Feeling kind of hurt but also paranoid

[Anonymous]

WTF? He's not allowed to see his parents without you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would be worried that she is going to give him bad news like that she has cancer or something. My first thought would not be that it had something to do with me.

That's a good point and could be true but like I said after all these years and time together I know she considers me a part of his family and I don't think she would leave me out as her FDIL of something like that because I'm sure she knows my fiance would tell me and she would know news like this would effect me as well given that we are close. I highly doubt that's the case. IF we werent close I would be more inclined to agree.

You’re overthinking it. Sometimes parents just need to talk to their kid one-on-one.

Related, does your fiancé truly never get to see his mom by himself? You make it sound like it’s a really big deal that he would see his mom on his own.

Interesting choice of word by saying does fiance "get " to see his mom by himself. He isn't a child. At the end of the day if he chooses to see his mom alone or not that is on him as a grown man not on me. But anyways yes he does see his mom alone but not very often because naturally we visit family together usually. Because shocker my fiance wants his future wife with him when visiting family and friends.

I think a lot of people are missing the point that it isn't about the fact that he is seeing his mom alone as I have stated in a response above that he has seen his mom alone before it's more that his mom has never outright requested it and there was no context given. I thought his mom and I were close and she saw me as family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she has cancer and wants to tell him in private. Why do you automatically think it’s about you?

Again given she sees me as part of the family and we are close why wouldn't she tells us something this big together? She does realize this is news naturally someone would share with their future spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be worried that she is going to give him bad news like that she has cancer or something. My first thought would not be that it had something to do with me.

That's a good point and could be true but like I said after all these years and time together I know she considers me a part of his family and I don't think she would leave me out as her FDIL of something like that because I'm sure she knows my fiance would tell me and she would know news like this would effect me as well given that we are close. I highly doubt that's the case. IF we werent close I would be more inclined to agree.

You’re overthinking it. Sometimes parents just need to talk to their kid one-on-one.

Related, does your fiancé truly never get to see his mom by himself? You make it sound like it’s a really big deal that he would see his mom on his own.

Interesting choice of word by saying does fiance "get " to see his mom by himself. He isn't a child. At the end of the day if he chooses to see his mom alone or not that is on him as a grown man not on me. But anyways yes he does see his mom alone but not very often because naturally we visit family together usually. Because shocker my fiance wants his future wife with him when visiting family and friends.

I think a lot of people are missing the point that it isn't about the fact that he is seeing his mom alone as I have stated in a response above that he has seen his mom alone before it's more that his mom has never outright requested it and there was no context given. I thought his mom and I were close and she saw me as family.

Lady- this isn’t about you!! Everything is not about YOU!

[Anonymous]

It's just the usual troll, folks. Posted many times already.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she has cancer and wants to tell him in private. Why do you automatically think it’s about you?

Again given she sees me as part of the family and we are close why wouldn't she tells us something this big together? She does realize this is news naturally someone would share with their future spouse?

Being part of a family has nothing to do with someone wanting to talk to someone else in private. Do you include your fiancé on every conversation you have with every friend and family member? Please get some help. You have some unhealthy boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did your fiancé say when you brought this up? He has to think you are crazy, right?

He said he thought it was an odd request given that his mom has literally never requested something like that before and she gave no context. He said he is going to call her later to ask if everything is ok and why suddenly after all this time she is requesting this. My family/close friends this it's odd too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be worried that she is going to give him bad news like that she has cancer or something. My first thought would not be that it had something to do with me.

That's a good point and could be true but like I said after all these years and time together I know she considers me a part of his family and I don't think she would leave me out as her FDIL of something like that because I'm sure she knows my fiance would tell me and she would know news like this would effect me as well given that we are close. I highly doubt that's the case. IF we werent close I would be more inclined to agree.

You’re overthinking it. Sometimes parents just need to talk to their kid one-on-one.

Related, does your fiancé truly never get to see his mom by himself? You make it sound like it’s a really big deal that he would see his mom on his own.

Interesting choice of word by saying does fiance "get " to see his mom by himself. He isn't a child. At the end of the day if he chooses to see his mom alone or not that is on him as a grown man not on me. But anyways yes he does see his mom alone but not very often because naturally we visit family together usually. Because shocker my fiance wants his future wife with him when visiting family and friends.

I think a lot of people are missing the point that it isn't about the fact that he is seeing his mom alone as I have stated in a response above that he has seen his mom alone before it's more that his mom has never outright requested it and there was no context given. I thought his mom and I were close and she saw me as family.

NO, YOU ARE MISSING THE POINT! Read the bolded. You have spun one simple request into this narrative that you are no longer family and no longer close. ALL FROM ONE REQUEST TO STOP BY???? WTH??? Just stop, OP. Stop.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What did your fiancé say when you brought this up? He has to think you are crazy, right?

He said he thought it was an odd request given that his mom has literally never requested something like that before and she gave no context. He said he is going to call her later to ask if everything is ok and why suddenly after all this time she is requesting this. My family/close friends this it's odd too.

Did you talk to them privately about this or with your fiancé attached at your hip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she has cancer and wants to tell him in private. Why do you automatically think it’s about you?

Again given she sees me as part of the family and we are close why wouldn't she tells us something this big together? She does realize this is news naturally someone would share with their future spouse?

Being part of a family has nothing to do with someone wanting to talk to someone else in private. Do you include your fiancé on every conversation you have with every friend and family member? Please get some help. You have some unhealthy boundaries.

I guess I just get weird with other people asking to see my fiance alone. I do totally get what you're saying tho. I am going to check myself and realize it's not about me and she isn't saying anything bad about me. It's simply just a mother wanting alone time with her son.

[Anonymous]

I’m going with OP being 25 or younger. Who’s with me?

[Anonymous]

oh you know what I have a big birthday coming up in a couple months maybe my fiance and/or his mom is trying to plan something special for me and my fiance is saying that to throw me off so he can plan and surprise me??

[Anonymous]

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Your fiancé!!

[Anonymous]

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Your fiancé!!

[Anonymous]

It's going to be my 25th birthday