Why do so many parents still make their daughters do all the chores?

[Anonymous]

This was the issue in my family growing up (I am a millennial) and I’m noticing it among neighborhood families too! Parents are forcing or guilting their daughters into doing chores their sons don’t have to do. I think kids should do chores—equally!

[Anonymous]

That's not what I see at all.

[Anonymous]

I've never seen this in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never seen this in my life.

+1

Is this cultural?

[Anonymous]

Bored on a Tuesday? It's too early in the week, OP. Come back on Friday.

[Anonymous]

Not true

[Anonymous]

What? I’m 60 and I’ve never seen this, in my family of origin or my family with my own kids.

Where do you live that you are seeing this?

[Anonymous]

Doesen't happen among my friend group. And I only have boys so they get to do all the chores.

[Anonymous]

https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-40322318.html

Young girls do more chores than boys, study finds.

“Girls do more household chores than boys at both nine and 13 years of age – and new research also shows that any housework carried out by boys at those ages tends to be "gender-typical" chores.

It also found: "At an early age, girls/young women and boys/young men are developing housework patterns that mirror the problematic housework patterns seen in adulthood."

[Anonymous]

I have a son and daughter. Not in my family.

[Anonymous]

Very very common. And it’s why men don’t do housework (which is proven, on average).

[Anonymous]

Not what I see or how my kids were raised. My kids are now young adults but my son was always much more willing to do requested chores. DD spent so much time arguing it was easier for me or DH to just do whatever it was.

[Anonymous]

I know this happens, but I don't think it's nearly as widespread as it was when I was growing up. As for why, it's because there are still families where women are supposed to do X (lower or not paid, repetitive, often inside the house work), and men are supposed to do Y (higher-paid, more exciting and/or occasional, and outside the house work), and they are teaching their kids that because it's what they believe.

[Anonymous]

That happened in my Asian family.

Today, my DS has to take out the trash and recycling. DD sweeps the floors and does light dusting -- both once a week.

They both have to clean up after themselves and wash their own lunches stuff after school, fold their own laundry.

Last Sunday, my teen DS washed the dishes voluntarily after lunch.

[Anonymous]

I'm 53 with one brother. We switched off on chores every other week, so chores were rotated between us. Dinner dishes we could decide among ourselves, one dried and one washed. As far as yard work, my dad mowed, and we were just responsible for raking/leaf collection.