Do only married men lack the ability to complete tasks? How do single men survive? Is every husband like this?

[Anonymous]

Dh does a lot for the house and kids, but nothing seems ever done to completion. It seems to be the same (or even much less) with my friends husbands. People always tell me how thankful I should be for his effort, but it's hard when I'm still constantly getting the last puzzle pieces in.

Examples just from the last week:
-Kid had last day of camp and he picked her up, but didn't bring her Epi pen home so I had to go this morning and get it.
-He picked toddler up from in-home daycare on Friday, but didn't pay the lady so I had to go back and pay her.
-Said he was handling school orientation and put it on the calendar, but didn't actually log in and select time slots and now there's none left
-Went school supplies shopping but just defaulted to one of everything on the list when some multiples were needed (i.e. 2 boxes of Kleenex, 3 glue sticks)

I've been trying so hard over the years to not nag or micromanage, but dang I understand the wives that do everything themselves just so it gets done correctly the first time.

And yes, he's an exec at work, with 50+ people under him, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in his field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.

[Anonymous]

Why sweat the little details when you will?

[Anonymous]

Why didn't he go back to get the Epi pen, and go back to pay the daycare lady, and go back to the store to get the multiples of school supplies needed? Why are you fixing his mistakes?

[Anonymous]

It’s the opposite in my house. My DH finishes everything to completion and I’m more like “I’ll do that later…” or I am OK doing things “imperfectly” and he likes everything done precisely. Luckily my husband doesn’t give me a hard time for my good-enough approach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't he go back to get the Epi pen, and go back to pay the daycare lady, and go back to the store to get the multiples of school supplies needed? Why are you fixing his mistakes?

+1 If DH came home without paying the daycare lady, he'd go back and pay her. Or call her and venmo. There's no universe where it makes more sense for me to put my shoes on and go do it for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh does a lot for the house and kids, but nothing seems ever done to completion. It seems to be the same (or even much less) with my friends husbands. People always tell me how thankful I should be for his effort, but it's hard when I'm still constantly getting the last puzzle pieces in.

Examples just from the last week:
-Kid had last day of camp and he picked her up, but didn't bring her Epi pen home so I had to go this morning and get it.
-He picked toddler up from in-home daycare on Friday, but didn't pay the lady so I had to go back and pay her.
-Said he was handling school orientation and put it on the calendar, but didn't actually log in and select time slots and now there's none left
-Went school supplies shopping but just defaulted to one of everything on the list when some multiples were needed (i.e. 2 boxes of Kleenex, 3 glue sticks)

I've been trying so hard over the years to not nag or micromanage, but dang I understand the wives that do everything themselves just so it gets done correctly the first time.

And yes, he's an exec at work, with 50+ people under him, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in his field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.

Sounds like you are his mother. Do you work?

[Anonymous]

I'm an exec at work, with 50+ people under me, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in my field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.


I survive with a loving and capable husband (handles a ton, and is way more organized on the home front), along with online ordering for household items, 2x month cleaner, meal plan delivered weekly.

[Anonymous]

I always complete my "task" and my wife seems happy enough. Tonight is another "task" night. I will not disappoint her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh does a lot for the house and kids, but nothing seems ever done to completion. It seems to be the same (or even much less) with my friends husbands. People always tell me how thankful I should be for his effort, but it's hard when I'm still constantly getting the last puzzle pieces in.

Examples just from the last week:
-Kid had last day of camp and he picked her up, but didn't bring her Epi pen home so I had to go this morning and get it.
-He picked toddler up from in-home daycare on Friday, but didn't pay the lady so I had to go back and pay her.
-Said he was handling school orientation and put it on the calendar, but didn't actually log in and select time slots and now there's none left
-Went school supplies shopping but just defaulted to one of everything on the list when some multiples were needed (i.e. 2 boxes of Kleenex, 3 glue sticks)

I've been trying so hard over the years to not nag or micromanage, but dang I understand the wives that do everything themselves just so it gets done correctly the first time.

And yes, he's an exec at work, with 50+ people under him, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in his field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.

Sounds like you are his mother. Do you work?

Yes, we both work full time

[Anonymous]

This is why people resort to post-it notes.

[Anonymous]

Ask your daycare provider to sign up for Zelle so you can pay her right away from your phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh does a lot for the house and kids, but nothing seems ever done to completion. It seems to be the same (or even much less) with my friends husbands. People always tell me how thankful I should be for his effort, but it's hard when I'm still constantly getting the last puzzle pieces in.

Examples just from the last week:
-Kid had last day of camp and he picked her up, but didn't bring her Epi pen home so I had to go this morning and get it.
-He picked toddler up from in-home daycare on Friday, but didn't pay the lady so I had to go back and pay her.
-Said he was handling school orientation and put it on the calendar, but didn't actually log in and select time slots and now there's none left
-Went school supplies shopping but just defaulted to one of everything on the list when some multiples were needed (i.e. 2 boxes of Kleenex, 3 glue sticks)

I've been trying so hard over the years to not nag or micromanage, but dang I understand the wives that do everything themselves just so it gets done correctly the first time.

And yes, he's an exec at work, with 50+ people under him, manages tens of million dollars of budgets annually and highly regarded in his field.....but can't get the additional box of tissues ugh.

Op I could have wrote this post!!! Mine is the same and everything has to be done twice before it's completeted it's maddening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s the opposite in my house. My DH finishes everything to completion and I’m more like “I’ll do that later…” or I am OK doing things “imperfectly” and he likes everything done precisely. Luckily my husband doesn’t give me a hard time for my good-enough approach.

Yeah I mean, why sweat dumb little details like making sure your child has their epi-pen? Clearly OP needs to lighten up and stop being a shrew. If only she could be as laid back as you!

[Anonymous]

Don’t rescue him.

Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

OP, I saw a t-shirt this summer at the beach that basically said, “Wives, once you’ve asked your husband to do something, there’s no need to remind him every six months.”

So, no, you’re not alone.