Jealous of Big Law partner spouses?

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure I’d want to be a big law partner, which sounds pretty stressful. But being the spouse of one sounds sweet. It’s a lot of money, right? Or are the reports exaggerated?

[Anonymous]

Ok, become a big-law spouse then. It's all about you, after all...

[Anonymous]

It's nice. Money is not an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's nice. Money is not an issue.

OP here. Could you elaborate?

[Anonymous]

The money is usually between 500k to 2 million. It goes up & down based on different factors but mainly how much $ you bring in and origination.

[Anonymous]

Yeah... but then you'd have to be a Big Law spouse.

[Anonymous]

Are you fine if they're stuck working and on calls on holidays and in the middle of family vacations? With having them come home after 10pm many nights?

[Anonymous]

I don't work. Kids have everything they need, and I don't think about money. Plus, I think marriage is easier when money is not an issue. But you have to be ok with someone who works a lot, and you have to take care of every detail in your life - kind of like being a single parent - because the other person works more than anyone else you'll ever meet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure I’d want to be a big law partner, which sounds pretty stressful. But being the spouse of one sounds sweet. It’s a lot of money, right? Or are the reports exaggerated?

Materialism and envy are a bad look.

[Anonymous]

I go on vacation by myself with kids, scheduled C-sections at the end of the day, and never had a honeymoon.

[Anonymous]

Do the kids bond with them though?

[Anonymous]

I prefer having a spouse who is home for dinner every night. Can’t put a price on that or outsource it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do the kids bond with them though?

Yes - he is a great dad. Amazing. Is 100% present with the kids when he is home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't work. Kids have everything they need, and I don't think about money. Plus, I think marriage is easier when money is not an issue. But you have to be ok with someone who works a lot, and you have to take care of every detail in your life - kind of like being a single parent - because the other person works more than anyone else you'll ever meet.

It is nothing like being a single parent.

[Anonymous]

I work in big law and I'm not jealous of the spouses. At least where I have worked, the partners work a lot. I just think it is what it is - if that is who you love, then great - but I am not jealous.