What is a "pick me" woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, I was probably what you would label a "pick me girl" in early college. The thing you didn't know (and wouldn't guess looking at me) was that I was sexually and emotionally abused by my dad. You just don't know and if you decide to degrade and label you become part of the problem.

+1. And even as a grown woman with a wonderful life that I’m grateful for every day, I work really hard not to act this way. I didn’t choose it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are there so many threads finding ways to degrade women?

+1 All from women, no less. Internalized misogyny.

I'd argue that pick me women degrade us all, actually.

Speak for yourself and your insecurities.

Haha, Says the person offended with this thread.

I am not offended. That was my first post in this thread.

I am just surprised that people don't realize that this is internalized misogyny.

[Anonymous]

Gosh, it’s virtually impossible for teenage girls to just be themselves without some unflattering label attached. I know that’s nothing really new, but it still seems harder these days. You’re either basic or a pick-me? What’s seen as positive now?

[Anonymous]

The term “pick-me” first started on Twitter under the hashtag #TweeLikeAPickMe, which was used to mock women who fall under the “guys’ girl” category, especially those who consider themselves to be “wifey” material.

[Anonymous]

I am the OP. I graduated high school in 1987. My mother used to insist and not allow me to "call boys." She had very strict rules about not talking to boys on the phone even if they called me, unless they were making arrangements to ask me out on a date or to a dance or something. She would limit the amount of time I could talk to a boy on the phone. Anyway, girls and women typically did not do the asking. We had a Sadie Hawkins dance where the young women could ask the young men.

Young women weren't supposed to "chase after" the boys or be seen as "boy crazy."

It got me wondering if I was a "pick me" back then. I waited for the guy to do the asking. Did I really pick the guys I was interested in or did I choose among the men who showed an interest in me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. I graduated high school in 1987. My mother used to insist and not allow me to "call boys." She had very strict rules about not talking to boys on the phone even if they called me, unless they were making arrangements to ask me out on a date or to a dance or something. She would limit the amount of time I could talk to a boy on the phone. Anyway, girls and women typically did not do the asking. We had a Sadie Hawkins dance where the young women could ask the young men.

Young women weren't supposed to "chase after" the boys or be seen as "boy crazy."

It got me wondering if I was a "pick me" back then. I waited for the guy to do the asking. Did I really pick the guys I was interested in or did I choose among the men who showed an interest in me?

This is not how the term is used OP.

It it used to describe a woman who makes excuses for men and/ or tries to always align with what men want so that she can be the chosen woman.

[Anonymous]

Look up the lyrics to “you belong with me” by Taylor Swift. That is the pick me girl anthem.

[Anonymous]

It seems like one of those terms people on the internet throw around a lot, like Karen and Boomer, because they’re lazy thinkers or they think it makes them sound with it. But they’re almost always using it incorrectly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Used to describe a heterosexual woman that generally subscribes to a submissive , male-centered , doormat-like persona in order to attract/snag a husband.

Generally used by single women to describe other single women.

Ah see that's not how I see pick me woman. To me it means someone who constantly tries to get attention on them. They seek validation by males and often try to fake that "I'm not like other girls" personality. I've met one person like this in my adult life (i feel like its a more common teenage girl thing) and it's so odd

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick-me%20girl

+1 this is how I understand it as well. I have always heard it as an accusation that a woman is kind of betraying other women by working so hard to get attention and love, sometimes even putting other women down in order to prove she’s better.

Like the mental image I get is the kid in the front of class raising her hand to answer every question, bringing the teacher gifts, etc. Like “pick me, pick me! I’m the BEST one.” It’s tiresome.

Pick me women also stir up competition among women even if the other women don’t want to compete with each other. The worst pick me woman I have known would pull this thing where, if a group of us were out somewhere and met a guy or two, she’d say stuff like “oooh, let’s play a game— which one of us do you think has the best eyes?” It was so gross. I remember once just walking out and getting an Uber and going home when she pulled this crap. It was so dumb.

How do you justify labeling and demeaning other women by using the derogatory term "pick me" to describe them if you believe that women should not "betray" other women?

+1

I’m sorry but I’m pretty sure I never officially pledged my loyalty and fealty to all other women. Please keep the rest of us out of your childish “battle of the sexes.” I’ve met and been friends with some cool chicks in my time, but I’ve also meet some cruddy women too. The “sisterhood” isn’t always as kind and awesome as some of you make it out to be, and I’m certainly not concerned with “betraying” those types.

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Anonymous wrote:Used to describe a heterosexual woman that generally subscribes to a submissive , male-centered , doormat-like persona in order to attract/snag a husband.

Generally used by single women to describe other single women.

Ah see that's not how I see pick me woman. To me it means someone who constantly tries to get attention on them. They seek validation by males and often try to fake that "I'm not like other girls" personality. I've met one person like this in my adult life (i feel like its a more common teenage girl thing) and it's so odd

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick-me%20girl

+1 this is how I understand it as well. I have always heard it as an accusation that a woman is kind of betraying other women by working so hard to get attention and love, sometimes even putting other women down in order to prove she’s better.

Like the mental image I get is the kid in the front of class raising her hand to answer every question, bringing the teacher gifts, etc. Like “pick me, pick me! I’m the BEST one.” It’s tiresome.

Pick me women also stir up competition among women even if the other women don’t want to compete with each other. The worst pick me woman I have known would pull this thing where, if a group of us were out somewhere and met a guy or two, she’d say stuff like “oooh, let’s play a game— which one of us do you think has the best eyes?” It was so gross. I remember once just walking out and getting an Uber and going home when she pulled this crap. It was so dumb.

How do you justify labeling and demeaning other women by using the derogatory term "pick me" to describe them if you believe that women should not "betray" other women?

+1

I’m sorry but I’m pretty sure I never officially pledged my loyalty and fealty to all other women. Please keep the rest of us out of your childish “battle of the sexes.” I’ve met and been friends with some cool chicks in my time, but I’ve also meet some cruddy women too. The “sisterhood” isn’t always as kind and awesome as some of you make it out to be, and I’m certainly not concerned with “betraying” those types.

There's a special place in hell for women who don't support women. #chicks b4 dicks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Used to describe a heterosexual woman that generally subscribes to a submissive , male-centered , doormat-like persona in order to attract/snag a husband.

Generally used by single women to describe other single women.

Ah see that's not how I see pick me woman. To me it means someone who constantly tries to get attention on them. They seek validation by males and often try to fake that "I'm not like other girls" personality. I've met one person like this in my adult life (i feel like its a more common teenage girl thing) and it's so odd

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick-me%20girl

+1 this is how I understand it as well. I have always heard it as an accusation that a woman is kind of betraying other women by working so hard to get attention and love, sometimes even putting other women down in order to prove she’s better.

Like the mental image I get is the kid in the front of class raising her hand to answer every question, bringing the teacher gifts, etc. Like “pick me, pick me! I’m the BEST one.” It’s tiresome.

Pick me women also stir up competition among women even if the other women don’t want to compete with each other. The worst pick me woman I have known would pull this thing where, if a group of us were out somewhere and met a guy or two, she’d say stuff like “oooh, let’s play a game— which one of us do you think has the best eyes?” It was so gross. I remember once just walking out and getting an Uber and going home when she pulled this crap. It was so dumb.

How do you justify labeling and demeaning other women by using the derogatory term "pick me" to describe them if you believe that women should not "betray" other women?

+1

I’m sorry but I’m pretty sure I never officially pledged my loyalty and fealty to all other women. Please keep the rest of us out of your childish “battle of the sexes.” I’ve met and been friends with some cool chicks in my time, but I’ve also meet some cruddy women too. The “sisterhood” isn’t always as kind and awesome as some of you make it out to be, and I’m certainly not concerned with “betraying” those types.

There's a special place in hell for women who don't support women. #chicks b4 dicks.

Well I don’t believe in hell, nor do I share your black and white view of the world. However you’re free to hold whatever opinion of me you’d like! Just don’t expect me to care.

[Anonymous]

Remember that movie Saturday Night Fever and the John Travolta character was so cringely mean to his dance partner. He’d sleep with her, then when she tried to have a normal conversation with him, he’d disparage her in front of everyone, but she doggedly keep coming back because she “loved him.” That’s a pick me girl.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Used to describe a heterosexual woman that generally subscribes to a submissive , male-centered , doormat-like persona in order to attract/snag a husband.

Generally used by single women to describe other single women.

Ah see that's not how I see pick me woman. To me it means someone who constantly tries to get attention on them. They seek validation by males and often try to fake that "I'm not like other girls" personality. I've met one person like this in my adult life (i feel like its a more common teenage girl thing) and it's so odd

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick-me%20girl

+1 this is how I understand it as well. I have always heard it as an accusation that a woman is kind of betraying other women by working so hard to get attention and love, sometimes even putting other women down in order to prove she’s better.

Like the mental image I get is the kid in the front of class raising her hand to answer every question, bringing the teacher gifts, etc. Like “pick me, pick me! I’m the BEST one.” It’s tiresome.

Pick me women also stir up competition among women even if the other women don’t want to compete with each other. The worst pick me woman I have known would pull this thing where, if a group of us were out somewhere and met a guy or two, she’d say stuff like “oooh, let’s play a game— which one of us do you think has the best eyes?” It was so gross. I remember once just walking out and getting an Uber and going home when she pulled this crap. It was so dumb.

How do you justify labeling and demeaning other women by using the derogatory term "pick me" to describe them if you believe that women should not "betray" other women?

+1

I’m sorry but I’m pretty sure I never officially pledged my loyalty and fealty to all other women. Please keep the rest of us out of your childish “battle of the sexes.” I’ve met and been friends with some cool chicks in my time, but I’ve also meet some cruddy women too. The “sisterhood” isn’t always as kind and awesome as some of you make it out to be, and I’m certainly not concerned with “betraying” those types.

There's a special place in hell for women who don't support women. #chicks b4 dicks.

She said that right before going off to commit war crimes.

[Anonymous]

It’s the female version of the word cuck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Used to describe a heterosexual woman that generally subscribes to a submissive , male-centered , doormat-like persona in order to attract/snag a husband.

Generally used by single women to describe other single women.

Ah see that's not how I see pick me woman. To me it means someone who constantly tries to get attention on them. They seek validation by males and often try to fake that "I'm not like other girls" personality. I've met one person like this in my adult life (i feel like its a more common teenage girl thing) and it's so odd

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick-me%20girl

Interesting. In my day, we called that type the "cool girl". She's likes whatever guys like. She's one of the guys. She'll go ahead and fock a guy, no strings...but not really. Close relative of the Level 5 Clinger.

You're misunderstanding. She's not "one of the guys". She's the one the guys hook up with b/c she's easy- she has no self esteem- she fakes what she likes to get attention.