When people who don’t know you, dislike you

[Anonymous]

Op, I have one person who actively dislikes me for no real reason. Don’t let them occupy your headspace. I actually never think about that person unless someone brings it up like this, and I feel pretty neutral about her. She’s obviously got problems or she wouldn’t feel that way about me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I have one person who actively dislikes me for no real reason. Don’t let them occupy your headspace. I actually never think about that person unless someone brings it up like this, and I feel pretty neutral about her. She’s obviously got problems or she wouldn’t feel that way about me.

How do you know there’s no reason? Maybe you said something that offended her, without meaning to. Maybe you made assumptions. Maybe you asked about a sensitive topic. You don’t know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I have one person who actively dislikes me for no real reason. Don’t let them occupy your headspace. I actually never think about that person unless someone brings it up like this, and I feel pretty neutral about her. She’s obviously got problems or she wouldn’t feel that way about me.

How do you know there’s no reason? Maybe you said something that offended her, without meaning to. Maybe you made assumptions. Maybe you asked about a sensitive topic. You don’t know.

She has BPD, and the reason she claims was made up entirely in her own delusional head. Never happened…I would know! She does this to many others also. It’s sad really. She’s alienated almost everyone in her life by now, I just happened to have the luck to be one of the earliest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I have one person who actively dislikes me for no real reason. Don’t let them occupy your headspace. I actually never think about that person unless someone brings it up like this, and I feel pretty neutral about her. She’s obviously got problems or she wouldn’t feel that way about me.

How do you know there’s no reason? Maybe you said something that offended her, without meaning to. Maybe you made assumptions. Maybe you asked about a sensitive topic. You don’t know.

She has BPD, and the reason she claims was made up entirely in her own delusional head. Never happened…I would know! She does this to many others also. It’s sad really. She’s alienated almost everyone in her life by now, I just happened to have the luck to be one of the earliest.

Do you know she has BPD, and how do you know?

[Anonymous]

The head of our swim team is like this. She has tons of friends and everyone talks about her like she's the best person ever. I've barely interacted with her and nothing remotely controversial. Our kids aren't the same ages and mine are mediocre swimmers and not a threat to her in any way. She's also way wealthier than I am, so again I'm not threat.

She clearly openly dislikes me. I just don't understand it. I never told my kids but I was so glad when they decided to stop summer swim on their own.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I have one person who actively dislikes me for no real reason. Don’t let them occupy your headspace. I actually never think about that person unless someone brings it up like this, and I feel pretty neutral about her. She’s obviously got problems or she wouldn’t feel that way about me.

How do you know there’s no reason? Maybe you said something that offended her, without meaning to. Maybe you made assumptions. Maybe you asked about a sensitive topic. You don’t know.

She has BPD, and the reason she claims was made up entirely in her own delusional head. Never happened…I would know! She does this to many others also. It’s sad really. She’s alienated almost everyone in her life by now, I just happened to have the luck to be one of the earliest.

Do you know she has BPD, and how do you know?

I know because her daughter told me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I have one person who actively dislikes me for no real reason. Don’t let them occupy your headspace. I actually never think about that person unless someone brings it up like this, and I feel pretty neutral about her. She’s obviously got problems or she wouldn’t feel that way about me.

How do you know there’s no reason? Maybe you said something that offended her, without meaning to. Maybe you made assumptions. Maybe you asked about a sensitive topic. You don’t know.

She has BPD, and the reason she claims was made up entirely in her own delusional head. Never happened…I would know! She does this to many others also. It’s sad really. She’s alienated almost everyone in her life by now, I just happened to have the luck to be one of the earliest.

There are two sides to every story. There is a woman I really loathe for very good reasons— concrete things she did directly to me that harmed me. She has contended from the jump that she didn’t do them.

Actually, first she denied they happened. Then she said they happened but they weren’t a big deal. Then she says they happened and while it was reasonable fir me to be hurt at the time, I should have gotten over it “by now.”

She lied to a bunch of people about what happened, saying she’d never done anything, that I was delusional and/or oversensitive, and that I hated her “for no reason.” In doing so, she stirred up lots of (false) gossip about me and harmed my reputation among all but the people who knew me well enough to know the rumors were untrue, effectively “alienating” me from a lot of people in my circle.

I don’t know why she did any of it, but if you asked her about it now, she’d say EXACTLY what you just said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand. It is my RBF.

For me, it’s my RBF and the weird awkward vibe I give off (thank you social anxiety).

It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem; it’s me.

[Anonymous]

This has happened to me a lot, but only in the last few years. I went through decades of life not making an enemies. All of a sudden I’m 41 and people hate me. The only thing I can think of is that I’m wealthy with a very involved and hands on husband. My personality hasn’t changed so I don’t know else it could be.

[Anonymous]

Remember Janice on Friends? Well, if I were at a party and heard her talking, I'd hate her without knowing her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember Janice on Friends? Well, if I were at a party and heard her talking, I'd hate her without knowing her.

I’d find her annoying and probably choose not to spend time around her. Though I also think a personality like that could grow on you.

I would never hate someone unless they’d done something terrible TO me, or to someone I loved, or to so many people you have to hate them. Hating someone because they are loud or have an annoying laugh. You’d wind up hating so many people that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember Janice on Friends? Well, if I were at a party and heard her talking, I'd hate her without knowing her.

You’d hate her enough to tell a bunch of mutual friends you didn’t like her? That makes you MUCH worse than someone who is merely annoying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I have one person who actively dislikes me for no real reason. Don’t let them occupy your headspace. I actually never think about that person unless someone brings it up like this, and I feel pretty neutral about her. She’s obviously got problems or she wouldn’t feel that way about me.

How do you know there’s no reason? Maybe you said something that offended her, without meaning to. Maybe you made assumptions. Maybe you asked about a sensitive topic. You don’t know.

She has BPD, and the reason she claims was made up entirely in her own delusional head. Never happened…I would know! She does this to many others also. It’s sad really. She’s alienated almost everyone in her life by now, I just happened to have the luck to be one of the earliest.

Uh huh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me a lot, but only in the last few years. I went through decades of life not making an enemies. All of a sudden I’m 41 and people hate me. The only thing I can think of is that I’m wealthy with a very involved and hands on husband. My personality hasn’t changed so I don’t know else it could be.

You brag..

[Anonymous]

F*ck ALL of these people - find new friends. This group sounds awful.