Boyfriend: “no one’s in love”, while laughing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give him a break, he can't say he loves you for the first time right in front of his friend who was teasing him about it.

Why don’t you think it’s because he isn’t in love with her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Give him a break, he can't say he loves you for the first time right in front of his friend who was teasing him about it.

Why don’t you think it’s because he isn’t in love with her?

DP but because OP said they are "crazy about each other" and were having a terrific date other than that. It's the one "off" note, it was introduced by the other guy, and there's no real reason to blow up a relationship over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give him a break, he can't say he loves you for the first time right in front of his friend who was teasing him about it.

This

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That would bug me too OP. You have history, and are older, and the idea that someone would laugh that off at that stage is a bad sign IMO.

+1. On the chance that he just got caught off guard and handled it horribly, I would talk to him about it immediately and find out where you stand. No dancing around, just tell him this bothered you and find out how he feels about you and where he sees this relationship going. I'm surprised you didn't bring it up as soon as you left his friend's place.

How is it a bad sign? He’s obviously into her and he hasn’t told her loved her yet I think he may have been put in an awkward position. Who wants to let their partner know that they’re in love so publicly for the first time like that?

I think this is why you have a conversation. I see the above as plausible, but I could also see it being a red flag. How he deals with a follow up is the real tell.

But if I had a relationship with someone that really spanned 5 years and that I thought had the potential to be serious this would bother me.

[Anonymous]

Give it 3 months and ask about it then
If anything concerns you then, or is a clear sign before then, break-up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That would bug me too OP. You have history, and are older, and the idea that someone would laugh that off at that stage is a bad sign IMO.

+1. On the chance that he just got caught off guard and handled it horribly, I would talk to him about it immediately and find out where you stand. No dancing around, just tell him this bothered you and find out how he feels about you and where he sees this relationship going. I'm surprised you didn't bring it up as soon as you left his friend's place.

How is it a bad sign? He’s obviously into her and he hasn’t told her loved her yet I think he may have been put in an awkward position. Who wants to let their partner know that they’re in love so publicly for the first time like that?

I think this is why you have a conversation. I see the above as plausible, but I could also see it being a red flag. How he deals with a follow up is the real tell.

But if I had a relationship with someone that really spanned 5 years and that I thought had the potential to be serious this would bother me.

Where are you getting 5 years? They briefly dated, broke up, and hadn’t seen each other in years until now. I wouldn’t consider that spanning over years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give him a break, he can't say he loves you for the first time right in front of his friend who was teasing him about it.

Why don’t you think it’s because he isn’t in love with her?

DP but because OP said they are "crazy about each other" and were having a terrific date other than that. It's the one "off" note, it was introduced by the other guy, and there's no real reason to blow up a relationship over it.

DP,

This plus his body language based on what OP wrote. Stoping mid kiss to look at her and give her praises? Embracing her in a loving way? Sounds like love to me. There’s a reason why it was enough for his friend to think it and say it looked like he was in love.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That would bug me too OP. You have history, and are older, and the idea that someone would laugh that off at that stage is a bad sign IMO.

+1. On the chance that he just got caught off guard and handled it horribly, I would talk to him about it immediately and find out where you stand. No dancing around, just tell him this bothered you and find out how he feels about you and where he sees this relationship going. I'm surprised you didn't bring it up as soon as you left his friend's place.

How is it a bad sign? He’s obviously into her and he hasn’t told her loved her yet I think he may have been put in an awkward position. Who wants to let their partner know that they’re in love so publicly for the first time like that?

I think this is why you have a conversation. I see the above as plausible, but I could also see it being a red flag. How he deals with a follow up is the real tell.

But if I had a relationship with someone that really spanned 5 years and that I thought had the potential to be serious this would bother me.

Where are you getting 5 years? They briefly dated, broke up, and hadn’t seen each other in years until now. I wouldn’t consider that spanning over years.

I would assume they have had some type of casual contact through the five years. But regardless, there is a difference between a brand new relationship and a relationship that was intense before and has been rekindled. You are not starting from zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give him a break, he can't say he loves you for the first time right in front of his friend who was teasing him about it.

Why don’t you think it’s because he isn’t in love with her?

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Give him a break, he can't say he loves you for the first time right in front of his friend who was teasing him about it.

Why don’t you think it’s because he isn’t in love with her?

No

I asked why

[Anonymous]

Listen, if he's not the kind of guy who you can say, 'hey I know I'm being silly but that hurt my feelings, what did that mean?' then he's not the guy you should eventually marry.

A guy who cares will not freak out at a girl who expresses that in a non-attack-y way.

[Anonymous]

I think it was an awkward moment handled awkwardly. I would leave it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it was an awkward moment handled awkwardly. I would leave it.

Yea, that indicates he doesn’t feel strongly about OP.

[Anonymous]

OP. He’s not that into you. If he was, and was just embarrassed, he would have laughed and said nothing. But that’s not what happened. Better to know now. Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

His friend put him in an awkward position but he could have responded 100 different ways that don’t include ‘no one’s in love.’ He could have laughed, said, ‘She’s great.’ Etc

I wouldn’t bring it up. Wait and see