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Less gender identity-focused private school recommendation for a non-religious family
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Anonymous
+1 RWNJ fearmongering |
Anonymous
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this is so messed up. are you worried that your child will magically switch genders? Also, looking for a place that is burning all books where there may be a trans character?
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Anonymous
Not OP but I will bite. Not every 6th or 7th grader is prepared to state or contemplate their gender identity. Love our non-Catholic all girl's school in so many ways, but have not loved my child being pushed to contemplate this at such a young age. Not sure if this is the concern that OP has, but my kid and some of her friends were very stressed by the "wellness classes" when they were in middle school. It's one thing to teach acceptance and completely another to ask them to write down how they identify. Not everyone is ready at the same age. |
Anonymous
Exactly. Same for me re: girls school. Thank you for your thoughts. I agree. It felt forced and too much for her. |
Anonymous
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OP is here.
You are quick to attribute my doubts (ok, fears) to propaganda, etc. Perhaps I am blind, but it does not seem to be the case. A barely watch/read/listen to any news, other than NPR and only looking at my own family, and what I feel might be best for it. I already have 2 kids who at the age of 16 and 17 decided that they are not girls any more, and now identify as non-binary. We are supportive of their choice, using the correct pronounces, etc... When we have sincere conversations of what led to their decision, I see a lot of confusion in their heads. They are very good at reciting the definitions that MCPS provides (and, of course, not just MCPS), but get confused when asked about how they are different from girls, other than they probably don't want the "traditional" women's life (which many girls/women don't, including their mom). I saw them wasting tons of time and emotion on fitting in with the new trend, and lots of effort to avoid to be associated with "boring cis-gender people" (their expression). To me, it seems that gender identity is a very personal thing, and not something that schools should be a part of. I also uncomfortable with the schools acting on the assumption that parents should be excluded from the conversation and commonly not acting in the best interest of their children. I learned that my kid has changed their name in the school system from the child, and the school never notified us when it happened. Maybe I am a dinosaur, and missing the obvious, but I don't see how a catholic school should be a place for my family - should not I (or my kids) have faith to be there? I have a very vague image of what a religiously affiliated school is like. |
Anonymous
There are LBGTQ+ kids in Catholic schools too. So OP is stuck with the evangelicals. |
Anonymous
Yup that plus homeschooling. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
Why should you be “stressed” when asked to identify yourself? Girl, boy, non binary? Does it take much “contemplation?” |
Anonymous
| My kid is in 1st and they read a book this week about a trans child because a child in their class was M last year and this year is F. It was to help them understand the name change. It took about 20 mins out of their day then they went back to their regular day. It’s fine and not scary OP. |
Anonymous
NP. If you were privy to the conversations of many middle schoolers in the past few years, you would know that this is all they think and talk about. It becomes a complete obsession. To us, it seems quite straightforward. To them, it is a massive, confusing rabbit hole, with all sorts of implications depending on which label one chooses to identify with. |
Anonymous
| According to the private schools forum, they have a lot more gender-questioning students than MCPS does. |
Anonymous
| When I was a kid it was race. Was I Indian? American? Indian American? Kids will have to sort out their identities. They’ll hone in on something |
Anonymous
You are very out of touch with how kids are reacting to and internalizing this issue. |
Anonymous
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Our private school leaned hard into the identity conversation during the pandemic and then again last year. They continued to teach math, science, English, history, of course, but pretty much all wellness and non academic activities were structured around some sort of identity—gender, sexuality—topic. It sounds (from what we hear from our friends with kids in public) that MCPS is increasingly headed in that same direction. Our private is a mix of largely liberal faculty and the families tend to be more on the conservative side (but not MAGA) so there was quite a bit of pushback on the identity focus, but it remains to be seen how things will play out this year.
For those posters saying this is something that’s mentioned once or twice, are you sure? We didn’t understand the extent of the curriculum and made assumptions based on what we thought was appropriate. Op, best of luck to you. We have a number of friends with kids (biological females identifying as non binary) and I do think schools have played a role in fanning the flames of this identity frenzy. Cis gender is so 2000…. |