Do only married men lack the ability to complete tasks? How do single men survive? Is every husband like this?

[Anonymous]

Too many posters will criticize you OP. But, yes, women handle the " psychic energy/plans in most families. You have to teach guys over and over again. Send texts with lists and pictures. Praise even the tiniest of efforts. It is like giving a dog A treat for doing a good job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the opposite in my house. My DH finishes everything to completion and I’m more like “I’ll do that later…” or I am OK doing things “imperfectly” and he likes everything done precisely. Luckily my husband doesn’t give me a hard time for my good-enough approach.

Yeah I mean, why sweat dumb little details like making sure your child has their epi-pen? Clearly OP needs to lighten up and stop being a shrew. If only she could be as laid back as you!

No need for sarcasm. I wasn’t criticizing OP, just throwing out that many husbands are the organized ones and many wives (me!) are less so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh does a lot for the house and kids, but nothing seems ever done to completion. It seems to be the same (or even much less) with my friends husbands. People always tell me how thankful I should be for his effort, but it's hard when I'm still constantly getting the last puzzle pieces in.

Examples just from the last week:
-Kid had last day of camp and he picked her up, but didn't bring her Epi pen home so I had to go this morning and get it.
-He picked toddler up from in-home daycare on Friday, but didn't pay the lady so I had to go back and pay her.
-Said he was handling school orientation and put it on the calendar, but didn't actually log in and select time slots and now there's none left
-Went school supplies shopping but just defaulted to one of everything on the list when some multiples were needed (i.e. 2 boxes of Kleenex, 3 glue sticks)

I've been trying so hard over the years to not nag or micromanage, but dang I understand the wives that do everything themselves just so it gets done correctly the first time.

And yes, he's an exec at work, with 50+ people under him, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in his field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.

Op I could have wrote this post!!! Mine is the same and everything has to be done twice before it's completeted it's maddening.

Because most men are conditioned to do what they want. Apply the minimal effort most of the time and the maximum effort when needed or when it counts. Successful men know when it is needed. Less successful men do not quite have it down. As a general rule women perform at their maximum level all the time. That is exhausting. Men just don't make the effort unless it really counts -- which keeps them less exhausted. I doubt he did it on purpose but nothing in his brain would make the extra effort because it is not all that important -- assuming you have epis at home which you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an exec at work, with 50+ people under me, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in my field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.


I survive with a loving and capable husband (handles a ton, and is way more organized on the home front), along with online ordering for household items, 2x month cleaner, meal plan delivered weekly.

Which meal plan?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s the opposite in my house. My DH finishes everything to completion and I’m more like “I’ll do that later…” or I am OK doing things “imperfectly” and he likes everything done precisely. Luckily my husband doesn’t give me a hard time for my good-enough approach.

Same. I'm horrible at follow through and a terrible housekeeper. He knew that when we dated though, so he must have been OK with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t rescue him.

Problem solved.

And let him be embarrassed when he forgets to go to the kid's funeral after forgetting to pack the epi pen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh does a lot for the house and kids, but nothing seems ever done to completion. It seems to be the same (or even much less) with my friends husbands. People always tell me how thankful I should be for his effort, but it's hard when I'm still constantly getting the last puzzle pieces in.

Examples just from the last week:
-Kid had last day of camp and he picked her up, but didn't bring her Epi pen home so I had to go this morning and get it.
-He picked toddler up from in-home daycare on Friday, but didn't pay the lady so I had to go back and pay her.
-Said he was handling school orientation and put it on the calendar, but didn't actually log in and select time slots and now there's none left
-Went school supplies shopping but just defaulted to one of everything on the list when some multiples were needed (i.e. 2 boxes of Kleenex, 3 glue sticks)

I've been trying so hard over the years to not nag or micromanage, but dang I understand the wives that do everything themselves just so it gets done correctly the first time.

And yes, he's an exec at work, with 50+ people under him, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in his field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.

Why didn't the camp return the epi-pen along with the kid?

What was he doing during orientation stuff? Was it during workday or weekend/evening?

Why can't you pay online?

Why not shop online?

You both work full time, stop drowning yourselves in pointless chores.

[Anonymous]

Please wives forget so many things as well. It’s not only men. This is just so horrible and nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t rescue him.

Problem solved.

And let him be embarrassed when he forgets to go to the kid's funeral after forgetting to pack the epi pen

Surely they have more than one pen. The kid didn't go to camp without the pen. The pen was left at camp. Dad can save himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an exec at work, with 50+ people under me, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in my field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.


I survive with a loving and capable husband (handles a ton, and is way more organized on the home front), along with online ordering for household items, 2x month cleaner, meal plan delivered weekly.

Which meal plan?

Every Plate. It's part of Hello Fresh. Cheap basic meals, but it takes the thought and planning out of the process. Imperfect food sends fruit and vegetables. We only go to the store for a handful of items.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh does a lot for the house and kids, but nothing seems ever done to completion. It seems to be the same (or even much less) with my friends husbands. People always tell me how thankful I should be for his effort, but it's hard when I'm still constantly getting the last puzzle pieces in.

Examples just from the last week:
-Kid had last day of camp and he picked her up, but didn't bring her Epi pen home so I had to go this morning and get it.
-He picked toddler up from in-home daycare on Friday, but didn't pay the lady so I had to go back and pay her.
-Said he was handling school orientation and put it on the calendar, but didn't actually log in and select time slots and now there's none left
-Went school supplies shopping but just defaulted to one of everything on the list when some multiples were needed (i.e. 2 boxes of Kleenex, 3 glue sticks)

I've been trying so hard over the years to not nag or micromanage, but dang I understand the wives that do everything themselves just so it gets done correctly the first time.

And yes, he's an exec at work, with 50+ people under him, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in his field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.

Why didn't the camp return the epi-pen along with the kid?

What was he doing during orientation stuff? Was it during workday or weekend/evening?

Why can't you pay online?

Why not shop online?

You both work full time, stop drowning yourselves in pointless chores.

NP.. they can do all that, but why can't he just do the tasks he's supposed to do without always forgetting something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please wives forget so many things as well. It’s not only men. This is just so horrible and nasty.

Seriously if men posted this or everything their wives can’t do or go to cause family drama …. Women are such bags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t rescue him.

Problem solved.

And let him be embarrassed when he forgets to go to the kid's funeral after forgetting to pack the epi pen

So dramatic. Assume OP is so organized that they have a spare epi pen at home.

[Anonymous]

As a man 100 percent of my wife’s chores are stuff I don’t care about or want to do.

I do it as that’s the deal.

[Anonymous]

Life is long and you don't know what it holds in store for you, OP.

My husband has ADHD and leaves a trail of destruction wherever he goes. He's also very cute and smart.

My best friend's husband is a lot more efficient. Sadly he's struggled with cancer and depression.

My other best friend's husband never lifts a finger and can't even drive. But he's charming and cerebral and earns more money than my husband or my other friend's husband.

Moral: no one is perfect. You are not perfect either. Glean a little happiness every day.