How to relate to MIL who lives in ivory tower
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Anonymous
| OP- this is not unique. There are a lot of people with relatives in that age group who are exactly the same. You don't need to educate her on anything. Just ignore her "implied judgment." |
Anonymous
| Your family gets 16k tax free from her a year and you are complaining? We get zero $, have given tens of thousands to support my MIL financially, drive her to the doctor and hospital multiple times a month, and have to deal with her constant anxious phone calls. Can we trade? Smh. You sound tone deaf. |
Anonymous
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None of my older female relatives worked for long, OP. Yet they all know how hard it was, and is, to juggle full-time jobs with raising children.
If you think your MIL doesn't understand, you mustn't allow yourself to get too frustrated. Perhaps she does get it, but doesn't feel you should be whining about it all the time. BTW - there is only learning loss if you didn't take measures yourself to stave it off. Ultimately your kids' education is your responsibility. I know it's hard - my oldest has SN and I've always had to teach him outside of school, even before Covid. |
Anonymous
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That’s not really what living in an ivory tower means.
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Anonymous
| I would start w cutting out the idea that she has a long and wonderful life ahead of her as it may allow you to be a little bit more compassionate and patient. It’s great that she’s healthy now but that can turn in a dime (and it will change soon regardless.) even if, against all odds, she’s a 95 year old miraculously from debility and pain in 20 years, at that point all of her peers will have died, most likely. Seniors can have wonderful meaningful lives but don’t act like being a 75 year old is a lark! |
Anonymous
| Someone who was extremely frugal did not have a cushy life. |
Anonymous
| Have you posted this before? This is another repeat. |
Anonymous
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Was this you OP posting this exact same complaint?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1075171.page |
Anonymous
| She gives you 16K a year and you want her to understand how hard your life is? Huh? |
Anonymous
| Let it go, OP. She will never get it. Just tell her times have changed and move on. |
Anonymous
It was worth 10 pages last time. OP is still seething with resentment. |
Anonymous
MIL just needs to GET IT. How can she drill it into her thick head? Life is hard, y'all. |
Anonymous
OP is a troll looking to stir up some anti-MIL hate. |
Anonymous
+1 What’s the point? Honestly. |
Anonymous
They should at least come up with new material. There was another repeat recently. Probably the same person posting these. |