Leaked training shows teachers being directed to allow gender & name changes without parent consent, transitioning?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see where the school is advising teachers to withhold this from parents. I only see that they don't need to proactively contact parents to get permission. Nothing implies secrecy. Talk about mountains out of mole hills.

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Aren't teacher tired of dealing with the constant name changing? I can't even keep my friends' teens' new names straight any more. It must be exhausting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see where the school is advising teachers to withhold this from parents. I only see that they don't need to proactively contact parents to get permission. Nothing implies secrecy. Talk about mountains out of mole hills.

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Anonymous wrote:Recently leaked FCPS training documents reveal a policy that suggests withholding information about gender and name changes from parents. While the intention might be to respect students' choices, I find it deeply unsettling that parental involvement could potentially be overlooked.

What adds to my concern is that this approach appears to directly conflict with the guidelines laid out by the Virginia Department of Education (VDOE). According to VDOE, parental consent is a critical aspect of any gender change decision for students. This discrepancy between FCPS's approach and state regulations is disconcerting and should be addressed promptly.

In light of this situation, I strongly urge FCPS to reassess its training approach and align it with VDOE laws. Furthermore, I believe it's important for the school system to take proactive steps in educating parents about social issues. By fostering open dialogues and providing resources, we can ensure that parents are well-informed and involved in their children's lives while respecting students' autonomy.

Let's come together as a community to voice our concerns and advocate for a more balanced and respectful approach that upholds both student privacy and parental rights.

https://wjla.com/news/local/glenn-youngkin-sl...n-2603-jason-miyares


"New training materials for teachers in Fairfax County Public Schools show students can change their name and pronouns on school documents without parental consent. The documents obtained by Fox News show slides instructing teachers to allow students to change their pronouns in class, on official records, and use locker rooms and bathrooms in line with their chosen gender.

"Students will receive diplomas and transcripts with both the legal and chosen name," according to one slide. "Parental permission is not required" is listed directly underneath the bullet."

I have been concerned with FCPS not following the new state guidance since Dr. Reid’s email.

State law allows counties to be more comprehensive than the guidance

"Each school board shall adopt policies that are consistent with but may be more comprehensive than the model policies developed by the Department of Education pursuant to subsection A"

Part of subsection A is "6. Protection of student privacy and the confidentiality of sensitive information;"

https://law.lis.virginia.gov/vacode/title22.1...r3/section22.1-23.3/

The state can sue, but they will lose because FCPS is following the law as written. If conservatives don't like it, then they can try to repeal the law

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[Anonymous]

GOOD. At some point snoop dogg and prince wanted to be called something different. What's the big deal. The kid in Big Daddy wanted to be Frankenstein.

My kid has friends that she tells me are "they/them" and tells me their name and I call them that. When I talk to the parents if they call them something else then I refer to that.

WHO CARES.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:eh. My brother decided to go by his middle name in HS and did this without parental consent. No biggie.

My kid also wanted to go by her middle name but up to this year, FCPS had no means to allow that. Everyone calls her by her middle name, but she needs to explain it to every teacher at the beginning of the school year. For this extremely anxious child, it's been enough to get to the middle of the school year with copious absences. Location data often puts her in front of the classroom, but not going it. Counselors confirmed they found her in that position. It has a huge impact on kids when adults call them the wrong name.

Kids will explore identities at this age, with or without parental approval. Some kids in HS turn 18 and fully in charge of who they are. Having a process to manage naming preferences is not nefarious, not helping kids transition, nor hiding information from parents. Parents and students will receive duplicate transcropts on both names, so I'm not sure how this hides anything?

BTW< this is also the age range at which adolescents have a right to privacy in a dr office. There is a whole lot more transitioning conversation in those offices than the school will ever touch. I have a 100 arguments why this is not as scary as you make it sound. They are almost adults and can start to think about how they want to live their lives. It's completely age appropriate.

BTW__ allowing a kid to try on a new identity is not actual transitioning, with neds and all. Those kids who do, will do so with medical help -- completely unrelated to schools and their record keeping. It's pretty obvious to parents as well when their boy goes to school dressed in a skirt.

Stop harassing the schools in the name of some parental rights we don;t really have, and allow these kids to grow into who they are.

" This Court has determined that parents have a fundamental right to direct the care, custody, and control of their children. This Court also has Page 63 determined that the government shall not interfere with this right unless and until a parent is proven unfit." ---- the Supreme Court of the United States
https://www.supremecourt.gov/DocketPDF/20/20-...n%20cert%20stage.pdf

[Anonymous]

If you are learning about your child’s gender or sexual orientation from school instead of from your child, you have failed as a parent.

Instead of taking your anger out by bullying teachers, consider channeling that energy into family counseling. With real therapist. Not a religious leader or church recommend counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are learning about your child’s gender or sexual orientation from school instead of from your child, you have failed as a parent.

Instead of taking your anger out by bullying teachers, consider channeling that energy into family counseling. With real therapist. Not a religious leader or church recommend counselor.

If your child is switching genders at 6, you have failed as a parent.

[Anonymous]

GOOD~~~~

[Anonymous]

I like this, I have serval students that have go by different names, I don't have time to call parents to see if they are okay with it, if my day had more than 24 hours a day, I would call but only have 24 hours in a day.

[Anonymous]

You all really need to get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are learning about your child’s gender or sexual orientation from school instead of from your child, you have failed as a parent.

Instead of taking your anger out by bullying teachers, consider channeling that energy into family counseling. With real therapist. Not a religious leader or church recommend counselor.

Say that louder for the people in the back. Can you imagine being so afraid of your parents' disapproval that you keep them in the dark about something like this? Your kid's name change is the least of your problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are learning about your child’s gender or sexual orientation from school instead of from your child, you have failed as a parent.

Instead of taking your anger out by bullying teachers, consider channeling that energy into family counseling. With real therapist. Not a religious leader or church recommend counselor.

Say that louder for the people in the back. Can you imagine being so afraid of your parents' disapproval that you keep them in the dark about something like this? Your kid's name change is the least of your problems.

Kids who are terminally online are told to expect their parents to be unsupportive. Any questioning by a parent can be seen as a rejection. I think you’re misunderstanding the messaging kids are getting today if you think their reluctance to share these feelings with a parent is strictly a result of something the parents did or didn’t do.

[Anonymous]

I think this helps other students as well. Like kids who prefer nicknames or want to use their middle name, yet their parents refuse.

I don't see the big deal about names. It's not a teacher burden.

What is a burden is the ze/hir/them/they/x pronouns that they expect teachers to remember.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are learning about your child’s gender or sexual orientation from school instead of from your child, you have failed as a parent.

Instead of taking your anger out by bullying teachers, consider channeling that energy into family counseling. With real therapist. Not a religious leader or church recommend counselor.

Say that louder for the people in the back. Can you imagine being so afraid of your parents' disapproval that you keep them in the dark about something like this? Your kid's name change is the least of your problems.

Kids who are terminally online are told to expect their parents to be unsupportive. Any questioning by a parent can be seen as a rejection. I think you’re misunderstanding the messaging kids are getting today if you think their reluctance to share these feelings with a parent is strictly a result of something the parents did or didn’t do.

Parents who allow their kids to be terminally online need to make some adjustments and talk to their kids.