Returns gifts when relationship ends?

[Anonymous]

Long term affair recently ended. No discovery by spouses. I want to leave all the gifts ever given to me on the APs doorstep, ring the doorbell and leave.

Yea or Nay?

[Anonymous]

What? Are you a Drama Queen/King? Just donate or throw them away and get therapy.

[Anonymous]

Why? If you don't want the gifts, offer to return them or get rid of them. Do not risk discovery, because that will come back to bite you.

[Anonymous]

So he dumped you, you’re mad, but too much of a wuss to ring the bell and speak to the wife directly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? Are you a Drama Queen/King? Just donate or throw them away and get therapy.

+1

OP, you want to lash out at your now ex-AP. Maybe you even hope (even if you can't admit it to yourself yet) that you hope your gift return would out the ex to the spouse who doesn't know about the affair. Resist the urge. Drama tends to rebound onto people who deliver drama to others. As quickly as possible, take those gifts and donate or toss them, tonight or tomorrow, to get the temptation to return them out of your mind.

[Anonymous]

Sell them.

[Anonymous]

Immaturity. After 10 years I’m not allowed to consider the prospect of remarrying each other. Done with the games. Want every item that connects us out of my life and want to send a message that I’m done.

So yes. Immaturity. I could just dump them in the garbage.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want the BS to see it. I’m angry and hurt not evil.

[Anonymous]

You were also cheating. Donate or throw away. AP owes you nothing and thank your lucky stars you weren’t caught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want the BS to see it. I’m angry and hurt not evil.

If you weren’t evil you wouldn’t have even considered leaving them on his front porch. Get professional help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want the BS to see it. I’m angry and hurt not evil.

You're also stupid if you think that you can blow up his household with a stunt like this without also blowing up your own.

Grow up, file for divorce, be an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t want the BS to see it. I’m angry and hurt not evil.

If you weren’t evil you wouldn’t have even considered leaving them on his front porch. Get professional help.

+1.

You are a psychopath!

[Anonymous]

I pulled strings to get his daughter into school, show up for everything, every airport pickup, errand everything! for 10 years and I can’t consider an real relationship/marriage. The names I was called for suggesting it. So angry. And hurt.

You are all right. I will just ghost.

[Anonymous]

Pawn or sell online.

[Anonymous]

It’s things made for me. Paintings. A piece of jewlery. Things that would be sentimental. I guess I want to make him feel bad. Not healthy. You are all correct.