The opposite of overscheduled

[Anonymous]

Yes, MYOB. Though, if I were speculating, I’d say that whichever parent normally does the organizing got sick of doing it all, told spouse that they needed to take it on, and spouse fell down on the job.

[Anonymous]

Just imagine the breathless call to child protective services: "I'd like to report a wealthy family in the DMV who hasn't signed their children up for sailing lessons and chess camp! I have witnessed with my own eyes these poor children playing Legos outside of a $5000 afterschool Lego camp! Please save these well-fed children who are cared for at home when they are not in school!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I explicitly stated that these are parents with plenty of money and time. I didn't ask about kids with special needs since these kids don't have any. These are kids that are ASKING repeatedly to do certain activities. These happen to be activities that neither parent has the skills to teach and I see them often enough to know that there isn't some other version of these activities taking place at home. Please stop answering questions I didn't ask and discussing situations I didn't ask about.

Age ranges are elementary and middle school.

Please stop butting into other people's lives. You sound insane. You are on a parenting forum. Do you not have your own children to attend to???

She's not betting into anyone's life, just trying to make sense of an odd situation. If you have nothing to add, pipe down.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I explicitly stated that these are parents with plenty of money and time. I didn't ask about kids with special needs since these kids don't have any. These are kids that are ASKING repeatedly to do certain activities. These happen to be activities that neither parent has the skills to teach and I see them often enough to know that there isn't some other version of these activities taking place at home. Please stop answering questions I didn't ask and discussing situations I didn't ask about.

Age ranges are elementary and middle school.

Please stop butting into other people's lives. You sound insane. You are on a parenting forum. Do you not have your own children to attend to???

She's not betting into anyone's life, just trying to make sense of an odd situation. If you have nothing to add, pipe down.

OP, the verdict is in, and you are nuts.

[Anonymous]

Can you just say to parents … hey sally mentioned she’d love to join scouts. I can take her. Would you like me to send the link?

[Anonymous]

Some people just aren't fans of organized activities and think school is enough education.

[Anonymous]

what’s your concern here? Are you worried that they are missing something important? Do you think it shows that something bad is happening to them at home? What exactly is your problem with this other than it’s different to what you have chosen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what’s your concern here? Are you worried that they are missing something important? Do you think it shows that something bad is happening to them at home? What exactly is your problem with this other than it’s different to what you have chosen?

I'm guessing OP's kids have been vocal that they don't want to be in all these activities, and then when OP meets parents who respect their children's precious and finite childhood leisure time, she feels guilty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My four year old has no interest and complains bitterly doing sports. He might have adhd and we’ll try again when he’s older. But thanks for judging us! You must know our kids better than we do…

Hopefully your four year old turns out smarter than you. The OP clearly said these kids want the activities.

I have a 6yo who does not do scheduled activities because he does not want to. I do not take offense at this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The parents have issues. Mine were asocial and just wanted me to stay home all the time. It wasn’t fun.

This

[Anonymous]

I don’t know anyone like this with kids over the age of 6 or 7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My four year old has no interest and complains bitterly doing sports. He might have adhd and we’ll try again when he’s older. But thanks for judging us! You must know our kids better than we do…

Hopefully your four year old turns out smarter than you. The OP clearly said these kids want the activities.

I have a 6yo who does not do scheduled activities because he does not want to. I do not take offense at this post.

What the OP says could be a complete fabrication, or she could be vastly over-estimating their finances and erroneously assuming they are able to get on that activities hamster wheel. Who knows what's really going on except the OP is way out of line and too deep into someone else's business.

[Anonymous]

Because the parents are exhausted from stressful jobs and don't want to chauffeur in the evenings.
Because the kids have wanted to do 203875 things in the past and each time it's turned out to be a disaster where they wanted to quit during week 2
Because their life is good right now, so why rock the boat?
Because the family values creative time finding your own entertainment vs. scheduled activities
Because they like having family together time in the evenings

Who knows? Either ask them if you're close friends and willing to help make it happen for the kids, or let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I explicitly stated that these are parents with plenty of money and time. I didn't ask about kids with special needs since these kids don't have any. These are kids that are ASKING repeatedly to do certain activities. These happen to be activities that neither parent has the skills to teach and I see them often enough to know that there isn't some other version of these activities taking place at home. Please stop answering questions I didn't ask and discussing situations I didn't ask about.

Age ranges are elementary and middle school.

Is this a hypothetical? How do you know the kids are repeatedly asking? If you know that, do you know what answers the parents are giving?

+1. If you are close enough to know these details then you know the answer. Or you suspect.