In class with a kid we requested not to be with

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't possibly think a school is going to make classroom assignments based on which mom annoys which other mom. If the kids' behavior was age-appropriate, there's really no reason for the school to do anything different.

Nobody wants to be in a class with a difficult kid, but 20+ kids have to do it every year.

That’s not true. Nobody wants to deal with two kids who don’t get along. Usually a school will accommodate requests like these to avoid disruptions for the rest of the class.

You need to reread OP's post -- normal 5 year old horsing around. OP just can't handle the mom! Will that be disruptive to the rest of the class?

It said they didn’t get along. 5 year olds don’t usually have altercations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't possibly think a school is going to make classroom assignments based on which mom annoys which other mom. If the kids' behavior was age-appropriate, there's really no reason for the school to do anything different.

Nobody wants to be in a class with a difficult kid, but 20+ kids have to do it every year.

That’s not true. Nobody wants to deal with two kids who don’t get along. Usually a school will accommodate requests like these to avoid disruptions for the rest of the class.

You need to reread OP's post -- normal 5 year old horsing around. OP just can't handle the mom! Will that be disruptive to the rest of the class?

It said they didn’t get along. 5 year olds don’t usually have altercations.

In what world are you living in?

[Anonymous]

You can't request that your kid not be in a class because you don't like his mom. If that were the case, I'd be requesting my kid not be in class with half the grade!! You sound loony.

[Anonymous]

Why is it a big deal to ask to switch seats to somewhere else? Seems like a minor request

[Anonymous]

OP, this is funny. You will find as your child grows that you will meet many parents that annoy you. Just don't take her calls. If she wants to meet about their friendship, refer it too the teacher. And last, if none of that works - block her.

Honestly, my daughter had a friend that she did not get along with. Now as teens, it's her best friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can't possibly think a school is going to make classroom assignments based on which mom annoys which other mom. If the kids' behavior was age-appropriate, there's really no reason for the school to do anything different.

Nobody wants to be in a class with a difficult kid, but 20+ kids have to do it every year.

That’s not true. Nobody wants to deal with two kids who don’t get along. Usually a school will accommodate requests like these to avoid disruptions for the rest of the class.

You need to reread OP's post -- normal 5 year old horsing around. OP just can't handle the mom! Will that be disruptive to the rest of the class?

It said they didn’t get along. 5 year olds don’t usually have altercations.

Have you met any 5 year olds?

[Anonymous]

There's no way for you to not sound dramatic. You're being entirely dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son went to camp this summer and didn’t get along with this kid. Their altercations were normal 5 year old horsing around but the real issue for me was the mother who kept calling me and wanting to have meetings about their friendship. It didn’t end well and I requested to the school that they not be in class together this year to avoid any further todo. Then school started and not only are they in class together but they are seated next to one another. How do I alert the teacher without sounding dramatic? Objectively this kid historically has problems with others and mine doesn’t so I hate to bring it up and set the precedent that my kid is the problem. Seeing the mom everyday is also giving me so much anxiety.

Why do you see the mom daily? At drop off? Wouldn’t that happen regardless of whose class her kid was in? At this point, you need to work on managing your reaction since that’s the only thing you can control.

[Anonymous]

Do parents normally request meetings with other parents?

[Anonymous]

OP, these boys are actually friends. Try watching The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly for some assistance with spotting male friendships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Contact the school to see if there was a reason why they denied your request. It could be they simply overlooked it or they have reasons for sticking them together.

Just know that your child will be moved out of the class if they do honor your request not the other way around.

DId you make the request during the summer? That would have been too late for my kids' school which does teacher assignments at the end of the school year (apart from the new kids who enroll later). Anyway, flag it to the teacher if you haven't done so already and describe the history. And minimize contact with the mom. It should be fine.

[Anonymous]

Schools aren’t really paying attention to these kinds of requests for 5 year old incoming kindergartners. When you get to 4th and 5th grades and have documented bullying issues that is one thing, but 5 year olds who are “frenemies”? Give me a break. The school personnel are already rolling their eyes at your request, don’t make it worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's no way for you to not sound dramatic. You're being entirely dramatic.

+1 OP the best you can hope for is that the admin filed your request in the trash so the teacher doesn't already know she has one dramatic parent. If they have problems in class the teacher can handle it. If she can't and you get a call you can say something like "Yeah Josh and Caleb had some disagreements at camp and I thought they might do better in different classes, but I understand you can't accommodate every request." But it will likely not come to that. More likely they'll be BFF and you'll have to deal with the awkwardness with Caleb's mom FOREVER.

[Anonymous]

The good news is now the teacher will be in the middle. You dot have to have any meetings or discussions with the mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't request that your kid not be in a class because you don't like his mom. If that were the case, I'd be requesting my kid not be in class with half the grade!! You sound loony.

She sounds horrible.