I love him but don’t like him. Feeling stuck.

[Anonymous]

Leave. He sounds horrid.

Also, get a job.

[Anonymous]

Hmm. He doesn't sound lovable, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, you’ve lived there for a year so you should really have figured out the parking situation by now. It’s your car so it’s your responsibility.

That said, this sounds like a terrible match and will only get worse if and when you actually are “stuck.” Right now you don’t even have a lease agreement tying you to him. Time to break up.

How is my fault that he just did it for me? I didn’t ask for him to move car for me, he just always did. Even today I didn’t ask him to come out to move it. Either way, that’s besides the point . It’s not about the car it’s about how he handled it. If he was tired of doing that for me then he could and should have just said it. I have never once asked him to that for me he would always say, even we were dating, “where are you car keys? I’m going to move your car”. He’s an adult he could have just told me in a calm, respectful way that he didn’t want to do it anymore instead of telling wtf at me and in the middle of the side walk.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t read the whole thing so I assume the fiancé is a monster.

But you are also a monster because not changing your plates because of a hypothetical future move and then having to move your car constantly is madness and would be grounds for divorce to me if my spouse did it, especially if I was expected to be involved in moving the car in any way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave. He sounds horrid.

Also, get a job.

I’ve been looking for a job.

[Anonymous]

Why exactly do you love this guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read the whole thing so I assume the fiancé is a monster.

But you are also a monster because not changing your plates because of a hypothetical future move and then having to move your car constantly is madness and would be grounds for divorce to me if my spouse did it, especially if I was expected to be involved in moving the car in any way.

I didn’t expect. I didn’t ask. He would ask for my keys and did it for me because I would drive hours to come see him, as I said in the OP I’m not from the city. I moved in once we got engaged last year and he continued to move my car. It costs thousand to register plate in the city and we both decided to save the money for our house and wedding since we didn’t plan on living in the city much longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you married? If not, just leave. You sound like a bad match. If yes, talk to a lawyer. A divorce is easy and cheap if you don't have kids.

Unfortunately, we are married. We’ve been married almost a year now. Luckily, no kids though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, you’ve lived there for a year so you should really have figured out the parking situation by now. It’s your car so it’s your responsibility.

That said, this sounds like a terrible match and will only get worse if and when you actually are “stuck.” Right now you don’t even have a lease agreement tying you to him. Time to break up.

How is my fault that he just did it for me? I didn’t ask for him to move car for me, he just always did. Even today I didn’t ask him to come out to move it. Either way, that’s besides the point . It’s not about the car it’s about how he handled it. If he was tired of doing that for me then he could and should have just said it. I have never once asked him to that for me he would always say, even we were dating, “where are you car keys? I’m going to move your car”. He’s an adult he could have just told me in a calm, respectful way that he didn’t want to do it anymore instead of telling wtf at me and in the middle of the side walk.

When someone is helping you with something like that it should make you even MORE motivated to fix it. You’re out of work! Why, in so many months that he has been kindly moving the car for you, did you not take a morning and go to the stupid DMV so that he wouldn’t have to do that for you any more? That’s insane to me. He’s insane for moving it that long but you’re much more nuts for not just fixing the stupid problem. Then you finally DID move it yourself and you called him for help??? How could anyone NOT be annoyed with you? You sound helpless in the worst way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read the whole thing so I assume the fiancé is a monster.

But you are also a monster because not changing your plates because of a hypothetical future move and then having to move your car constantly is madness and would be grounds for divorce to me if my spouse did it, especially if I was expected to be involved in moving the car in any way.

I didn’t expect. I didn’t ask. He would ask for my keys and did it for me because I would drive hours to come see him, as I said in the OP I’m not from the city. I moved in once we got engaged last year and he continued to move my car. It costs thousand to register plate in the city and we both decided to save the money for our house and wedding since we didn’t plan on living in the city much longer.

It costs $72.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, you’ve lived there for a year so you should really have figured out the parking situation by now. It’s your car so it’s your responsibility.

That said, this sounds like a terrible match and will only get worse if and when you actually are “stuck.” Right now you don’t even have a lease agreement tying you to him. Time to break up.

How is my fault that he just did it for me? I didn’t ask for him to move car for me, he just always did. Even today I didn’t ask him to come out to move it. Either way, that’s besides the point . It’s not about the car it’s about how he handled it. If he was tired of doing that for me then he could and should have just said it. I have never once asked him to that for me he would always say, even we were dating, “where are you car keys? I’m going to move your car”. He’s an adult he could have just told me in a calm, respectful way that he didn’t want to do it anymore instead of telling wtf at me and in the middle of the side walk.

When someone is helping you with something like that it should make you even MORE motivated to fix it. You’re out of work! Why, in so many months that he has been kindly moving the car for you, did you not take a morning and go to the stupid DMV so that he wouldn’t have to do that for you any more? That’s insane to me. He’s insane for moving it that long but you’re much more nuts for not just fixing the stupid problem. Then you finally DID move it yourself and you called him for help??? How could anyone NOT be annoyed with you? You sound helpless in the worst way.

it for me because I would drive hours to come see him, as I said in the OP I’m not from the city. I moved in once we got engaged last year and he continued to move my car. It costs thousand to register plate in the city and we both decided to save the money for our house and wedding since we didn’t plan on living in the city much longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read the whole thing so I assume the fiancé is a monster.

But you are also a monster because not changing your plates because of a hypothetical future move and then having to move your car constantly is madness and would be grounds for divorce to me if my spouse did it, especially if I was expected to be involved in moving the car in any way.

I didn’t expect. I didn’t ask. He would ask for my keys and did it for me because I would drive hours to come see him, as I said in the OP I’m not from the city. I moved in once we got engaged last year and he continued to move my car. It costs thousand to register plate in the city and we both decided to save the money for our house and wedding since we didn’t plan on living in the city much longer.

It costs $72.

I would also point out the obvious that having you car registered and insured in VA when you haven’t actually lived there in a YEAR is inviting a host of penalties and potentially liability in the event of an accident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t read the whole thing so I assume the fiancé is a monster.

But you are also a monster because not changing your plates because of a hypothetical future move and then having to move your car constantly is madness and would be grounds for divorce to me if my spouse did it, especially if I was expected to be involved in moving the car in any way.

I didn’t expect. I didn’t ask. He would ask for my keys and did it for me because I would drive hours to come see him, as I said in the OP I’m not from the city. I moved in once we got engaged last year and he continued to move my car. It costs thousand to register plate in the city and we both decided to save the money for our house and wedding since we didn’t plan on living in the city much longer.

It costs $72.

No. He just bought his parent’s car and they live out of state. It cost him 2k to transfer his car.

[Anonymous]

If you have to convince yourself NOT to leave him, then you already have your answer. He sounds like a simply difficult, selfish person. Time to go

[Anonymous]

Learn how to do basic things in life, like read parking signs and change your registration. Also, for both your sakes, break up. You two are incompatible and have a bad pattern of helplessness and resentfulness that will eat away at your relationship.