Why do so many parents still make their daughters do all the chores?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-40322318.html

Young girls do more chores than boys, study finds.

“Girls do more household chores than boys at both nine and 13 years of age – and new research also shows that any housework carried out by boys at those ages tends to be "gender-typical" chores.

It also found: "At an early age, girls/young women and boys/young men are developing housework patterns that mirror the problematic housework patterns seen in adulthood."

Okay. A study of Irish kids.

My 13 year old boy waters the plants, takes out the trash, empties the dishwasher, feeds the pets, walks the dog. This is all daily.

His 9 year old sister doesn't do nearly as much. She will when she's older. She has her own chores.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not what I see or how my kids were raised. My kids are now young adults but my son was always much more willing to do requested chores. DD spent so much time arguing it was easier for me or DH to just do whatever it was.

I should add that we modeled balanced roles - DH does all the cooking and definitely took on 50% of child care. I have the higher pressure, higher income job. That makes a difference.

[Anonymous]

I see this. I think it's not as blatant as when we were kids.

What I see: parents of boys are more lax with how messy they let their rooms get. They get assigned seasonal chores like mowing the lawn (2 hours once a week) while girls get assigned doing dishes every single night (30 min a day). I think a lot of parents don't even realize it's happening. Some of it is that girls might do chores more willingly or maybe are more interested in keeping their rooms cleaner. Parents just expect more home and family participation from their daughters versus their sons.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t seen that at all. My stepson has as many chores as my daughters and stepdaughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-40322318.html

Young girls do more chores than boys, study finds.

“Girls do more household chores than boys at both nine and 13 years of age – and new research also shows that any housework carried out by boys at those ages tends to be "gender-typical" chores.

It also found: "At an early age, girls/young women and boys/young men are developing housework patterns that mirror the problematic housework patterns seen in adulthood."

This is Ireland not DC

[Anonymous]

I'm the oldest and only daughter in my family. The brunt of household chores and taking care of the baby were dumped on me. My brothers ran free and played outside while I stayed inside and scrubbed floors, washed dishes, changed diapers, etc. Around 40 some years later, when our mother became unable to take care of herself, I'll let you guess who had to quit her job and take on the chore by herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the oldest and only daughter in my family. The brunt of household chores and taking care of the baby were dumped on me. My brothers ran free and played outside while I stayed inside and scrubbed floors, washed dishes, changed diapers, etc. Around 40 some years later, when our mother became unable to take care of herself, I'll let you guess who had to quit her job and take on the chore by herself.

Cool story. You revived a year old thread for this? Get a hobby.

[Anonymous]

Happened with me in the 80s. My brother mowed the grass and I had to clean most of the house and do most of the laundry.

Hopefully people are more enlightened now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was the issue in my family growing up (I am a millennial) and I’m noticing it among neighborhood families too! Parents are forcing or guilting their daughters into doing chores their sons don’t have to do. I think kids should do chores—equally!

I didn't because it was fine in our home. Boys learned to cook and daughter lmowed lawn.

[Anonymous]

I grew up with a sister. I got stuck as the younger one doing everything. She never lifted a finger.

[Anonymous]

I only have sons. They had cleaning chores. I also taught them how to iron and sew on a button.

[Anonymous]

I don't know of any family who does this, OP.

However, I do know of clueless grandmothers who want their granddaughters to look pretty and know domestic arts, and want their grandsons to prioritize their professional futures. My MIL, and others. They're thinking: great-grandchildren!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was the issue in my family growing up (I am a millennial) and I’m noticing it among neighborhood families too! Parents are forcing or guilting their daughters into doing chores their sons don’t have to do. I think kids should do chores—equally!

Da fook

[Anonymous]

It’s true where I grew up but I don’t let it happen in my own family. I have both daughter and son.

[Anonymous]

Could it be the kids naturally choose chores based on gender?

My son would rather mow the grass, clean the trashcan, wash the car or clean the garage. My daughter doesn't want to do any if that. I just have task around the house that need to be done I don't care who does them as long as they are done.