Parental exhaustion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) Get a full check up - lipid profile, thyroid panel, bp, a1c, metabolic panel.

2) Eat a lot of veggies and fruits. Cut out processed food, sugar, junk, cola, caffeine, alcohol and smoking. Try and eat mostly plant based whole foods and limit meat, dairy etc, if you cannot eliminate it entirely.

3) Lose weight in a healthy manner.

4) Get 8 hours of sleep.

5) Take Magnesium, vit d3, vit K2 MK7 (300 mcg), b-complex at bedtime

6) Drink Organic A2 Keffir

7) Take iron supplement in the afternoon for 10 days.

8) walk for at least 10 minutes in a relaxed pace immediately after every meal. Try and walk for 10K every day. Track your steps.

2 more tips -

9) Drink lemon water throughout the day. Try and eat an alkaline diet
10) Take 1/4 tsp. of turmeric powder in 2 oz of warm whole milk at least once a day, preferably 4 times a day.

Both these will fight any inflammation or infection in your body.

[Anonymous]

You aren’t alone. I’m 55 with a 20 yr old and 16 yr old and I’be been exhausted for a few years.

I’ve always done nearly all of the kid work. DH changed careers in his late 30s when we started a family and had to hustle to build from the ground up, then very demanding, so I’ve been the default parent the majority of the time.

Club sports, school (private with a lot of parent participation, no transportation), keeping track of schedules, etc. and I’m just done. Don’t want to wish time away but am counting the days until 16 yr old can get her drivers license and I get some time back.

I do wish I had started having kids at least a couple years younger than I did.

[Anonymous]

Menopause or even perimenopause can really affect your quality of sleep. Plus you have pretty young kids for your age. Kids are tiring, especially as you get older.

[Anonymous]

I’m 50 with an 11yo. I do work 12s but not every day so do have free time, I’m the planner though and the organizer, of everything, and it’s just mentally exhausting. I’m also an introvert so I think by the end of the day, 7pm/8pm I’m done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are you worried about with finances? I am on a new personal finance journey and recently started YNAB. You might like it. You can do a free 34 day trial to start.

OP here. I’ve been using YNAB for years; it’s great. Our income is good (top 10%, public school), just worried about college and retirement since we got late starts on our careers and don’t have family help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went on Wellbutrin and it helped me have the pep and motivation I used to have.

Let’s hope that pep in your step is not as transient as my Wellbutrin boost.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how to break it to you but it gets worse when they are in high school

[Anonymous]

Op- are you getting any self -care in? This may lead to you feeling depleted if not

[Anonymous]

Check your iron and Vitamin D.

[Anonymous]

You are exactly my age when I had kids in 6th and 8th. For you, I think it’s a combination of: perimenopause, always feeling on the go (even at home there is something that needs to be done), and with all those moving parts, your mind isn’t at rest. It’s just a byproduct of having kids later.

[Anonymous]

I'm 45 and have kids ages 13 & 17 and I am BONE TIRED. Now that my hormones are starting to shift, my sleep sucks and this is the root of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are exactly my age when I had kids in 6th and 8th. For you, I think it’s a combination of: perimenopause, always feeling on the go (even at home there is something that needs to be done), and with all those moving parts, your mind isn’t at rest. It’s just a byproduct of having kids later.

OP again. It makes sense when one considers DH and I are old enough to be grandparents!

I am trying to improve the situation before my older child enters high school. Starting with eating better today.

[Anonymous]

You're not alone. I feel wiped out. Every day is a battle even when things go well. And they rarely do.

[Anonymous]

I’m 48 and sending my only to college this month. I think your age is conspiring against you. I have been dragging myself through this last year so I know how you feel. If you are having trouble sleeping, go to your doctor. Magnesium has helped me with my sleep somewhat.

[Anonymous]

OP - you have a very long day out of the house. Step 1 - what can be done about that?