Unattractive American partner vs attractive foreign partner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the only thing attractive about you is your American citizenship, you will get a green-card seeking partner.

If OP isn't rich enough to afford an American trophy wife, a green card seeking trophy wife is the budget version

[Anonymous]

Another 90 day fiance couple in the making. Non to semi good looking person looking for a younger hotter spouse that will adore them because they brought them over to the US.

[Anonymous]

I know of two of these relationships in real life. One lady had teen sons from her first marriage and I worry if she’ll stay after seven years. The other women didn’t have preexisting kids, but had two with her American DH. Both men are a 1 in terms of attractiveness. I worry for the first guy whenever i think of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a foreigner in a multi-national marriage, who knows lots of other international families in my little corner of Bethesda, your post just reeks of xenophobia.

My parents come from two countries as far apart as it's possible to be on this planet. They met when they had no common language, religion or culture. I myself married someone from a different country than my two countries of origin. We know lots of people like us. Our kids are *very* mixed

What do you have against people of other nationalities that you imply they are second best?!?

WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?

You misinterpreted my OP. I did not imply that foreigners are less desirable, it’s physically going to another country to date that would make things harder. I view dating a foreign born person living in the US the same as dating a natural born citizen.

Dude! You're a weirdo

[Anonymous]

Are you the guy who makes $50,000 a year and can’t find a spouse? You sound like him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the guy who makes $50,000 a year and can’t find a spouse? You sound like him.

No I make 300k

[Anonymous]

I've known multiple people who married a foreign spouse. It's true that none of them could do any better in America so they found someone abroad. I generally think these people are being taken advantage of by the foreign spouse for the US citizen benefits. If both were Americans to begin with, they wouldn't be together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've known multiple people who married a foreign spouse. It's true that none of them could do any better in America so they found someone abroad. I generally think these people are being taken advantage of by the foreign spouse for the US citizen benefits. If both were Americans to begin with, they wouldn't be together.

I've been taken advantage of for $ by American women too, and if the success rate isn't going to be any worse dating internationally then I might as well go for it if the women are hotter. Look at all the threads here made by women looking for wealthy men (not that I am wealthy just early 30s making UMC salary).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've known multiple people who married a foreign spouse. It's true that none of them could do any better in America so they found someone abroad. I generally think these people are being taken advantage of by the foreign spouse for the US citizen benefits. If both were Americans to begin with, they wouldn't be together.

I've been taken advantage of for $ by American women too, and if the success rate isn't going to be any worse dating internationally then I might as well go for it if the women are hotter. Look at all the threads here made by women looking for wealthy men (not that I am wealthy just early 30s making UMC salary).

You could first try therapy to figure out why you are choosing romantic partners who financially abuse you. Otherwise, it’s not much different from a woman saying she’ll date foreign men even if they smack her around because American men beat her up too and at least the foreign men will be hotter.

Or maybe, you secretly like being exploited for money. Maybe contracting with a financial domme is the right situation for you.

[Anonymous]

foreign by far

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's say someone is not attractive enough to get an American partner who they find attractive but can get a less desirable American partner. Should that person settle for the American or find a foreign spouse who is better looking? I used to think international dating was always a bad idea but I recently discovered that statistically these marriages are just as successful as marriages between two Americans. It's also common knowledge that being a citizen of the US or other first world country gives you an advantage in dating internationally. Why not leverage this to get the most desirable spouse? I'm not saying looks should be the only factor, but physical attraction is important.

For you or for your wife? Because that Colombian cutie doesn’t find you hot.

A coworker had a mail order bride from Russia a few years back. He was shocked—SHOCKED—she cheated on him and left him once she had been married long enough to convince immigration officials the marriage was legit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've known multiple people who married a foreign spouse. It's true that none of them could do any better in America so they found someone abroad. I generally think these people are being taken advantage of by the foreign spouse for the US citizen benefits. If both were Americans to begin with, they wouldn't be together.

I've been taken advantage of for $ by American women too, and if the success rate isn't going to be any worse dating internationally then I might as well go for it if the women are hotter. Look at all the threads here made by women looking for wealthy men (not that I am wealthy just early 30s making UMC salary).

You could first try therapy to figure out why you are choosing romantic partners who financially abuse you. Otherwise, it’s not much different from a woman saying she’ll date foreign men even if they smack her around because American men beat her up too and at least the foreign men will be hotter.

Or maybe, you secretly like being exploited for money. Maybe contracting with a financial domme is the right situation for you.

The reason why is right in the OP—he wants to date out of his league in terms of looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a foreigner in a multi-national marriage, who knows lots of other international families in my little corner of Bethesda, your post just reeks of xenophobia.

My parents come from two countries as far apart as it's possible to be on this planet. They met when they had no common language, religion or culture. I myself married someone from a different country than my two countries of origin. We know lots of people like us. Our kids are *very* mixed

What do you have against people of other nationalities that you imply they are second best?!?

WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?

You misinterpreted my OP. I did not imply that foreigners are less desirable, it’s physically going to another country to date that would make things harder. I view dating a foreign born person living in the US the same as dating a natural born citizen.

NP and that sounds like a giant PITA. Logistically how do you handle this? Move over there for a year? Pay for her to move here? How does everyone work during the dating period if you are there or she is here? Not to mention you probably won't meet the right one right off the bat so you're investing probably six months time before you find someone you're sure you would get serious with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've known multiple people who married a foreign spouse. It's true that none of them could do any better in America so they found someone abroad. I generally think these people are being taken advantage of by the foreign spouse for the US citizen benefits. If both were Americans to begin with, they wouldn't be together.

I've been taken advantage of for $ by American women too, and if the success rate isn't going to be any worse dating internationally then I might as well go for it if the women are hotter. Look at all the threads here made by women looking for wealthy men (not that I am wealthy just early 30s making UMC salary).

You could first try therapy to figure out why you are choosing romantic partners who financially abuse you. Otherwise, it’s not much different from a woman saying she’ll date foreign men even if they smack her around because American men beat her up too and at least the foreign men will be hotter.

Or maybe, you secretly like being exploited for money. Maybe contracting with a financial domme is the right situation for you.

The reason why is right in the OP—he wants to date out of his league in terms of looks.

But lots of people are dating outside of their league in looks w/o being financially exploited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's say someone is not attractive enough to get an American partner who they find attractive but can get a less desirable American partner. Should that person settle for the American or find a foreign spouse who is better looking? I used to think international dating was always a bad idea but I recently discovered that statistically these marriages are just as successful as marriages between two Americans. It's also common knowledge that being a citizen of the US or other first world country gives you an advantage in dating internationally. Why not leverage this to get the most desirable spouse? I'm not saying looks should be the only factor, but physical attraction is important.

For you or for your wife? Because that Colombian cutie doesn’t find you hot.

A coworker had a mail order bride from Russia a few years back. He was shocked—SHOCKED—she cheated on him and left him once she had been married long enough to convince immigration officials the marriage was legit.

OP, disregard most of these comments. Most educated people consider themselves to be worldly, but their experience consists of a yuppie tour in Cancun and binge watching 90 day fiance. BTW, there is no such thing as a Mail order bride.

OP, which countries are on your radar?