My friend moved without telling me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure your DD isn’t a right that they moved? They aren’t just there for an extended spring break?

This—how old is DD?

I’d probably play stupid and text asking to set up a play date and see what happens.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you saying that you've spent time with her as recent as last week and the month of March on these frequent outings?

How long has it been since you've actually seen her or texted?

[Anonymous]

For all you know, something horrible or embarrassing prompted the move. Getting fired, alcoholic parent declining, imminent divorce, etc. Maybe she just needed to get out and get on with her life ASAP.

Focus on the friends who stay in touch and move on with your day. The world doesn’t revolve around you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like something I might do OP. I am terrible at goodbyes. I would just text her + ask how she is doing.

It could be:
- parent/ family health issue
- job loss
-divorce
- whatever

You never know.

Plus one

+1 or a legal issue

[Anonymous]

OP back with an update. Our girls are in 5th grade, so I'm confident DD got things straight. DH was surprised too. I hung out with my friend (one on one) a week and a half ago. She mentioned nothing. We talked about trying to firm up summer plans and vacations and such. We talked about the books we're reading, Love is Blind, all normal things.

In general, DH and I like to assume the best of people, so that's how I approached it. "Hey, DD told me today you guys moved to Wisconsin? Did she get that right? If so, please send me your new address so we can send you a housewarming gift! Also, so sorry we didn't get a chance to say goodbye in person. Hope the move wasn't too crazy!" She texted back over an hour later "Yeah lol" So ... I guess drop it?

[Anonymous]

Is she an only child by chance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP back with an update. Our girls are in 5th grade, so I'm confident DD got things straight. DH was surprised too. I hung out with my friend (one on one) a week and a half ago. She mentioned nothing. We talked about trying to firm up summer plans and vacations and such. We talked about the books we're reading, Love is Blind, all normal things.

In general, DH and I like to assume the best of people, so that's how I approached it. "Hey, DD told me today you guys moved to Wisconsin? Did she get that right? If so, please send me your new address so we can send you a housewarming gift! Also, so sorry we didn't get a chance to say goodbye in person. Hope the move wasn't too crazy!" She texted back over an hour later "Yeah lol" So ... I guess drop it?

Whoa. How odd!

[Anonymous]

“I guess drop it”…as opposed to what? Seriously, what else would you conceivably do but drop it after that response?

[Anonymous]

I personally would not drop it, and I don't know what to make of her response because it's vague. Does she mean "yeah, lol, I have just had the most insane week of my life that resulted in me moving to Wisconsin"? Or does else mean "yeah, lol, life is weird oops I didn't mention this to you my bad"? Like I would follow up and try to find out which it is because I feel like it's one of two things:

(1) My friend is having some kid of crisis/emergency and I'd like to support her in whatever way I can, or

(2) My friend is a selfish a$$hole and I'd like to know so I can start working on forgetting her.

I would not leave it at "yeah, lol..."

[Anonymous]

Op how often did you go to her house here? Wondering if you all always met outside your homes if she may have you at acquaintance while you have her as a close friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she an only child by chance?

Nope. This is just so odd. I feel like I'm going to wonder about this for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she an only child by chance?

What a stupid question. Being an only child or one of 12 doesn't change how bizarre this behaviour is.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she meant to write more but then something came up? Very weird. I’d try one more time, OP, if you really care about keeping this friendship up. And if you get nothing, you get nothing, but you are welcome to try during the holidays again or birthday time.

[Anonymous]

Your friend sounds immature.

[Anonymous]

Foreclosure or eviction. Whatever it is, she's not your friend. Just drop her. You'll never see her again anyway.