You just never know

[Anonymous]

A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

[Anonymous]

We shocked a few people, and this was after 30+ years. But some weren’t shocked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We shocked a few people, and this was after 30+ years. But some weren’t shocked.

Well what happened?

[Anonymous]

I really don’t know why you’re shocked because many many people stay in unhappy marriage is for many many years before leaving the marriage was probably over a very, very long time ago. You just didn’t know about it. Divorce is really a shock for the people who are getting a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Divorce is rarely a shock for people getting divorced. Typo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Getting divorced is not good at being married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Or perhaps it’s none of your business? If I died of cancer, I’d want DH to find the most amazing woman asap (and if he went on a few dates while I was sleeping, so be it, and no, don’t tell me). I wouldn’t want him to wallow in pain. Life is short and the guy’s already been through more than his share.

Of course I don’t wanna die, for the record! And no dating unless I’m terminal, lol!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Or perhaps it’s none of your business? If I died of cancer, I’d want DH to find the most amazing woman asap (and if he went on a few dates while I was sleeping, so be it, and no, don’t tell me). I wouldn’t want him to wallow in pain. Life is short and the guy’s already been through more than his share.

Of course I don’t wanna die, for the record! And no dating unless I’m terminal, lol!

haha that last line was so funny, love it.

[Anonymous]

I can sort of see why it shocked you but at the same time it shouldn't, because many if not most people don't share their deepest marriage struggles with *anybody* except a therapist or people on anonymous forums.

[Anonymous]

My neighbors divorced after 4 kids and 40 years of marriage (this was where I grew up, not here). It STILL shocks me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

I think many men do this to recreate what they had in marriage. Companionship, someone to take care of, someone to take care of them, they want to have that again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce is rarely a shock for people getting divorced. Typo.

Blindsided by an affair it is for the betrayed, especially when the spouse acted like nothing was wrong and still having regular sex with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A good friend of mine for the past 15+ years just called me and told me that he and his wife of nearly 20 years have separated and are likely divorcing. I honestly thought they had the perfect marriage. I was completely and totally shocked.

One of my neighbor got divorced after 25 years of marriage, was portraying a lovey dovey image the week before. Quickly remarried and started similar lovey divey theme with the new guy.

Some people are just good at being married

It’s like those men who have wives that die of cancer and then suddenly marry 3 months later. I could never understand it - perhaps they were already seeing these women while their wives have cancer, or perhaps they just can’t stand not being married

Doesn’t sound like she was good at being married. Lmaof. Sounds like she was good at cheating.