Returns gifts when relationship ends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Long term affair recently ended. No discovery by spouses. I want to leave all the gifts ever given to me on the APs doorstep, ring the doorbell and leave.

Yea or Nay?

Be sure not to get caught on camera… 😁

[Anonymous]

Are you a teenager? Because that is some seriously immature drama.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it OP. Just as his behavior is very disappointing to you, your behavior probably also would be disappointing to your spouse, children etc. Own those mistakes, close this chapter, donate the gifts and move on.

[Anonymous]

Are u insane lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I pulled strings to get his daughter into school, show up for everything, every airport pickup, errand everything! for 10 years and I can’t consider an real relationship/marriage. The names I was called for suggesting it. So angry. And hurt.

You are all right. I will just ghost.

You knew you weren't married though. Why should be upset at the truth? You played yourself if you were playing wifey for a married man. And then your played yourself again expecting people to pity you for it.

[Anonymous]

I think this posting serves as a cautionary tale for anyone going down that road. You have no rights in a relationship like that and get no empathy in a situation like that. So just don't do it.

[Anonymous]

Just trash it. Same as you trashed your spouse and your AP’s spouse by being a trashy cheater. Should be super easy for you to do.

[Anonymous]

I’d personally want to know if my spouse was having a long term affair but I wouldn’t want to find out that way. I’d want to full accounting of what happened between them. If it was just a one time thing, I wouldn’t want to know.

[Anonymous]

I totally think you should take all the gifts and head over to his house when you know he isn’t there and his wife is. Ring that door and present them to her. Then come back here and let us know how it went.

[Anonymous]

Your title is misleading OP. Your relationship didn’t end. You didn’t have a relationship. Your AP was in a relationship with their spouse. You were just the side piece.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I pulled strings to get his daughter into school, show up for everything, every airport pickup, errand everything! for 10 years and I can’t consider an real relationship/marriage. The names I was called for suggesting it. So angry. And hurt.

You are all right. I will just ghost.

You really cared deeply for him. For you that means being legitimately acknowledged in his life. You aren’t, and that hurts. You want to hurt him back.

I would take a step back here and try to take your focus off of him. You need to first heal yourself. Try to move on with dignity. You hurting him impulsively may not have the results you desire. For one, he may continue to show himself as a cowardly person who cannot be who you wish and dream him to be. Forget about him. Are YOU the person you want to be?

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t sound like OP has a spouse, or if she does, she doesn’t care if he finds out.

[Anonymous]

The most pathetic post I’ve ever read on dcum. Get some character and morals, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I pulled strings to get his daughter into school, show up for everything, every airport pickup, errand everything! for 10 years and I can’t consider an real relationship/marriage. The names I was called for suggesting it. So angry. And hurt.

You are all right. I will just ghost.

10 years you wasted while helping to betray a spouse. It’s hard to feel sorry for you though he deserves to be outed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t sound like OP has a spouse, or if she does, she doesn’t care if he finds out.

Single women fall for this nonsense all the time while their clocks tick away. Sad.