Men, do you care if your wife puts effort into her appearance?

Anonymous
I work from home and often fall into the trap of looking sloppy and not particularly put together. I don’t usually wear any makeup or do anything to my hair beyond putting it in a bun. Lately I’ve been trying to look a little nicer, I.e mascara, light eyeliner, blow drying my hair. DH didn’t seem to notice so I asked him and he said it honestly makes no difference to him. I wasn’t offended, he is affectionate either way, but I was surprised. Curious to hear if other men are the same way.
Anonymous
You are lucky he loves you anyway. However, make an effort with appearance when it makes you happy and stay casual when you don't feel like it. Hood grooming is great but made up looks are more surprising when done occasionally. People stop noticing when someone is always dolled up.
Anonymous
*good grooming
Anonymous
It varies. If my wife started wearing makeup, I'd think she had a brain injury, because that's just not her. I'm sure it's the reverse for some people. Ask your husband.
Anonymous

The men I know well (my husband, my best friends' husbands, my father, other male relatives) do not particularly appreciate make-up, and have said so on several occasions over the years. They view it as artificial stuff plastered on to their wives' and daughters' faces that shouldn't be there. However, they want their wives to exercise, be fit, and find flattering clothes, because obviously they're not insensible to how their figures look! My husband expressed multiple times that he likes it when I show I have an hourglass figure. He's happy when I commit to an exercise regimen and eat healthy, and he tries to do the same.

I'm sure none of these men would actually notice if their wives wore the "natural" make-up look! You know, with products that subtly enhance their face but without visible signs of make-up. It's useful when women have a bad week, look haggard and need to look a little fresher. But the notion that I have "stuff on my face", especially lipstick, makes my husband not want to kiss me. He's OK with eyeshadow on nights out, because he's not kissing my eyelids, and the glitter eyeshadow does look kind of fun



Anonymous
^ me again. I love to spend time shopping for clothes, and buy what I think we will both like, and that flatters my figure. There's no dowdy dressing in my house.
Anonymous
Yes and no, depends on your weight and work outs
Anonymous
My DH is like this. I wear makeup daily and put a bit of effort in even though I wfh but he does not appear to notice or care either way. He’s a pretty affectionate guy and I don’t notice this this changes in any way based on how I’m styled.
Anonymous
He's trying to be nice. Making an effort makes a difference. And if nothing else, it'll make a noticeable difference in how you feel about yourself which will permeate everything.
Anonymous
Stay thin and in shape, but it doesn’t matter what you wear around the house. Any man would take that over a chunky woman who dresses up with makeup.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
The men I know well (my husband, my best friends' husbands, my father, other male relatives) do not particularly appreciate make-up, and have said so on several occasions over the years. They view it as artificial stuff plastered on to their wives' and daughters' faces that shouldn't be there. However, they want their wives to exercise, be fit, and find flattering clothes, because obviously they're not insensible to how their figures look! My husband expressed multiple times that he likes it when I show I have an hourglass figure. He's happy when I commit to an exercise regimen and eat healthy, and he tries to do the same.

I'm sure none of these men would actually notice if their wives wore the "natural" make-up look! You know, with products that subtly enhance their face but without visible signs of make-up. It's useful when women have a bad week, look haggard and need to look a little fresher. But the notion that I have "stuff on my face", especially lipstick, makes my husband not want to kiss me. He's OK with eyeshadow on nights out, because he's not kissing my eyelids, and the glitter eyeshadow does look kind of fun





Lots of men say that about makeup, and all it does it convince me how much men do not understand what they are looking at.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
The men I know well (my husband, my best friends' husbands, my father, other male relatives) do not particularly appreciate make-up, and have said so on several occasions over the years. They view it as artificial stuff plastered on to their wives' and daughters' faces that shouldn't be there. However, they want their wives to exercise, be fit, and find flattering clothes, because obviously they're not insensible to how their figures look! My husband expressed multiple times that he likes it when I show I have an hourglass figure. He's happy when I commit to an exercise regimen and eat healthy, and he tries to do the same.

I'm sure none of these men would actually notice if their wives wore the "natural" make-up look! You know, with products that subtly enhance their face but without visible signs of make-up. It's useful when women have a bad week, look haggard and need to look a little fresher. But the notion that I have "stuff on my face", especially lipstick, makes my husband not want to kiss me. He's OK with eyeshadow on nights out, because he's not kissing my eyelids, and the glitter eyeshadow does look kind of fun





Lots of men say that about makeup, and all it does it convince me how much men do not understand what they are looking at.


Yes to this, definitely yes. I rarely wear make up because my DH says he doesn't see the point, I'm beautiful without it. lol. Fast forward to an evening out and I purposely put on "light" makeup that only a woman would truly know takes so much time, this to look natural. When I came out of our room, his response, "WOW, you look amazing!" He had no idea I was wearing a natural look makeup, zero chance he knew, and I believe most if not all men are like this, they haven't a clue.
Anonymous
DH is more into me being thin, in shape and dressing nice than my makeup. I don't think he cares about makeup or what my hair looks like.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
The men I know well (my husband, my best friends' husbands, my father, other male relatives) do not particularly appreciate make-up, and have said so on several occasions over the years. They view it as artificial stuff plastered on to their wives' and daughters' faces that shouldn't be there. However, they want their wives to exercise, be fit, and find flattering clothes, because obviously they're not insensible to how their figures look! My husband expressed multiple times that he likes it when I show I have an hourglass figure. He's happy when I commit to an exercise regimen and eat healthy, and he tries to do the same.

I'm sure none of these men would actually notice if their wives wore the "natural" make-up look! You know, with products that subtly enhance their face but without visible signs of make-up. It's useful when women have a bad week, look haggard and need to look a little fresher. But the notion that I have "stuff on my face", especially lipstick, makes my husband not want to kiss me. He's OK with eyeshadow on nights out, because he's not kissing my eyelids, and the glitter eyeshadow does look kind of fun





Lots of men say that about makeup, and all it does it convince me how much men do not understand what they are looking at.


Yeah a guy friend once told me he likes women who don't wear makeup like me. I looked at him like he had 2 heads. I wear full foundation daily, mascara, eyebrow makeup, blush... the only thing I don't wear is eyeshadow. So I guess because he didn't see weird eyeshadow colors he thought I didn't wear makeup.
Anonymous
I stay looking neat. I don't wear makeup daily, but I try to take care of my fitness, wear clothing that fits, keep my hair neat and groomed, keep my nails and brows tidy, keep skin moisturized and legs always shaved, etc.
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