous
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I would never in a million years tell a child they were ugly.
I'm somewhat familiar with South Korea. People always note how the moms never look like their children. South Korea does excess very well. I like South Korea a lot, but can't say it's the healthiest country. I'll note a couple of things. If you are just talking about attractiveness, being fit is where it's at. Almost everyone looks good when they are strong and exude that healthy glow and the body that comes from physically pushing it. Add a great personality. Kind. Smart. Funny. Empathetic. 10/10. But what makes someone truly beautiful is the energy within. Looks fade for everyone. Would never make that the focus of one's sense of self. So, exercise. Be kind. Make friends. It'll work out. I can guarantee that making your child's appearance at this moment in time an issue is not going to work out well. |
Anonymous
| Nah, that would crush my kids and we're always working hard to be positive about things in their lives. Like others here I'd encourage them to get athletic, wear great clothes, try out new haircuts, etc. And how a kid looks at 12 is generally pretty different than how they look at 19. Bodies can change in both directions. |
Anonymous
| Never. Ever. |
Anonymous
| That news story in China where man sues wife for having too much surgery to appear pretty but their kids born with her old looks come to mind |
Anonymous
| Where are all the DCUM direct, i.e., blunt, people? |
Anonymous
| Oh my gosh, no! That’s so damaging for a child or phone. |
Anonymous
| Please be a troll. |
Anonymous
| As an ugly person, I assure you I didn’t need my parents to tell me. I knew. I’m not blind. And it’s not like the kids at school were quiet about it. “Halloween is over; you can take off your scary mask.” My looks peaked at about 4-5. |
Anonymous
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Look at Jeff Bezos. |
Anonymous
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I’ve only met 2 ugly people in my whole life. Truthfully.
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Anonymous
Not a troll. It was like a right of passage amongst my friends for their mothers to take their daughter to the plastic surgeon at 16 for a rhinoplasty or other procedures. Not because the girls asked for it but because “nobody will marry you if you’re ugly”. |
Anonymous
Middle eastern North African. |