Men, do you care if your wife puts effort into her appearance?

[Anonymous]

My husband announces “you did something to your face!” When I put makeup on. But I think a cute dress gets more of a reaction than grooming.

[Anonymous]

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The men I know well (my husband, my best friends' husbands, my father, other male relatives) do not particularly appreciate make-up, and have said so on several occasions over the years. They view it as artificial stuff plastered on to their wives' and daughters' faces that shouldn't be there. However, they want their wives to exercise, be fit, and find flattering clothes, because obviously they're not insensible to how their figures look! My husband expressed multiple times that he likes it when I show I have an hourglass figure. He's happy when I commit to an exercise regimen and eat healthy, and he tries to do the same.

I'm sure none of these men would actually notice if their wives wore the "natural" make-up look! You know, with products that subtly enhance their face but without visible signs of make-up. It's useful when women have a bad week, look haggard and need to look a little fresher. But the notion that I have "stuff on my face", especially lipstick, makes my husband not want to kiss me. He's OK with eyeshadow on nights out, because he's not kissing my eyelids, and the glitter eyeshadow does look kind of fun

Lots of men say that about makeup, and all it does it convince me how much men do not understand what they are looking at.

Yes to this, definitely yes. I rarely wear make up because my DH says he doesn't see the point, I'm beautiful without it. lol. Fast forward to an evening out and I purposely put on "light" makeup that only a woman would truly know takes so much time, this to look natural. When I came out of our room, his response, "WOW, you look amazing!" He had no idea I was wearing a natural look makeup, zero chance he knew, and I believe most if not all men are like this, they haven't a clue.

I don't understand this from married men. I know when my wife puts on makeup. How could I not? We live together, she does any makeup in the same room where I'm getting dressed if we're going out.

[Anonymous]

I notice everything from eyeliner on a lower lid, an ankle bracelet that she wore 20 years ago or a vapor trail of perfume, any effort is greatly appreciated.

[Anonymous]

As a DH I don't care about makeup, but definitely care about regular grooming (waxing/shaving/showering) and clothing that doesn't look ragged...don't particularly care if that's yoga pants, dressy pants, or even nice pjs. So, some basic level of self-care but not overboard?

[Anonymous]

IME being slim matters more than being made-up. Men really don't care about makeup on a day-to-day basis.

[Anonymous]

I'm attracted to her with or without makeup so it's not a big deal to me. There are times we come home from an evening out where I'd like to get right to bed but she has to take her makeup off first.

[Anonymous]

Dh prefers me in:
-jeans and a low cut v neck tee with a baseball cap
-yoga pants and a tank top with a pony tail
-one of his white oversized tees and boy short underwear to sleep
-spandex shorts and a baggy tee if we're gardening or playing in the yard with the kids
-jean shorts and a bikini top if we're at the beach or playing in the sprinkler.

I have a pretty average-ish body too. Size 8, birthed and nursed 2 kids. When I really dress up for like a wedding or fancy date night I get an obligatory "you look so nice", but the above outfits w/o make up are when he can't keep his eyes or hands off me.

[Anonymous]

As usual, a DCUM thread asking men what they think is mostly answered by women saying what they think men think or what they think men should think.

Yes, we care. But most likely we won't directly say anything about it unless you've gone downhill a long way. We know that if we say anything about you not looking nice, you'll get defensive and lash out at us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stay thin and in shape, but it doesn’t matter what you wear around the house. Any man would take that over a chunky woman who dresses up with makeup.

That last sentence just isn’t true. What is it with the posters who constantly state that no man could possibly prefer a heavier woman to a thinner woman.

[Anonymous]

I don’t wear makeup daily. I do have my hair colored though. I keep myself clean and tidy but not “made up.” DH is the same way. I have asked him and he says I do not need to do more. I never wore much makeup so I feel like he knew what he was getting.

[Anonymous]

My DH wants me appropriately dressed and groomed for the occasion.

[Anonymous]

Dh here. I don't really care either way. DW is beautiful with or without makeup. When she does her her and makeup, she's absolutely stunning. But today she's doing stuff in the house in an oversized sweatshirt and joggers with her hair plopped on top of her head and no make up, and I still think she's sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay thin and in shape, but it doesn’t matter what you wear around the house. Any man would take that over a chunky woman who dresses up with makeup.

That last sentence just isn’t true. What is it with the posters who constantly state that no man could possibly prefer a heavier woman to a thinner woman.

They are very vocal on this board- men and women alike. I think a certain percentage of the distaste is sincere and the remainder is just insecure strivers intent on appearing upscale. For some women, staying thin is their one and only job and the focus of their existence. It leaks out in post after post…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is like this. I wear makeup daily and put a bit of effort in even though I wfh but he does not appear to notice or care either way. He’s a pretty affectionate guy and I don’t notice this this changes in any way based on how I’m styled.

+1 And we're talking a little makeup, not pancake face with full on dark eyeshadow and blush. Everyday makeup should enhance your natural look, not make you look like you are about to go the Oscars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As usual, a DCUM thread asking men what they think is mostly answered by women saying what they think men think or what they think men should think.

Yes, we care. But most likely we won't directly say anything about it unless you've gone downhill a long way. We know that if we say anything about you not looking nice, you'll get defensive and lash out at us.

because the forum skews towards women