I love him but don’t like him. Feeling stuck.

[Anonymous]

Why live with someone who is not a nice person?

The best thing to do when you “feel stuck” is to seek therapy.

They will help you see options that are open to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since you are married, you could try counseling before divorce. Just be aware that you will BOTH have to change. It’s not just your DH, from your posts it sounds like you are causing issues as well - it’s not all on DH.

So I guess get therapy if you are both up for hard work, reflection, & improving your communication skills. If you just want to go to make DH nicer, then skip to divorce.

I wish DCUM would read updates/replied before commenting. This is all DH because he’s emotionally abusive and therapy will not change that.

Poster here. I did read all of the updates, including the one sitting outside. I still think we are getting one view, and OP has her own issues.

PP,

We don’t need another view. Short of someone threatening you, cheating, or they’re hitting you, you never speak to someone that way let alone someone that you “love”. His behavior is disgusting and indefensible.

[Anonymous]

It’s free to be kind. He’s not kind and you deserve kindness.

[Anonymous]

You need to learn how to stop loving someone who mistreats you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:TROLL

This + a million. I can’t believe so many people are playing along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woah. Before I got laid off I was obviously contributing to the rent.

Lol, so you're not contributing to the rent since your layoff? Of course not.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who writes something this long and this ridiculous must be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not stuck. You have no kids, not married, even your car still has VA plate. So no, do not consider yourself stuck. Get the hell out.

This. Seriously OP. Grow a spine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're not stuck. You have no kids, not married, even your car still has VA plate. So no, do not consider yourself stuck. Get the hell out.

This. Seriously OP. Grow a spine.

+1 You’re the opposite of stuck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and the 'I can't figure out parking on my own' would be a warning sign for me. Co-dependent. Even my 80-year old mother can figure out parking in D.C. when she comes to visit.

Yeah--going out and having to move your car daily--he's a Saint. And, I would get tired of that sh*t fast.

He didn’t move my car everyday. At most it’s every 4 days. Typically once a week.

So 1-2x a week for a year? You are really trying to belittle this? That's 52-100+ times of this that you havent managed to figure out? Even when you literally dont have a job and are just sitting at home?

C'mon.

Sorry, you moved in OVER a year ago, so even more!

Jesus. He doesn’t move my car every time it needs to be moved. I’ve moved my car 3x this week. He hasn’t touched my car once in almost 2 weeks.

I said in the OP he typically does it, not he does it every time. The car usually has to be moved every 4-7 days but this week with homecoming I’ve had to move it 3x.

And to add a little more context he moves my car also for safety reasons because this part of DC isn’t the safest so he even says to me he doesn’t want moving the car at night.

I also let my beloved partner go out into the dangerous night to move my unregistered car for me because as we all know, men are immune to violent crime.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and the 'I can't figure out parking on my own' would be a warning sign for me. Co-dependent. Even my 80-year old mother can figure out parking in D.C. when she comes to visit.

Yeah--going out and having to move your car daily--he's a Saint. And, I would get tired of that sh*t fast.

He didn’t move my car everyday. At most it’s every 4 days. Typically once a week.

So 1-2x a week for a year? You are really trying to belittle this? That's 52-100+ times of this that you havent managed to figure out? Even when you literally dont have a job and are just sitting at home?

C'mon.

Sorry, you moved in OVER a year ago, so even more!

Jesus. He doesn’t move my car every time it needs to be moved. I’ve moved my car 3x this week. He hasn’t touched my car once in almost 2 weeks.

I said in the OP he typically does it, not he does it every time. The car usually has to be moved every 4-7 days but this week with homecoming I’ve had to move it 3x.

And to add a little more context he moves my car also for safety reasons because this part of DC isn’t the safest so he even says to me he doesn’t want moving the car at night.

I also let my beloved partner go out into the dangerous night to move my unregistered car for me because as we all know, men are immune to violent crime.

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is an underlying, core meanness here that is not going to change. I had your realization early in our relationship but was paralyzed from my own self doubt and the prospect of a failed relationship / engagement. Fast forward 10 years and 2 kids, and it is very difficult. It will get so much worse.

Preface by saying I’m genuinely asking because we’re only her side, what makes you think there’s a core meanness and not something like stress from work?

Because he laughed at her when he "won" with the job argument and yelled at her to do a task when she had COVID. That's not a "oh I found the toilet clogged again and said some curse words in the moment," that's just meanness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a woman and the 'I can't figure out parking on my own' would be a warning sign for me. Co-dependent. Even my 80-year old mother can figure out parking in D.C. when she comes to visit.

Yeah--going out and having to move your car daily--he's a Saint. And, I would get tired of that sh*t fast.

He didn’t move my car everyday. At most it’s every 4 days. Typically once a week.

So 1-2x a week for a year? You are really trying to belittle this? That's 52-100+ times of this that you havent managed to figure out? Even when you literally dont have a job and are just sitting at home?

C'mon.

Sorry, you moved in OVER a year ago, so even more!

Jesus. He doesn’t move my car every time it needs to be moved. I’ve moved my car 3x this week. He hasn’t touched my car once in almost 2 weeks.

I said in the OP he typically does it, not he does it every time. The car usually has to be moved every 4-7 days but this week with homecoming I’ve had to move it 3x.

And to add a little more context he moves my car also for safety reasons because this part of DC isn’t the safest so he even says to me he doesn’t want moving the car at night.

I also let my beloved partner go out into the dangerous night to move my unregistered car for me because as we all know, men are immune to violent crime.

Wait you’re mad that she got assaulted so he[/] told her not to move her car because it’s dangerous so [i]they decided as a couple this was the best plan for them?? — the misogyny runs deep on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you really love him. You just don’t want him to be with someone else— your words. I also don’t believe you can love someone and not like them. I think that’s only reserved for kid, especially in the teen angst years. It’s a long life with someone you don’t like. It might work if you like someone, but not in love with them.

[jsteele]

The OP is a troll and a sock puppet who will be enjoying a well-earned vacation from DCUM.