DD’s team mates think DH is creepy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
What? Your DD is 12 and on a varsity team?

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Anonymous wrote:
So your DH is staring at girls older than your child?

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Anonymous wrote:
I can't tell whether your DH is actually acting creepy or the girls are overly sensitive because it's a man looking at the practice.

Me neither. The girls are overly sensitive. The comment was made at a tournament, not at practice. But he does go to practice too.

[Anonymous]

Honestly OP who knows if he’s a pedophile.

That’s weird. I would keep your eye on sleepovers.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, parents attending practice at that age is just not done. To the extent that the other girls didn’t even think that the man could be one of the fathers. Because people don’t go to practices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are any parents attending practices? That's super strange.

Because DD has never been in a varsity team before. She’s 12.

Many parents come to watch group lessons and private lessons. For fun.

What? Your DD is 12 and on a varsity team? I'm not understanding. So your DH is staring at girls older than your child?
I can't tell whether your DH is actually acting creepy or the girls are overly sensitive because it's a man looking at the practice. Would they react the same if it was you (a female) watching or if thy were boys?

The dads at DS's team practice stare at all the boys but no one seems to think it's weird.

It IS weird! I wish they wouldn't stare/comment/shout instruction. Let the coaches coach and don't hover over my kid with your crap analysis

[Anonymous]

OP, where do you live? Is this a district that has varsity and JV teams for middle schools? Because in Virginia, only 8th graders are allowed to play high school sports, and then only on the JV squad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The girls are overly sensitive.

No, they are normally sensitive for teen girls. Your DH is making them feel uncomfortable, and he needs to be reminded of that until he stops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I told him about the comments. He was like “don’t they know who I’m. I was bringing water and food at the last tournament.” Then he said maybe it’s better if the sports is a girl thing meaning that DD and I should attend sporting events.

I told him to stop coming early to car line months ago.

Variety, as in high school? Your daughter is 12? Or some travel team thing?

Anyway, most of the situations have been resolved since he has agreed to cut back on his presence. If he is only at the car line, not a big deal. He was probably not good with girls when he was a teen. Now as andult he still doesn't know how to act around them and they are picking up on it.

[Anonymous]

There’s always one creeper, as long as it’s just awkward creepy don’t worry about it. Let him be, the kids will get to know him. Maybe host a get together with parents and kids so they know he’s just a father and not a creeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, where do you live? Is this a district that has varsity and JV teams for middle schools? Because in Virginia, only 8th graders are allowed to play high school sports, and then only on the JV squad.

I live in a southeastern state. They do make exceptions for some 7th graders here to be on a varsity team. Anyway, it doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The girls are overly sensitive.

No, they are normally sensitive for teen girls. Your DH is making them feel uncomfortable, and he needs to be reminded of that until he stops.

Why is this even a question? A grown man is making multiple teenage girls feel uncomfortable (not to mention creating an extremely awkward situation for his own daughter) at a venue which is specifically intended for them and where he has no need to be. He needs to just stay away full stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you, or your DD, tell him what the other girls said. Time for some direct language. "You look like a creep. Stop it. One comment from on of those girls can ruin your life, your daughter's, and our family. Do not go to pick up line early. Do not go to practices. Stop it "

Also parents don't need to go to sport practices.

I have a husband and son with Asperger's. Neither would hurt a fly. Indeed, my son has been the bullied one at school. I absolutely let them know when their behavior is out of the range of normal, not because I'm afraid they would hurt others, but because I'm afraid others might find them weird and misinterpret their behavior (creepy has not come up, because they tend to ignore people). And OP's case is a perfect example.

OP, talk to your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, where do you live? Is this a district that has varsity and JV teams for middle schools? Because in Virginia, only 8th graders are allowed to play high school sports, and then only on the JV squad.

I live in a southeastern state. They do make exceptions for some 7th graders here to be on a varsity team. Anyway, it doesn’t matter.

Your daughter being so young and out of the norm for a variety team only makes her parents seem weirder to 17 year old girls that think they are mature & grown up. Doing things like watching practices is the type of thing that makes your family stand out. It is an awkward position, your kid isn't even a teenager and is with kids so much older. Your spouse hasn't had any practice dealing with teens yet. He went right from tween stuff to practically legal adults.

[Anonymous]

Can a dad jump in here and tell us what he thinks OP’s husband is thinking when he’s watching those girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you, or your DD, tell him what the other girls said. Time for some direct language. "You look like a creep. Stop it. One comment from on of those girls can ruin your life, your daughter's, and our family. Do not go to pick up line early. Do not go to practices. Stop it "

Also parents don't need to go to sport practices.

This. I know someone whose life was ruined by a false accusation - their business went under, lost all their friends, etc before the accuser admitted she made it all up because she was mad about something. Don't let this happen to your husband.

[Anonymous]

“Creepy” is the most overused and annoying word. These little darlings are the first to make a revealing Tick Tock video and invite 5000 comments from boys and men from all over yet God forbid that an adult looks at them.