You just never know

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Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Getting divorced is not good at being married.

+1

[Anonymous]

My H and I separated years ago and divorced about 2 years ago and people are still shocked and some still don't know.

We go to parent's weekend together, we visit out kids together, we get invited to the same dinner parties/cookouts/birthdays, etc.

It's been 7 years and some people still don't know and the ones that know almost forget.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Getting divorced is not good at being married.

You can be good at it but then think you want something else the 2nd 30 years of your life.

My son's friend's father showed up to his wife's funeral with his mistress, lol but I guess he was good at marriage because he never divorced.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Getting divorced is not good at being married.

You can be good at it but then think you want something else the 2nd 30 years of your life.

My son's friend's father showed up to his wife's funeral with his mistress, lol but I guess he was good at marriage because he never divorced.

Well- duh. No- being a cheater is not being good at marriage and neither is divorces.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Getting divorced is not good at being married.

You can be good at it but then think you want something else the 2nd 30 years of your life.[b]

My son's friend's father showed up to his wife's funeral with his mistress, lol but I guess he was good at marriage because he never divorced.

That statement alone shows someone not good at being married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Getting divorced is not good at being married.

You can be good at it but then think you want something else the 2nd 30 years of your life.[b]

My son's friend's father showed up to his wife's funeral with his mistress, lol but I guess he was good at marriage because he never divorced.

That statement alone shows someone not good at being married.

This one, not the bolded:

You can be good at it but then think you want something else the 2nd 30 years of your life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Getting divorced is not good at being married.

You can be good at it but then think you want something else the 2nd 30 years of your life.

My son's friend's father showed up to his wife's funeral with his mistress, lol but I guess he was good at marriage because he never divorced.

Well- duh. No- being a cheater is not being good at marriage and neither is divorces.

+100 it’s not either or

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

I think many men do this to recreate what they had in marriage. Companionship, someone to take care of, someone to take care of them, they want to have that again.

+1

Seems women are less likely to remarry, in that case. For divorced women, it is different - they tend to want to marry for money.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people stay married for children and financial reasons alone for many years while their marriage is already over on everything except paper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can sort of see why it shocked you but at the same time it shouldn't, because many if not most people don't share their deepest marriage struggles with *anybody* except a therapist or people on anonymous forums.

Yea, I get that as a general proposition, sure. But this particular couple was shocking regardless. I actually just shared the the news with a mutual friend and the reaction was literally “what??? I’m shocked!”

If I announced tomorrow that we were getting divorced there are some people who wouldn’t be shocked by it. And if most other couples did, same. This couple is different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

I think many men do this to recreate what they had in marriage. Companionship, someone to take care of, someone to take care of them, they want to have that again.

Looking for a nurse or a purse

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Or perhaps it’s none of your business? If I died of cancer, I’d want DH to find the most amazing woman asap (and if he went on a few dates while I was sleeping, so be it, and no, don’t tell me). I wouldn’t want him to wallow in pain. Life is short and the guy’s already been through more than his share.

Of course I don’t wanna die, for the record! And no dating unless I’m terminal, lol!

If I'm terminal DH had better be focusing on spending my last months with me, not lining up dates!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

I think in that instance, the men liked being married a lot. They were getting their needs met. But the last few years they've mourned for their sick wife. And now she's dead, what's better than being married again? I think it is too soon, but I understand it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Or perhaps it’s none of your business? If I died of cancer, I’d want DH to find the most amazing woman asap (and if he went on a few dates while I was sleeping, so be it, and no, don’t tell me). I wouldn’t want him to wallow in pain. Life is short and the guy’s already been through more than his share.

Of course I don’t wanna die, for the record! And no dating unless I’m terminal, lol!

If I'm terminal DH had better be focusing on spending my last months with me, not lining up dates!

Eh. I Said while I’m sleeping. Mine has proven his love and devotion many times over, I would be ok with not knowing about a few coffee dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

You never know what goes on behind closed doors