Jealous of Big Law partner spouses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do the kids bond with them though?

Yes - he is a great dad. Amazing. Is 100% present with the kids when he is home.

But how often is he home? How many hours a week would you say your husband is with his kids?

[Anonymous]

How much money are we really talking about? Could a spouse give an honest answer? I hear a lot about how there are all kinds of things taken out of the paycheck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much money are we really talking about? Could a spouse give an honest answer? I hear a lot about how there are all kinds of things taken out of the paycheck

My understanding is that it varies by firm.

[Anonymous]

Clarifying question: Do you mean jealous of the first or second big law spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clarifying question: Do you mean jealous of the first or second big law spouse?

Oh stop. I’m completely serious. They don’t all get divorced, they all make sooo much money, and I’ll bet they don’t ALL work that hard.

It must be nice to have that kind of money.

[Anonymous]

Not this again.

So -- once more, with feeling -- if you are that impressed by JDs, get your own. It's not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clarifying question: Do you mean jealous of the first or second big law spouse?

Oh stop. I’m completely serious. They don’t all get divorced, they all make sooo much money, and I’ll bet they don’t ALL work that hard.

It must be nice to have that kind of money.

NP here. I have worked in many law firms, in different areas of the U.S., and most of the senior partners have absolutely been married more than once.

OP, you need to go to a good law school to make some good money for yourself. It is not going to fall from the sky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not this again.

So -- once more, with feeling -- if you are that impressed by JDs, get your own. It's not that hard.

It’s not that hard to get a JD, sure, but it’s hard making partner in Biglaw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clarifying question: Do you mean jealous of the first or second big law spouse?

Oh stop. I’m completely serious. They don’t all get divorced, they all make sooo much money, and I’ll bet they don’t ALL work that hard.

It must be nice to have that kind of money.

You think some of them aren't working "ALL that hard"? Why do you think they have "that kind of money"? The lawyers who don't work hard don't make partner (absent the very very rare person with mad connections to lots of CEOs of fortune 500 companies, or a really famous name, or something else that will lead to makin' it rain like crazy without working 80 hours a week -- but those folks are already married).

[Anonymous]

It’s actually pretty great since Covid. My husband works from home a couple days a week and is home by 7 the days he goes in. The big caveat is he frequently works again until midnight at home and there’s no real days off. Money is not an issue which is nice but I am the default parent and make all related to family. He shows up if he can. I’ve gone to every BTS night and most school parties on my own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this again.

So -- once more, with feeling -- if you are that impressed by JDs, get your own. It's not that hard.

It’s not that hard to get a JD, sure, but it’s hard making partner in Biglaw.

True that. But many of the BigLaw partners I know are married to one of our law school classmates.

At any rate, perhaps OP getting their own JD would put a stop to this "I wanna marry a BigLaw partner!" crap and at least empower them to make their own damn money, BigLaw partner money or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s actually pretty great since Covid. My husband works from home a couple days a week and is home by 7 the days he goes in. The big caveat is he frequently works again until midnight at home and there’s no real days off. Money is not an issue which is nice but I am the default parent and make all related to family. He shows up if he can. I’ve gone to every BTS night and most school parties on my own.

The work truly never ends.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think the work is as “hard” as it long. Lots of long hours away from home. Lots of schmoozing. The actual “hard” work of writing and assembling files is done by support staff.

[Anonymous]

How much money does your Biglaw partner spouse (husband, I assume) bring home each month?

[Anonymous]

I am sure this is at least in part due to the stress of the job, tight deadlines and heavy workload but the biglaw partners I've met don't seem like pleasant people that I would want to be married too or have children with. I'm sure some of it is also the type A personality needed to make partner in biglaw.